To not want sex with DH while he’s got Covid?

[JJ123456]

He’s on day four of self isolation and wanted to be intimate. I refused and have said he’s not taking my health seriously by risking spread of Covid to me. AIBU?

If you're worried, just practice safe sex.....

Sounds like a sex pest of the worst variety.

[quote shouldistop]@passionfruitpizza some people don't have separate rooms they're able to use for isolation, surely you realise that? [/quote]
I think most people have a living room and a bedroom at least 🤔

@JizzyJane

If you're worried, just practice safe sex.....

The Terrence Higgins trust suggested sex while wearing face masks

www.tht.org.uk/news/how-have-sex-while-managing-risk-covid-19

Yanbu but in the same house you’re likely to get it anyway none of us got it from my partner. My boss helpfully suggested him isolating in the spare room. I had to remind him that with the pittance he pays me we have no spare room. Maybe his MN name is @passionfruitpizza?

OP Nobody is ever unreasonable for saying no to sex they don't want. I'm concerned you feel you may be. Are you feeling pressured?

[quote shouldistop]@passionfruitpizza some people don't have separate rooms they're able to use for isolation, surely you realise that? [/quote]
Well of course if bedroom/living room/kitchen/bathroom are one open space then you may have a point

When I had covid, my husband decamped to our spare room, I lived, worked and slept in main room, and kept my covid to myself.

@SickAndTiredAgain a quote from that page: Washing your hands for more than 20 seconds (or using hand sanitiser) before and after sex will also reduce the risk

Of course yanbu. You should never have sex if you don't want to. Anecdotally, OH had covid back in February. We made the decision that our 2 eldest would stay away in their rooms on the understanding that they had had little contact with OH and I and our baby were probably already infected. I even had sex. He was basically symptomless and none of us caught it. I was very surprised.

YANBU, but tbh, if you’re sharing living facilities, towels, soap, crockery etc, and sleeping in the same bed, I don’t think by you not having sex will massively reduce your chances of getting it.

And I caught it from my DH, not through sex but by just sharing a home with him.

Of course yanbu

That’s made me feel pretty (not envy) that he wants to while he’s got an infectious illness! Does he think you’re a wank sock?

Funny, when DH had covid he tried to avoid cuddling the children even though he, and them, were desperate to.... because he's a good man who didn't want the rest of us to get it! For both safety and practical reasons.

Not only can you say no to sex for any reason, I'd be questioning someone who is quite happy to pass a dangerous disease to his partner increasing the risk not just for her, but for anyone she comes into contact with.

Perfectly reasonable not to want sex. I think the covid bit’s bonkers though.

Is he unwell with it? Are you sleeping in the same bed?

If he's not unwell and you're sharing a bed I don't see the issue, apart from the obvious fact that you just don't want sex with him right now - which is more than enough of a reason to not have sex.

Has he told you you're being unreasonable?

If my partner had covid he'd be locked away in the spare room 24/7 for at least the first few days. Does your partner actually have a brain?

Assuming you don’t live in a studio flat then you should not be in the same room to have sex anyway. You are both being unreasonable.

@Shoxfordian

Yanbu but in the same house you’re likely to get it anyway

Not in my experience.

I wouldn't be having sex with someone with Covid 🤢

It's a bit grim.

[quote shouldistop]@passionfruitpizza some people don't have separate rooms they're able to use for isolation, surely you realise that? [/quote]
The advice was that if people had separate bathrooms and bedrooms, then they should isolate themselves. Of course, that's not an option for everyone.

Some people have caught covid from another person in the same household. Others have not. It's quite reasonable to want to socially distance from household members with covid. Besides, I wouldn't like someone to start coughing all over me during sex, covid or no covid.

A man could have one of his legs only hanging on by a bit of a little piece of skin and he'd still be up for sex.

Tell him no and not to entertain the thought again until he's got the all clear.

YABU if you are in close proximity, sharing a bed, kissing etc anyway. If you were going to get it, you would have got it.

Conversely my ex had it and I never got it despite being intimate the evening before a positive test was taken.

@HoppingPavlova

Sounds like a sex pest of the worst variety.

Wanting to have sex with your wife makes you a sex pest?

There's no hint of coercion or pressure involved in the brief information given in the OP.

Wanting to have sex with your wife makes you a sex pest?

If you are in self-isolation with the aim of not sharing something around then, yes, asking to get up close and personal is because not a pest. If the reason for up close and personal, overriding someone’s health and safety, is for sex then as for category of pest = sex pest.

If myself or DH ever got so much as a sniffle to indicate a cold or any other communicable symptoms I would jump in the spare bed. No way I’d share a bed let alone anything else. Huge zombie be of personal space with any illness or potential illness.

*Huge zone of personal space - no idea where the zombies came from??