To not want sex with DH while he’s got Covid?

[JJ123456]

He’s on day four of self isolation and wanted to be intimate. I refused and have said he’s not taking my health seriously by risking spread of Covid to me. AIBU?

so don't?

It’s never unreasonable to say no to sex you don’t want. Does he make you feel unreasonable for doing so? Because then you’ve got bigger problems than potentially catching covid.

Of course YANBU. Why would you even have to ask the question?

Yanbu, you make the decision and he respects it.

Yanbu but in the same house you’re likely to get it anyway

Yanbu 🤢

You can say no to sex at any time for any reason. I probably wouldn’t want sex with DH if he had Covid, just like I don’t if he’s got a cold or any other illness.

@Shoxfordian

Yanbu but in the same house you’re likely to get it anyway

Not necessarily. None of us caught Covid from ds.

Your DH is an idiot, of course YANBU

YANBU! Obvs there is a risk you might get it anyway but whyyyy would you increase that risk if you don't need to?

He can't be feeling very ill then.

Of course YANBU.

YANBU

Are you seriously thinking you might possibly be being unreasonable or are you just having a moan? It doesn't matter to me just want to check you don't think you are ever obliged to have sex.

@RampantIvy

He can't be feeling very ill then.

Of course YANBU.

Plenty of people never have symptoms. My husband didn't it was only through work testing that it was picked up. We continued to be intimate and I never caught it but only do that if you want to, Covid or not

YANBU!!

There is nothing less attractive to me than a person with an infectious illness 🤢

@Shoxfordian

Yanbu but in the same house you’re likely to get it anyway

Not necessarily, my teenage grandson had it and nobody else in the family of 5 caught it.

A double vaccinated friend had it but his wife didn't.

Mine was isolating in a separate room when he had covid, I assumed that was still the advice? Don't see how it could be unreasonable.

@passionfruitpizza some people don't have separate rooms they're able to use for isolation, surely you realise that?

Yanbu. Yes there is a decent chance you will catch it anyway, but viral load does make a difference to how ill you are so keeping a distance is a good idea anyway.

But in any case...I'd be pissed off that he was not worried about me getting ill, and pissed off if he objected to me not wanting sex, for any reason

Of course it's up to you. If you don't want sex then that's up to you. If you're sleeping in the same bed though, then I don't think having sex would increase your risk by much.

I think I’d be pissing off somewhere else for the duration if I could.🤢

Eurghh!!! you are not being unreasonable AT ALL.

I've got covid and sex is the last thing in my mind.

YANBU. Covid or not you shouldn't have sex if you don't want to.

He's a dick.