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I wish I could escape the UK...

244 replies

Itsokay2020 · 12/10/2021 13:45

Just that really! I used to love this country, but I feel really deflated today.

I read the headlines and it’s so depressing, I go for a walk and I just see overgrown hedgerows and weeds everywhere. Footpaths are becoming impossible to negotiate due to overgrowth. My energy supplier went bust, the new supplier are dragging their heals and have blocked our attempt to switch to a better rate with a new supplier. I can sense growing frustration amongst the ordinary folk in the street, it’s a melting pot. Shelves are more bare, made worse by panic headlines in the media. The cost of living is increasing, yet wages are stagnant. The government seems unable to get a grip on all that’s wrong - where is all the money going? Our local fields are being built upon - our beautiful village of 2,000 dwellings will soon increase to 3,000 plus. This is repeated across our part of East Anglia. Selfishly, I wonder where I’ll walk the dog, whilst also knowing that my DC won’t be able to live locally due to the cost of housing. Don’t get me started on GP’s and the lack of appointments.

For the first time, I feel fear about the future. Am considering escaping the South and moving North to reduce our cost of living and maybe enjoy a slower pace. Am I just having a down day or do you feel it too?

Will a new government make it better?

OP posts:
mikedyson · 13/10/2021 17:07

‘Hating’ refugees is a very simplistic term to cover all the legitimate questions people have about who’s going to feed , house and integrate them.
Especially since people wait years for a council house in areas with employment. And the places with lots of housing don’t have many jobs.
Exactly - and the generality of French people aren't exactly welcoming them with open arms either.

woodhill · 13/10/2021 18:33

@mikedyson

‘Hating’ refugees is a very simplistic term to cover all the legitimate questions people have about who’s going to feed , house and integrate them. Especially since people wait years for a council house in areas with employment. And the places with lots of housing don’t have many jobs. Exactly - and the generality of French people aren't exactly welcoming them with open arms either.
Also hate is a very strong word

Perhaps too much immigration in the past has affected the housing situation and stagnated wages.

MatildaIThink · 13/10/2021 18:42

[quote mikedyson]@MatildaIThink

You linked to a 2016 ONS report.

You seem to be very confused about what is actually direct and indirect taxation.

Here are a few extracts from the 2021 version of that ONS data -

Over the 10-year period leading up to FYE 2020, the richest one-fifth of people's average household income after taxes, benefits and price inflation increased by an average of 0.9% per year compared with the poorest fifth, which decreased by an average of 0.3% per year.

Indirect taxes made the largest contribution (4.3 percentage points) to income inequality over the last 10 years; as a proportion of disposable income, the poorest fifth of people paid 32.9% on indirect taxes compared with 11.4% for the richest fifth of people in FYE 2020.

The amount of indirect taxes paid as a proportion of spending was similar, although the poorest fifth of people still paid a higher proportion (18.7%) than the richest fifth (15.8%) in FYE 2020.

You contention that the poorest 2/3 need to pay more (presumably income) tax (with attendant complaint about the burden for the better off) doesn't bear examination. The income tax threshold is only part of the story - and that 5+ years out of date report you linked to considers the value of things like free education and the NHS in the calculation of who is a "net contributor". Your crude claims without qualification don't bear scrutiny.[/quote]
I am aware of the differences between direct and indirect taxation, but I have neither the time, nor the will to write an entire white paper in response to a post on here. I linked to the 2016 ONS report because it was the easiest to find from a quick Google, but it is not dissimilar to the 2021 report.

You are also cherry picking as you ignore the impact of benefits as negative taxation.

The bottom two thirds of earners (I very much doubt that someone in at in the middle of the earnings spectrum can be regarded as part of the "poorest") have very low taxation in the UK. You say it "doesn't bear examination", but what you actually mean is "I don't agree". In any other country in the the EU they would pay considerably more tax and that taxation funds better services from which all benefit.

Factors like education and NHS also need to be factored in, they have to be funded and unless one is an immigrant or was privately schooled we all took advantage of the education system in the UK. The current UK tax system is not working, as exemplified by not having enough money to fund our already substandard public services, countries such as Norway or Germany have higher taxes, much better services and, at least pre-Covid, balanced budgets. They do this not by a narrowly tax base, targeting only high earners, but by a system where everyone, across the whole earning spectrum pays more tax. Higher earners already have the fifth highest income taxation in the EU, sure that could go a bit higher, but the reason our tax take is so much lower as a percentage of GDP is not because a few hundred thousand top earners pay 47% instead of 49%, it is because ten million on £20k per year 13.5% in income taxation instead of 35% income taxation.

BigWoollyJumpers · 14/10/2021 10:08

@Bagamoyo1

Whenever I read these threads, I always wonder why people risk their lives to get to the UK (when they could stay in France or Germany) if it's such an awful place to be. Can anyone answer this for me?
I will try to keep this as general as possible to avoid identification. However, from what I hear from the horses mouth, is that having fled their country several years ago, and having lived in Germany, Denmark and the Netherlands, having come to the UK, they are happiest here. Less racism, more welcoming, more opportunity. These are well educated people, with good jobs, not economic refugees, so a particular demographic, but nevertheless, now feel settled and welcomed here.
FreeBritnee · 14/10/2021 10:31

I heard many Afghan refugees are already wanting to go home as they can’t stand being stuck in hotel rooms in this country.

PassTheButter · 14/10/2021 12:44

@BigWoollyJumpers in terms of racism and openness to other cultures the U.K. is the best - among other EU countries. People may be racist etc in certain areas here but the point is that it’s not worse. You can always find food and people from your country in major U.K. cities. Or order ingredients for ethnic foods 😂
Both the U.K. and France have historically had a lot of migration from former colonies. But many migrants feel repressed by French secularism.

Peggytheredhen · 14/10/2021 13:05

Yabu moaning about hedgerows, there are rules about when they can be cut for the good of wildlife

OP dismissed me saying this earlier.

Surrey Council site says:

When we cut hedges
We usually start cutting our hedges in October or November. However, we may sometimes start in September as there are limited contractors who can carry out hedge cutting and they need sufficient time to complete the work across all the areas of Surrey.

We never cut during the bird nesting season (from mid-March to the end of July).

IpanemaPeaHen · 14/10/2021 14:12

Matilda a small but vocal part of the Conservative party have been anti Europe for literally decades! Cameron called the referendum to shut them up but it didn’t work out like that did it….

Farage himself banged on about a Norway model for Brexit. I know several leavers who wanted a softer Brexit.

Theresa May and her red lines was to please the ERG. Bonkers but here we are up shit creek.

mustlovegin · 14/10/2021 15:06

I could be wrong but I’m from a different country, have lived here 11 years and man the English seem to have a huge sense of superiority about pretty much everything. They may tear down their own but still maintain they’re better than Europe, Asia, America, Middle East, Africa, etc. truth is the country has been built on colonization and once it’s stopped importing talent it’s sunk even further. There are some redeeming qualities but certainly not the best place to be

Have you considered moving somewhere you may find more suitable?

Geamhradh · 14/10/2021 15:10

@mustlovegin

I could be wrong but I’m from a different country, have lived here 11 years and man the English seem to have a huge sense of superiority about pretty much everything. They may tear down their own but still maintain they’re better than Europe, Asia, America, Middle East, Africa, etc. truth is the country has been built on colonization and once it’s stopped importing talent it’s sunk even further. There are some redeeming qualities but certainly not the best place to be

Have you considered moving somewhere you may find more suitable?

Rather proving the poster's point.
mustlovegin · 14/10/2021 15:28

Rather proving the poster's point

Should I 'be kind' to someone who is vilifying me for 'colonization' while making use and benefiting hugely from everything they say they despise? Are you serious?

derxa · 14/10/2021 16:57

Not cutting hedgerows, OP ? Really?

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2021 17:03

I can sense growing frustration amongst the ordinary folk in the street, it’s a melting pot.

Can you? And what do you mean by melting pot

mustlovegin · 14/10/2021 17:06

what do you mean by melting pot

Grin
mustlovegin · 14/10/2021 17:08

what do you mean by melting pot

Google translate error

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2021 17:12

Ha it’s some kind of script, getting more er poetic by the day.

I’m imagining the ordinary folk increasingly outraged by the pavement hedgerows eyeing each other up angrily

KitchenKrisis · 14/10/2021 17:16

We've had a global pandemic. There are or were boats unable to Dock in ports on California.

Coffeepants · 14/10/2021 18:15

Lol if you don’t like it, get out

Coffeepants · 14/10/2021 18:16

Gosh I feel so welcome here, especially being brown and an immigrant, I may just never leave!

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