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To expect a clean loo?

63 replies

Choochi · 17/10/2021 10:56

Mums' of boys, not sure how to ask this with out upsetting many, do your boys leave the toilet seat with urine droplets/ splashes everytime they've used the loo? I have no boys, just girls in the house. We have a play date with neighbours' kids, couple of boys and a girl, all under 8. I'm dreading it. When they've spent half a day here, the loo smells like a public urinal by the end of the day. Bathmats need changing once they've visited and not to mention the toilet seat 🤢 How do you deal with it.
YABU all boys are messy when it comes to a wee accept it and clean up
YNBU no not many do that, you are unlucky with your visitors

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ChristmasFluff · 17/10/2021 11:55

I made my son sit down until his aim improved - and after standing up for a while, he's decided he much prefers to sit down anyway.

Standing up to urinate is a fairly cultural concept apparently, so no reason why not.

SirGawain · 17/10/2021 11:55

@Choochi

But do they actually find it hard to sit down like girls do is what I wonder. They are kids, I know but i really wish I had some way of asking in an inoffensive way before they've visited the loo!
I don't find it easy to completely empty my (male) bladder when seated.
Gemma2019 · 17/10/2021 11:58

My DS and DH always sit down to wee when they are at home or at other people's houses. We don't live in a public toilet and there's no reason for them to stand up and aim into the toilet instead of taking an extra minute to sit down and leave it more hygienic for everyone.

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Choochi · 17/10/2021 12:51

Well, it's not my child, only visiting kids! I have had visiting 8 and 9 year olds splashing about too. I would have probably insisted my boy sit down, just as I suppose they have to, when they are going for a poo!

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mafted · 17/10/2021 13:10

I don't know what the answer is with other people's children.
At a birthday party one of DD's friends somehow managed to do a full poo on our toilet seat Confused

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Choochi · 17/10/2021 13:43

@mafted

I don't know what the answer is with other people's children. At a birthday party one of DD's friends somehow managed to do a full poo on our toilet seat Confused
Oh no! It must have been a terrible accident poor you and the poor kid.
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Coronado2 · 17/10/2021 13:47

I'm obviously unlucky with my dds, however many times I tell them, I am constantly finding wee on the seat, sometimes the floor. Nothing makes me so mad as having to clean the toilet after someone else. I wish I only had the issue when boys visited!

LaBellina · 17/10/2021 13:51

DH sits down on the toilet and when DS is potty trained, he will be told to do the same thing. Recently we had a tradesman doing some work in the home who left the toilet seat up. DH has explained to him that’s impolite in our home.

Gemma2019 · 17/10/2021 14:00

Visiting kids are the worst - my DD had a sleepover a couple of years ago and after the kids had left there was an awful smell in her room and we couldn't work out where it was coming from. We found out that one of the girls had somehow shat on one of DD's fake Mongolian fur cushions and thrown it behind the wardrobe. Very bizarre for a child of nearly 10.

Another child came for a sleepover age 6 and was wearing those night time pull ups but somehow slept with his leg in the air and managed to wee up the wall beside the bed.

There's something extra disgusting about clearing up bodily fluids from other people's kids.

ChuddleyCannons · 17/10/2021 14:23

@Gemma2019 oh good god

PartyStory · 17/10/2021 14:33

It’s not just a boy problem. I hate using aeroplane toilets for this reason and wish they had separate male and female ones. So many men will come out before you, look you in the eye, only for you to find that they (and however many men before them) pissed all over the seat and didn’t clean it up, forcing the woman passenger who eventually comes to clean it up with only tissues available. Boke.

Tootsweets84 · 17/10/2021 14:56

All 3 of my son's (aged 5-13) plus DP sit down to pee. I can't think of a single reason they would need to stand up to use a standard toilet. We also insist on wiping up any accidents and closing the lid before flushing. As a result my bathroom generally smells clean. Guests are another matter and probably why I rarely invite anyone over! 😂

Tootsweets84 · 17/10/2021 14:58

*sons -autocorrect always seems to get that one wrong

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Choochi · 17/10/2021 15:07

@Gemma2019 how disgusting! And can't agree enough that cleaning other's bodily fluids is extremely disgusting, especially older kids. I would happily change a soiled nappy on baby(for a friend) if needed.

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PearlclutchersInc · 17/10/2021 15:17

Some of my male colleagues (professional, well educated etc etc) are grubby oiks.

Incapable of peeing in a straight line and cleaning up behind them.

worriedatthemoment · 17/10/2021 16:11

Tbf many ladies public toilets are pretty disgusting

Yummymummy2020 · 17/10/2021 16:20

God this would drive me mad. The target thing sounds great. I would also be removing my bath mats to be honest if they are pissing on them and have it so the place is easy to mop out after they go home😂

Shmithecat2 · 17/10/2021 16:25

I've no idea why people are so desperate to teach their sons to pee standing up as the go to method. Both DH and DS sit down to pee. No mess, no fuss, no smell, no unnecessary cleaning. They both stand when they have to, but if there's a nice toilet seat to sit on, why stand?

Allywill · 17/10/2021 16:27

My husband always sits to wee on a toilet and stands at a urinal. Toilets are designed to be sat on - only urinals are designed for standing wees. I have girls but if I had boys I would teach them to use toilets sitting down.

2bazookas · 17/10/2021 17:04

ALL boys. They were taught to put the seat up, and to flush.

The consequence of making a mess was being sent back to clean it up PLUS "while you're there. just do the basin/bath").

So much easier just to leave the lav clean in the first place.

UseTheRakeDear · 17/10/2021 17:12

I taught my sons to sit for any toilet visit. The only time they stood was at school at the urinals.

Therefore no pee on the seat ever. They were also taught to check the toilet after using it, is is still as clean as they found it? If no they cleaned it.

Nanny0gg · 17/10/2021 17:34

@Choochi

But do they actually find it hard to sit down like girls do is what I wonder. They are kids, I know but i really wish I had some way of asking in an inoffensive way before they've visited the loo!
No. Many boys/men sit down
MinnieMountain · 17/10/2021 17:41

Our 7yo pees standing up, despite DH encouraging him to sit down like he does. The few times he’s made a mess he’s been told to clean it up himself.

SapatSea · 17/10/2021 17:42

IME some children act up at other people's houses and see how far they can push things (e.g. trashing rooms, being messy with food, rudeness, pilfering).They do stuff they'd never dream of doing or saying in their own home.

WhatAShilohPitt · 17/10/2021 17:44

Go into the toilet straight after any of them use it, and if there’s wipeable mess ask them to go back in and clean up. Might be embarrassing but if their parents aren’t teaching them this then why should you mop up their piss?