Dogs and visits

[Milkshake54]

Am I being unreasonable for saying I don’t want animals in my house?

Me and my DP are not animal people, but family members are getting upset that we have said we don’t want their pets visiting our house. Been made to feel quite guilty about it.

Animal owners - do you get upset when your furry (or non furry) friends aren’t allowed to visit other people’s homes?

AIBU?

My DH family turn up with their bloody nightmare dogs. Just walked in with the dog and it cocked its leg up the sitting room wall. We have a dog but I don’t take her to other peoples houses.

No. I would never assume I could bring my dog to someone's house (although it's lovely when they offer!), but it might mean we then can't come to visit because we can't often get reliable dog care.

No way would I want anybody's pet in my home. My pet owning friends would never bring them.

I don’t blame you. My dog is a bit of a dickhead so sometimes I want even want him in MY house

I would NEVER leave a dog on the floor with a crawling baby. It might bite. It certainly isn't "good for it".

Don't forget the live crickets

I've got a massive, very strong dog and there's no way I'd visit with him in tow
I've chosen to have him in my home, I fully respect those that don't want him in theirs and I wouldn't take the slightest bit of offense at them asking me not to visit with him.
To be honest I've never taken him to other people's houses anyway, even if I had a smaller dog I wouldn't
I think it's pretty rude and obnoxious to expect other people to accommodate your animal in their home if they're uncomfortable doing so and have made their views clear

I would never assume and always check beforehand, if I was visiting a local person who didn't like dogs I would leave at home. Tbh Though I do feel a little disappointed with fil as he never allowed us in his house with ddog who he loved and would kiss and hug (at our house) and say I love you (he's just very particular about his house). we haven't been in his immaculate house for over 4 years. Fil lived 1.5 hours away from us so we would not leave dog for a day trip and had no other local friends. Fil didn't like to drive so my dc missed out on their only alive gp in that country, We've since relocated to be near my family where ddog is welcome. I feel fil missed out , which he now also thinks. Ddog is part of our family and my only dc sees ddog as her extra limb so they're hugely important. Ddog can obviously be left at home for brief periods but not for more than 4 hours.

Some of the dog behaviour described on this thread is shocking! We get frustrated with one of our dogs because he barks whenever the phone rings, but peeing on living room walls!!!!

I would always check, because it's just wrong for guests to bring unexpected extra guests whether human, canine, lizardly

And yes it's wrong to expect to take your dog everywhere unless it's an assistance dog (beautifully behaved when on duty, so really unlikely to cause problems, and someone would have to be really quite obtuse to invite someone who relies on a guide dog and then exclude the dog)

You don’t need to justify it. I love my dog but I don’t take him to peoples houses unless I’ve checked it out with them first. Not everyone wants my stinky furball on their sofa! In my case family love him so it’s all good.