AIBU? Never a lender or borrower be right? But I lent my BFFs 25yr old DD money 3 months ago to buy her little girls bday gifts and other items, understanding being she'd pay it back when she got paid a couple of weeks later. I've been fobbed off, lied to, ignored and even received a text telling me a big bill has gone out so she can't pay while I've sat listening to her on video call to her Mum bragging about having spent £30 on dog toys the day before and just ordered an expensive custom made dog bowl. She didn't know i heard.
I've asked BFF to get the money. I've sent my bank statement showing how desperate it's left me, I've been promised again, it'll be done, and again it hasn't.
Today I find out she has been out shopping for the day, has decorated her bathroom, has had her eyelashes done, is going on holiday on Monday but according to BFF hasn't got the money to pay me back.
Then tonight a post on her fb saying " I will go without to make sure my child has everything she needs " made me mad. Go without what? It's me going without! I'm the one who has lived on toast all week and now...
I am getting nowhere with BFF as she won't/ can't stand up to her. AIBU if I phone BFFs ex hubby and ask for his help? I am risking my friendship of many years! Is money really more important than friendship? No, it really isn't, and before you point out the obvious that BFF isn't helping, she has stood by me when many many people shut the door in my face so her friendship is worth more than money, but feeding my myself, my dogs (my kids are at uni) paying my bills, they aren't optional and I have nothing, and nowhere to turn, but she can have her takeaways, with her nice eyelashes, on her holiday!
Please give me your gentle but honest opinion, advice and POV. TIA. 🦀 xx