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AIBU?

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to not want to give this woman a lift home once a month...

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WeThreeQueens · 09/12/2007 18:53

Actually, I think I probably am, but anyway...

I am a SAHM, and once a month I get to go out in the evening to my bookclub, which I LOVE (I do of course go out on other occasions too, but this is my one regular evening out which I would not miss for the world).
Anyway, I love everything about it, from getting ready to go out, to the actual meeting and chatting and eating...but what I also really like is the driving there and back ON MY OWN. I like having my music on really loud, singing along at the top of my voice. It's something I just don't really get to do in the course of my usual days / weeks etc.
Anyway, recently we had a very nice new woman join our group and it turns out she lives about 2 mins away from me... so as we were chatting, she asked me if I could give her a lift home (she'd come by train), and I of course said yes.
Now she expects a lift every month, and there is of course no reason for me not to give her one, in fact it would be stupid not to as I literally have to drive past her house...BUT.... I am really beginning to resent her taking my "me-drive-time" away, which feels so pathetic and petty
It's got to the point where I'm hoping she won't be able to make it to a meeting.
Am I just a horrible person? It's certainly not very festive is it?
Oh, I abu, I know it....but what can I do? [pathetic anguished wail]

OP posts:
andfranksentthis · 10/12/2007 21:37

Next time...when you get to the bookclub...before it starts...tell her very nicely that you won't be able to give her a lift THAT night, as you have some thinking to do and it is the only time in the day you have to yourself...would she mind very much and you are so sorry and all that cringing stuff. Offer to take her to the station. Then next time, ask her does she still
need a lift or will she be ok if you go home on your own...

It freaks me out when people take other people for granted!!

berolina · 10/12/2007 21:44

YABU. But I would be just the same and know I was also BU.

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