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AIBU?

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Am I being to sensitive over friendships?

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mag2305 · 04/10/2021 00:34

I'm not sure if this is AIBU or more like am I being too sensitive?
So Covid happened and the various lock downs which separated people. I then became pregnant with our second child last October. I suffer with quite severe anxiety and struggled through the pregnancy. Didn't tell many people about the pregnancy at all through fear something might go wrong (previous traumatic birth) and sort of went into hiding for 10 months. Partly shielding because of covid too through last winter. Anyway since having my daughter in July, I'm trying really hard to start doing normal things again but I'm finding it hard to reconnect with some of my friends. I just don't know if it's the virus that's changed things or me being out of the picture for a while? Maybe I need to think about making new friends? I particularly feel for my son who's three as we had friends with children his age who we just haven't seen for ages but maybe too much time has now passed for it to be as it was.
This weekend for instance, we arranged a few different things for my son's birthday. 5 different sets of friends cancelled on us for various reasons. So we were actually left with my son not seeing other children on his birthday weekend which I really wanted for him. A couple of these friends actually had their own meet up (saw on fb) which they could of invited us along to instead but they didn't. My son missed out on seeing other children for so long (like many others) and I really want to start socialising again for his sake. He is a live wire and doesn't always like to conform so I do worry that some of my friends might not want him at their homes.

AIBU or just sensitive? Has anyone else experienced a change in friendships since covid?

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 04/10/2021 12:47

Their children are all so placid in comparison which just makes my son stand out that bit more. Oh dear! I need to find new friends with lively boys, lol

Hmm. If you have ever described your friends' children to them as "placid" by contrast to your "lively" DS, that could be more of an issue than his actual behaviour.

mag2305 · 04/10/2021 12:59

@TheYearOfSmallThings

Their children are all so placid in comparison which just makes my son stand out that bit more. Oh dear! I need to find new friends with lively boys, lol

Hmm. If you have ever described your friends' children to them as "placid" by contrast to your "lively" DS, that could be more of an issue than his actual behaviour.

Not at all. It's just my own observation. They're just more happy go lucky, easy going children in general.
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user1471457751 · 04/10/2021 14:25

I've been thinking about this and I do wonder if you are just overthinking this and creating a mountain out of a molehill.

To me it reads that you've just been unlucky this weekend, as out of the 5 who cancelled:

  • 2 were never coming as they had established plans (and so didn't actually cancel)
  • 2 have been ill
  • 1 made too many plans (which can be happen when you live a distance away and want to cram in seeing lots of people).

Really, you could maybe be annoyed with the last one but not with the other 4.

Fairyliz · 04/10/2021 15:01

I have a friend who appears to be withdrawing from me at the moment. I suspect she has mental health problems, but as she’s not told me anything it could just be that’s she’s fed up of me?
I do sometimes send a how you doing text but she rarely replies.
I feel a bit sad as I do like her, but I feel that by keep contacting her I might be annoying, so I’m giving up!

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