Anyone else got a friend who talks about her perfect teens a lot?

[billybuntynomate]

I have DC the exact same age as my Dfriend. Since the start of lockdown 1 she has become fairly unbearable. Her DC (now 16 and 14), were very into home learning doing it all day, did Joe Wicks every morning. This has just carried on and on through revising for GCSES, extra curricular stuff, volunteer for everything at school- they are just the perfect teenagers.
I am jealous because mine love nothing more than a lie in at the weekends, do their school work eventually but after a bit of a nag, would not partake in extra curricular stuff (apart from the 16 year old does do a sport).
This weekend finished me off because she’s now talking about university applications and everything her dd is doing and how much extra work she is doing that she doesn’t need to. I actually felt depressed after I spoke to her and the fact my dc are so much less keen. She says things like ‘dd won’t mind me telling you this but she’s got an A for her homework and her teacher said…’ They’re lovely kids and I should be really pleased for her but I always end up comparing mine unfavourably whenever we have a conversation. Does anyone else get this?

I have a friend like that too. Her family seems so perfect. They brought a house and thinking to buy a bigger one. They both got new cars, her child is going to the best school in her area. The kid is clever, nothing to say but is a bit dragging down when she seems so perfect and her child is doing so great and her husband is so amazing and her house is so spotless… my situation is a bit the opposite, and she knows I’m going through struggles. Sometimes I like to think she’s just trying to be helpful by telling those things, then she says not to worry as my life will get better too. We have two different life experiences, so sometimes I feel like she doesn’t understands me and why I struggle when everything seems so easy for her. Then I behave like I have to be liked by her and get angry at myself even more.

one day I was telling her that I’m worried about my DD as she’s shy and quiet and been told from school that the doesn’t really ask questions nor puts hand up on group activities. She only has a small group of friends and she only plays with them. Then I said to my DD she’ll get an injection for speaking as I tried everything to help her get out of her shell.
next week when I met my friend again she said she tried telling her son about getting an injection for good behaviour as he’s sometimes naughty but her DS said “there’s no such thing mum”. Her face was saying proudness but at the same time shaming my DD for believing me while her DS was so bright.