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Car park issue

34 replies

Annoyed32 · 15/10/2021 20:59

I’m so annoyed and upset. Someone bashed into my parked car at work and obviously left no note just ran away. It was either a colleague or a parent (I work in a school). I’ve asked school to check CCTV but just my luck the camera doesn’t cover that particular area. DH will be home soon and I’m worried telling him.

What inconsiderate idiots to just bash someone’s car and run away. There’s no way they wouldn’t have noticed as it must have made a big noise as the dent is huge and paint has all come off that side.

I have tendency to get upset and spiral and as I suffer from anxiety I get very distressed. Dreading DH coming hone. Shall I speak to him in morning or leave it till he notices?

OP posts:
LubaLuca · 15/10/2021 21:01

This is why you have insurance. Don't worry about it, these things happen when you're a driver.

Original poster
Annoyed32 · 15/10/2021 21:01

@LubaLuca will insurance cover it even tho I don’t know the car reg of person who hit me?

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Username7521 · 15/10/2021 21:03

Oh OP. I’m so sorry. That’s less than ideal. But that’s why we have insurance.

This is a pretty strong reaction to telling your husband. Is everything ok at home?

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Annoyed32 · 15/10/2021 21:05

@Username7521 thank you. No nothing going on at home he’s just like me so gets overly anxious and things are a bit tight money wise right now so this is going to add extra pressure to him and cause more stress. We’re very similar as in we overthink everything snd worry!

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GoWalkabout · 15/10/2021 21:05

Your dh is a dick if he makes you feel scared to tell him a crime was committed against you. No wonder you are anxious. The car can be fixed.

LubaLuca · 15/10/2021 21:06

[quote Annoyed32]@LubaLuca will insurance cover it even tho I don’t know the car reg of person who hit me?[/quote]
Yes, you pay your excess and they'll repair it.

Shade17 · 15/10/2021 21:06

will insurance cover it even tho I don’t know the car reg of person who hit me?

Yours will, you will have to pay your excess and lose some NCB though. There really are some scumbags around.

Fluffypastelslippers · 15/10/2021 21:06

I have tendency to get upset and spiral and as I suffer from anxiety I get very distressed.

Dreading DH coming hone. Shall I speak to him in morning or leave it till he notices?

It's worrying that you feel you can't tell your husband tbh, maybe that's where the bulk of your anxiety is coming from.

CocaColaTruck1 · 15/10/2021 21:08

Just tell him, it's an accident (a shit accident) it happens.
Go through your insurance it's what you pay for

AmandaHoldensLips · 15/10/2021 21:10

I feel for you. Some bastard drove into the front of my car while I was parked up yesterday and did the same thing - buggered off sharpish with no note.

MrsRobbieHart · 15/10/2021 21:11

DH will be home soon and I’m worried telling him.

Er, why?

Elieza · 15/10/2021 21:26

That sucks. How small is the car park ie how many cars would you recognise? Check out whose car doesn’t show up next week (as it will be away for major repairs for at least a fortnight).

Look out for any cars which say something along the lines of Courtesy Vehicle or something.

I hope you get the person who did it.

GoldChick · 15/10/2021 21:28

You shouldn't be worried about telling him. That's not right.

GoldChick · 15/10/2021 21:29

He should be sympathetic and concerned about you.

MrsRobbieHart · 15/10/2021 21:30

@GoldChick

He should be sympathetic and concerned about you.
It was the car that was bumped, not OP. No sympathy or concern is required. It’s paint and metal.
Lessofallthisunpleasantness · 15/10/2021 21:33

Just leave the dent in, it adds character. Cars are outdoor things a few parking dints are fine.

GoldChick · 15/10/2021 21:36

@MrsRobbieHart it's her car, she is upset and anxious and they didn't leave a note. So yes I would expect sympathy and perhaps concern if I were really upset and stressed about it.

PrtScn · 15/10/2021 21:43

Over the years my cars have been hit in total 5 times (and my house reversed into twice!). Only once has someone owned up (knocked my wing mirror off) and that was because there were witnesses. People are arseholes.
Either leave the damage or claim on your insurance. Hopefully Karma will catch up with them.

MrsRobbieHart · 15/10/2021 21:45

[quote GoldChick]@MrsRobbieHart it's her car, she is upset and anxious and they didn't leave a note. So yes I would expect sympathy and perhaps concern if I were really upset and stressed about it.[/quote]
Really? If I was anxious about that I’d expect my partner to help me see that it was inured paint and metal.

MrsRobbieHart · 15/10/2021 21:45

insured

GoldChick · 15/10/2021 21:47

Well yes and that.

PheasantsNest · 15/10/2021 21:51

The car sounds like the least of your issues. You shouldn't be afraid to tell your husband anything.

arrangeyourface · 15/10/2021 21:56

How much damage has actually been done? If it’s just a scrape and/or small dent or paint chip, you should be able to get a mobile repairer pretty easily and it won’t cost a lot - £50-£150 depending on the damage in my experience.

If it’s more serious like a door, wing, corner, etc then you might need a more specialist repair but again, it isn’t necessarily hugely expensive and you don’t automatically have to go through your insurance.

DH is extremely precious about his cars and I had two no fault accidents in his car within a year. He was upset, but not with me, only at the situation. I think some posters have jumped on your nervousness about telling him and assumed it means he’s abusive. I was also worried about telling DH his car was damaged but only because I knew he’d be upset and worry about me.

BlackeyedSusan · 15/10/2021 22:08

you never know, another parent may tell. (we, as in several parents who saw, reported someone reversing into a teacher's car. )

Fluffypastelslippers · 15/10/2021 22:08

Check out whose car doesn’t show up next week (as it will be away for major repairs for at least a fortnight).

Major repairs for at least a fortnight Grin