AIBU to...

[iammarleysmummy]

...expect my husband to do housework? I am a little manic so I actually can't cognicise this. I work freelance and bring in about £400 a month which goes on household stuff including food, storage, and home education stuff (5 yo is home ed)

He works 70+ hour weeks (overnights, home for kids) and brings in around 1500/month.

We both provide respite for someone which pays the rent.

I am responsible for all the home education, laundry, dishes, meals (he will make himself food on the mealtimes I don't make anything due to work), all cleaning.

my entire day is interspersed with housework. When he's off he does nothing for the home, he only rests, but he does pay all bills and buy us takeaways and clothes, and he will give me money when he goes out.

I think I'm being unreasonable expecting more from him, no?

@Couldhavebeenme3

I got the income incorrect. He doesn't tell me how much he brings home, he's mentioned 1500 once, he probably did a normal week. You're right it's way off lol

OP that's not a LOL, that's incredible to believe you don't know how much he earns, bordering (along with his other domestic expectations) on potential financial abuse.

£10 per hour for a 70 hour week, after a generous 25% deduction, is still £2300 a month take-home. Your money pays for food, storage, household stuff and HE resources, and you don't have to worry about paying rent, and you're left to feel guilty that he gives you some money when HE goes out? WTF??

Is there any chance of your dc going into mainstream school so you can increase your own income and start getting those ducks in order? Him leaving his plate on the side is the very least of your problems...

He earns £10 an hour and my calculation was ridiculous. I paid no attention to that, I was only trying to illustrate he earns the most.

He's working all hours god sends to support all of you. He could have had a much more relaxed life with his mother so on balance he just needs to clean up after himself and everything else is otherwise fine.

@VladmirsPoutine

He's working all hours god sends to support all of you. He could have had a much more relaxed life with his mother so on balance he just needs to clean up after himself and everything else is otherwise fine.

Yes to be honest, he's an amazing man, he just doesn't see mess and I don't just see it, I feel like it's crawling on me. I wouldn't say OCD but it's part of the mania I believe I have in general.