To ask your relationship boundaries with regard to cheating?

[CornishGem1975]

After reading the Only Fans thread I've been thinking about this.

What is a hard no for you? What would constitute cheating in your mind?Paying for Only Fans? Watching free porn? Going to a strip club? Having a lap dance or a private dance?

I used to be a bit more liberal a few years back and wouldn't have cared less had my other half gone to a strip club but the thought of my DP going on his stag and going to a strip club in a few weeks actually makes me feel a bit sick in my mouth. Not sure if I think it's cheating or it's just completely grim!

Genuinely curious as to where other people sit with this?

Cheating to me is anything other than free porn and anything that involves personal interaction. So only fans, strip clubs, lap dances, prostitution obviously, sexting with strangers on apps.

@yesterdayisinthepast

For me watching porn or going to a strip club isn't cheating. My boyfriend and I would go a strip club together if we ever visited America, we'd both probably have a private dance too!

However paying for onlyfans or anything else is where I draw the line. I don't see it as cheating but I'd just think of him as a loser lol. Sending money to a particular girl or speaking to any girls is where it starts to become cheating for me. Along with emotional affairs, typical cheating like speaking to someone, going on dates, having sex etc

Interesting you think someone is a loser for using onlyfans but you get lap dances yourself. Both are so grim. You should be ashamed of yourself as a woman for exploiting others.

I presume my husband watches porn occasionally but wouldn’t be happy with OnlyFans - I think this is because it would be more personal, especially if he was requesting specific content.

Strip clubs are a hard no for me.

We are pretty strong though and have similar boundaries so it’s never come up.

Any intimate interaction with someone else would be a hard no from me. Only fans included

Dh used to visit strip clubs when he was young but I don't think he'd enjoy it now. He definitely wouldn't waste money on a private dance now

@LocalHobo

the dancer obviously took a fancy to him blush and offered (and by then sounds of it, instigated) some 'freebies' and asked him to go home with her

She didn't.
Funny how many men tell of similar experiences.

Oh I totally believe him. He was shit scared and said he got out of there as fast as he could - he thinks there was more to it...like maybe trying to extract money out of him in some way? He was only about 20 at the time and it was in another country.