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Not to share casino winnings with boyfriend?

33 replies

ratliiie · 04/10/2021 17:20

Me and my boyfriend went to the casino for food last night.
He didn't bet but I played £20 and I won just over £400 on the slots.
I didn't share with him as he wasn't playing ...aibu?
I'm starting to worry incase he expected it
We didn't agree anything
What would you have done?
We have been together 3 months.

OP posts:
fabulousathome · 04/10/2021 17:21

You could treat him to dinner?

Aquamarine1029 · 04/10/2021 17:22

Why on earth would you share the winnings with him? Confused

He could have gambled if he wanted to, he chose not to. Buy him a chocolate bar as a treat if you feel so inclined. I wouldn't, but I'd buy the chocolate for myself with my money.

Chickychoccyegg · 04/10/2021 17:26

No, I wouldn't share in those circumstances either, maybe treat him to dinner one night if you want, no need to though

Brollywasntneededafterall · 04/10/2021 17:26

Unless you live together keep it for yourself...
Living together I would prob buy something for the house!!
And if you have dc well spends on yourself are a real treat so would blast the lot!!

00100001 · 04/10/2021 17:27

...no. bit of possibly use some of it for something we could do together, like a day trip or theatre visit etc

TinnedPotatoesRock · 04/10/2021 17:30

3 months is barely a relationship so no I wouldn't share and I wouldn't feel obliged to treat him either

Fubitch · 04/10/2021 17:31

Definitely not! I'd treat him to a celebratory cocktail.

HollowTalk · 04/10/2021 17:32

Three months! No way. He didn't place a bet so he didn't win. You did place a bet and you did win and that money is yours. In fact if he even hints that he should have more than a drink or so out of it then I would dump him!

Ridingthegravytrain · 04/10/2021 17:32

I’m not a gambler. If my husband won money in a casino I wouldn’t expect him to share and we’ve been together 20yrs!

Blinkingheckythump · 04/10/2021 17:33

I'd probably have said about using some of it as a treat for you both

FunnyInjury · 04/10/2021 17:34

I'd probably take him.put for a night 'on me' but that's it after 3 months Smile

LaikO · 04/10/2021 17:36

You're not obliged to share, no. I would now, but we have kids and everything is joint so it's quite different. Back when we'd only known each other 3 months I'd have bought us dinner or similar.

OtherInfo · 04/10/2021 17:36

So he hasn't asked you to share, you're just wondering if you should?

I would definitely be treating whatever friends were with me to drinks and/or dinner but I wouldn't hand over actual cash.

Kuachui · 04/10/2021 17:37

No but I would have treated him to a dinner or drink

Original poster
ratliiie · 04/10/2021 17:38

I bought the drinks for the rest of the night and spent around £50

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coconutpie · 04/10/2021 17:38

Why would you think you have to share with him?!! You are only going out 3 months. They are your winnings. Not his.

SweeneyToddler · 04/10/2021 17:40

You’ve been with him for approximately 90 days.

At that stage, I’d have barely shared my bag of chips, let alone £400.

Aquamarine1029 · 04/10/2021 17:42

@ratliiie

I bought the drinks for the rest of the night and spent around £50
Don't you think that's more than enough? Why are you wanting to be such a mug for a guy you barely know?
TractorAndHeadphones · 04/10/2021 17:44

You don't owe him anything. £50 is overly generous.

SkankingMopoke · 04/10/2021 17:45

If won before dinner, I'd have treated him to the meal. If after dinner, I would have bought a round or two of cocktails. It wouldn't occur to me to share out the rest with my BF when in such a short relationship.

daisyjgrey · 04/10/2021 17:46

I've been with my DP for nearly 7 years. If we win on the boxing - granted it's never huge amounts but we've had £200/300 wins - we either share it if we have put a bet on each to cover either outcome, or if only one of us has put a bet on and it comes in we'll generally take the other one out for dinner or book a hotel, no obligation though, and no expectation to share.

3 months into a relationship and I'd have done what you did and thought no more about it.

itsallgoingpearshaped · 04/10/2021 17:57

3 month 'relationship'? hahahaha

I'd pay for celebratory drinks.

The money is yours entirely, and if he feels entitled to any of it, dump him.

Notaroadrunner · 04/10/2021 17:59

@ratliiie

I bought the drinks for the rest of the night and spent around £50
That's plenty. No need to share it.
XenoBitch · 04/10/2021 18:01

If he wanted a chance at winning some money, he could have played the slots himself.

TheQueef · 04/10/2021 18:01

@ratliiie

I bought the drinks for the rest of the night and spent around £50
That covers it.