So petty. So so petty. (Me, I mean)

[PuertoPollensa]

I know I am being extremely petty and this happened a while ago which makes it even more petty to think about it now but here goes:

My DHs family were clubbing together to buy a present for his sister. Spa day experience or something, I can't remember.
We were at his brother's house as we discussed it. Present were me, DH, FIL, BIL 1, BIL 2 and BIL 2's girlfriend, now wife.
So I said "right, the cost is £200 divided by the 6 of us is £35 each (or whatever it was)"

I was not being bossy, I just happened to be the one that looked it up.
BIL 2 said (snapped) " hang on, my GF shouldn't have to chip in".
I said " sorry, yes, right you are, total each is £200 divided by 5 = £40 each".
We agreed to transfer the money to whoever was putting the thing on their credit card.
Then the birthday card went around. And BIL 2's GF signed it!!
I said nothing but AIBU to think if you are making a point of not chipping in, then your name shouldn't go on the card the voucher will be in?!

Yes very petty to think as you do. I wouldn't have thought that this was worth a post on here, or any debate.

I think your BIL was right and the cost should've been split four ways - you shouldn't have paid double.

You should have split by households - but the effect would have been the same as splitting to include him and GF. He;d have to pay the entire household share and would have complained that it's only him.
So YANBU he was being a CF.

Petty but small things reveal character IMO.

Also everyone else thinks this petty but as the default organiser of one too many office cards....

Surely splitting per household could mean other members of a family being even more aggrieved. Eg a single relative living on one income pays a third of the price and could be one of 10 on a card. I think then they would have even more reason to be aggrieved. So many of you seem to think this is instantly fair but that only works if the households are equivocal.

Sorry I think you are the mug as I just would have done contribution per family.,

Ha, you think everyone has forgotten about it, but what if GF/SIL still thinks 'oh I never should have signed that card if I didn't contribute! What must Puerto think of me?'
I dare you to ask her! Or maybe not!

Agree, annoying and cheeky.

In future just split costs between siblings only.

that's actually funny in a CF-ish sort of way

@Reallybadidea

I think it's a bit odd that you and your DH paid a share each tbh. In both my and DH's families, it would be one contribution per family unit. But we'd probably both sign the card because we're a couple.

I agree with this

We'd have split it per family, as I wouldn't spend double on a present just because it was rom me and DH.

Jeez

I think you messed up by speaking.
You should have waited to see how everyone wanted to split the bill.
£200 For 6 £35. £70 Your family share.
£200 For 5 £40. £80. Your family share.
£200 For 4 £50 pet family....

How long ago WAS this that you still aren't over it though?

This year, OK

A few years back, and you shouldn't still be giving it headspace.

You were right on principle but you rolled over at the time and backed down so...

You should have stuck up for yourself more.

Hey! May I ask? Who is DH, FIL, BIL? What Abbreviations are these for?

@ChristinaKulikova

Hey! May I ask? Who is DH, FIL, BIL? What Abbreviations are these for?

DH - dear husband / darling husband FIL - father in law BIL - brother in law