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AIBU?

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AIBU to hate snogging?

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Drivingslowtosavefuel · 11/10/2021 22:31

I used to love full on snogging with tongues when I was a teenager and young adult. Now it just grosses me out and I just don’t need or want it. Not helped by having a blocked nose most of the year due to hay fever in summer and almost continuous coughs and colds caught from DC in winter. I would rather just get straight to the sex part.

There is no issue with my DP and I have felt like this for probably 10 years now, with various different previous partners. I have good sex with almost certain orgasm every time, and just don’t need or want snogging as part of foreplay, or snogging at any other time.

Is it just me? Is it a problem? I read a magazine article a few years ago in Stylist magazine that argued that snogging is critical for relationship survival….do you think this is true?

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justabigdisco · 11/10/2021 22:34

I don’t like it either

PrivateParty · 12/10/2021 20:59

Nah I don't like it either.

legalseagull · 12/10/2021 21:01

Yea it's gross. I love passionate kissing, but not the face sucking tonguing part

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/10/2021 21:03

I love it. But you’re in good company here. Seen several threads saying the same thing. Horses for courses.

Onestep2021 · 12/10/2021 21:04

I don’t like it either
Doesn’t help my partner always has a cold, feels pretty gross for her too.

Agadorsparticus · 12/10/2021 21:05

I like it but briefly. I get bored with it for more than 10 seconds.

SisterAgatha · 12/10/2021 21:06

Love it.

Passthecake30 · 12/10/2021 21:06

I’ve definitely gone off it in recent years, blocked nose due to hayfever and coughs in the winter, I feel like I can’t breathe.

Nidan2Sandan · 12/10/2021 21:08

Yeah, I dont like it. Was fun when I was younger, but not now. Just has a bit of an ick factor for me these days

CandidaAlbicans2 · 12/10/2021 21:09

On the whole I find it gross because most men I've snogged use way too much tongue way too early in the kissing. Can't stand tongue action like a wet towel in a washing machine! 🤪🤢 Done well it can be hot though

OverTheRubicon · 12/10/2021 21:12

Yanbu. One guy, once was good at it - I didn't even find him very attractive, just a really really good kisser.

Other than that, have always found it pretty gross, even when in the mood and really fancying the person.

PinkiOcelot · 12/10/2021 21:14

Like you, I used to love it. Certainly don’t now. Just not interested.
I don’t think it’s true about it being crucial for relationship survival. Well it certainly hasn’t affected my relationship anyway.

LostforWords2021 · 12/10/2021 21:14

Sounds like I married a really good kisser, must have been all those frogs I kissed before meeting him

hotmeatymilk · 12/10/2021 21:17

I’m like you, OP. I used to love it: a good snog went straight to my nethers. Now I’m actively repulsed by it, but still dearly love and like to have sex with DP. Just not ever with his tongue in my mouth, yeugh. Maybe familiarity breeds contempt (of tongue)?

RobertaFirmino · 12/10/2021 21:17

It's ok. When it's described as 'snogging' though it gives me the ick. Such a revolting word.

CrystalBuddha · 12/10/2021 21:26

To each their own, I absolutely love a good snog-fest but can equally understand that everyone feels different.

expatmigrant · 12/10/2021 21:28

Each to their own...I love a good snog

Ledition · 12/10/2021 21:31

Really?! I don't think I could have good sex without it - gets me in the mood like nothing else

VienneseWhirligig · 12/10/2021 21:33

I've never really enjoyed it, I've always felt really self conscious. Kissing without tongues is fine, and essential during sex, though. Luckily my late DH shared my aversion to French kissing so we were compatible . Quite sad to think my kissing days are over but relieved about the snogging.

SylvanasWindrunner · 12/10/2021 21:33

Yeah I used to love it too but I've gone off it in my older age. I liked being kissed in other places, but full-on snogging makes me feel a bit peculiar now, I don't know why! DH is very good with his tongue - I just prefer it elsewhere on my body than in my mouth nowadays

Definitely not crucial to relationship success though - it's just one small part of overall intimacy, isn't it? There will be stuff you enjoy your DH doing that others might not.

Hadenough21 · 12/10/2021 21:43

I’m the same, I used to like it when I was younger but even then it totally depended on the guy. I’ve only really had one partner who was amazing at it, but sadly we weren’t compatible in other ways. I haven’t been interested in proper snogging for years now, still enjoy sex with dh and it’s good but I feel a bit weird about kissing. It almost feels too intimate for me. I know that sounds strange, but it’s how I feel.

Noseyaf · 12/10/2021 21:47

So glad I came across this thread! I can't stand it either. Met a new guy whose hygiene was decent but ALWAYS has a dry booger about to fall out and one time it fell on my face

SirenSays · 12/10/2021 21:50

Blergh there's no such thing as a good kiss to me. I don't need someone's spit in my mouth to have a good relationship or sex life. No date has ever complained that I don't want to play tonsil tennis 😂

TheGoogleMum · 12/10/2021 21:54

I used to like it but have gone off it tbh. Same DH still love him but I could do without snogging. No idea why nothing has really changed

FindingMeno · 12/10/2021 21:57

Don't like snogging at all.

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