Sod that! If he's fussy he can make his own bloody food!
CAN he cook? May seem a stupid question but when I first met/married my ex he really couldn't do anything but very basics and really lacked confidence too. Largely his parents fault as they'd made sure his older siblings could cook but didn't do so with him. He left home to join army at 17 and didn't have to cook in army as he just ate in the mess which was cheap and easy.
He was also very fussy eater (again his parents fault long story) and I quickly got fed up having the same few meals/items on rotation.
So I worked with him to gradually expand his diet and get him cooking more often and more confidently. Within a few months he really enjoyed cooking and was eating a much wider diet
But he still even before I "taught" him could have sorted himself eg a freezer to oven meal or pasta and a jar of sauce that's not difficult
Mat leave isn't to be his servant it's to recover from birth and to adjust to new motherhood and care for a newborn which is pretty bloody demanding!
Frankly it shocks me how LAZY the current generation of new dads are!
My ex would get up in the night when I did to feed dd and would eg get me a drink, change dds nappy if needed while I sorted myself after feeding (plus I found being woken tended to make me need the flipping loo every time!), he'd do the morning routine with dd as he was up early to exercise and get ready for work anyway, he used dd like a free weight  she loved this thought it was great fun, when he got in from work he'd either take over with dd or he'd get dinner at least started, get a Laundry on etc.
My dad and grandads who frankly weren't the most enlightened men STILL also supported their wives in terms of baby and childcare, admittedly mostly with the older dc, ill admit neither grandad could cook to save their lives! (If they were still alive my grandparents would be into their 100's now so not unusual for their generation) BUT they would "pick up the slack" elsewhere so my grans/mum weren't doing EVERYTHING.
New dads these days seem to think all they're required to do is have a job of some description (not even always full time) and do the very occasional Bath time/bed time but basically precious little else until the kids are old enough they can Disney dad and eg kick a ball about!
But then new mums are letting them away with this shit is part of the problem.
It really is important from the very start of new parenthood to establish that you are BOTH the child's parents BOTH responsible for supporting your family/home
What is going on that the younger generation of men are SO LAZY?!
I'm not just basing this off mn I'm very much seeing it in real life too with friends/family who are new mums and the fathers are basically fucking useless!
I despair I really do
@Shirleyphallus I don't get it either I would NEVER have put up with this kinda crap even in my younger much less assertive days.
seriously selfish. I remember my DH leaving me lunch that he would make the night before so I didn't have to make my own!
Yep my ex used to make me up a big jug of squash each morning (I'm terrible for not drinking enough, I'd lost a lot of blood with the birth and needed to stay properly hydrated for bf) and lay out my breakfast ready except no milk in the cereal (so it didn't go soggy) but he'd ready my cuppa for me to make tea and pour me out my choice of cereal in a bowl.
He totally "got" that I wasn't sat on my arse doing sod all while on mat leave. That I was recovering from major surgery/traumatic birth and caring for a newborn who'd also been poorly. But I think he'd have been the same even if the birth had gone much better.
That's what a decent, kind and caring partner does!
My dad wasn't a cook really he had a few basic things he could make but I certainly remember when he was still working he'd always take mum a cuppa in bed each morning, as he was the first one up.
And WHY you're also making his lunch I do not know! Surely he's capable of making himself a sandwich or heating up some soup etc!?
Best way for him to get more confident is to cook MORE not less! I started off cooking with ex when he was first "learning" and gradually did less and less as he grew more confident.
He bakes and all sorts now! (Not that I'm getting the benefit 
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If I go out I cook something for him and he’ll put it into the microwave…..
Oh for crying out loud that's ridiculous! As earlier in my post surely he can make himself something really simple?
He doesn’t enjoy this kind of food. He’s a meat and two veg kind of guy.
Then it is pure fussiness and entitled attitude and that needs nipped in the bud now!
My ex was fussy because he'd gone through a super fussy phase as a young child, partly due to illness and instead of working to overcome that his parents just gave in to it. When I met him there was less than 10 items he'd eat and that included ketchup! We did a LOT of work to get him to overcome those issues, he wouldn't even eat herbs and spices really at this stage.
I feel like since having DD I’m not cared for anymore.
That's a much bigger issue you need a serious talk with him about, or things will only get worse. Unacceptable way to treat you as his partner in life and mother of his child.