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Sister gave my 10 month old sips of non-alcoholic mojito

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Element4056 · 01/10/2021 20:07

I'm really not happy that my sister (21) has given my 10 month old DS sips of her non-alcoholic mojito. What's made me quite upset is that she said it's not the first time she's given him this! She makes it with syrup and a mojito can just for context on how sugary and sweet this is.
I've explained countless times that I only give him water or breastmilk for fluids throughout the day. I have never offered him fruit juice, cordial/squash or any other drinks loaded with sweetners. It's actually bothered me and makes me feel like my parenting is undermined when I have to justify my decision not to offer certain foods or drinks.
Some weeks ago she said I was going to give him issues with food as he grows up as I didn't want him having ice cream, especially just before his dinner.
Just feeling quite bothered by this.

OP posts:

DeeCeeCherry · 01/10/2021 23:16

I can't stand people who do that insistent controlling shit - if parent doesn't want child to have sweet drinks then dont give child a sweet drink. Thats it.

julieca · 01/10/2021 23:21

@DeeCeeCherry I do not think it is insistent controlling at all.
I have a friend who I always make excuses if she asks me to look after her DC as she has so many rules. Lifes too short.

saraclara · 01/10/2021 23:35

[quote saltinesandcoffeecups]@housewifeathome

We got wooden clothespins soaked in brandy or whiskey when we were teething.

OP I totally think you need to confront your sister and tell her she brought ruin and a life of cavities to your precious and that henceforth all things that go wrong shall be blamed on Mojitogate.

Or you could realize it’s the same child that eats dirt, licks public bathroom floors, and who you will one day be fishing out some random bit of chewing gum they’ve scraped off of a table and relax.

Your choice really[/quote]
Ha! I had brandy rubbed on my gums when I was teething too! Jeeeze, how did we all survive? Oh, and baby drinks made with rose hip syrup. That and sugary baby orange were provided on the NHS! I'm a size 10 with all my own teeth.

For goodness' sake, it was a sip. A sip of sweet drink. And you're saying..
I just feel so annoyed and worried for his baby teeth.
You're worried for his baby teeth after a couple if sips. You are going to have to unwind. As are all the posters saying that DSis should never be left with him again. Ridiculous. And btw I didn't give my DDs sugary stuff either. But I didn't police family members over sips of things or a spoon of something here and there.

saraclara · 01/10/2021 23:39

@DeeCeeCherry

I can't stand people who do that insistent controlling shit - if parent doesn't want child to have sweet drinks then dont give child a sweet drink. Thats it.

I can't stand parents who do that insistent controlling stuff and make relatives who love the child feel like shit because they offered them a teaspoon of ice cream.

Allergies apart, stressing family members out with a mass of rules and telling them off if they slip up is really unpleasant.

bellaweir · 02/10/2021 00:22

I hope you realise how much sugar fruit has in it.

DeeCeeCherry · 02/10/2021 00:36

@saraclara
You and whoever else tagged me -

If a parent doesnt want you to give their child something yet you insist then yeah, youre a control freak wanting to minimise her. Its really about being bitchy. The sky wont fall in if you can't give a child - who isn't yours anyway - anything you want them to have. If you're controlling though I guess it may seem that way.

No need to @ me, several people who agree with you on this thread you can talk to.

elenacampana · 02/10/2021 01:15

Mumsnet really is the silliest place in the world. Not allowing unsupervised contact with someone over a bit of sugary drink? 😂.

Threads like this are good for a giggle when you’re 35 weeks pregnant and can’t sleep.

user1473878824 · 02/10/2021 01:50

@Mum2jenny

I couldn’t get too upset about this, there are much worse things to feed a little one. Chili prawns for one!!

Chilli is worse than sugar? Okay.

Thecaramelcat · 02/10/2021 02:11

My one year old eats chilli prawns. Is this wrong? He’s my third child but the other two only eat beige food so it’s new to me. He also eats curry etc.

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Itsmeagainandagain · 02/10/2021 04:22

Wow, your sister is loading your child up with high sugary drinks, id be livid! Baby teeth coming through exposed to assualt of acidic sugary adult drinks, as well as causing small children to go full blown gaga, if your baby could walk youd be pulling him from the ceiling hed be that high. Theres a reason they have specially formulated baby fruit juices because they have zero sugar and no additives that cause kids to be high as a kite or rot their teeth

Put an end to it now for the sake of your sanity and your babys first teeth

HoppingPavlova · 02/10/2021 04:40

Meh, I couldn’t get upset about this. My mum used to give mine a bottle of weak milky tea with a generous serve of sugar as a treat. Based on the fact she gave it to us ‘you all loved it and it didn’t hurt you’. We were very strict with food so we classes it as entirely inappropriate. However, mum visited once to twice a year due to distance. In reality, while not ideal, this a couple of times a year at most would really make zero difference. A baby/young child’s teeth will not rot due to these limited occasions. It didn’t affect their life in any way as a blip to their otherwise perfect diet all other days of the year. It was not a hill I was prepared to die on or cause a fuss on her treasured visits. Sometimes it’s best to be rationale and be like Elsa.

BunsyGirl · 02/10/2021 04:56

My DS1 will only drink water. He’s 11. Absolutely refuses anything else and always has done. Guess what, his teeth are damaged…from the water! He has fluorosis and has already had one small cosmetic treatment from the dentist to try and repair some of the damage. It’s going to cost us a small fortune to fix properly once he turns 18. I’m not suggesting that I would have done anything differently. It is what it is…but I wouldn’t get worked up about the occasional sugary drink!

TheClaaaaaaaaw · 02/10/2021 05:06

Unclench! I really couldn't get worked up by this. Yes it's not ideal but he won't spontaneously combust

LavenderAskew · 02/10/2021 05:10

"I couldn’t get too upset about this, there are much worse things to feed a little one. Chili prawns for one!!"

Alcoholic mojito??

So youbdidnt read the thread OR the title? Ffs!

Several posters seem to be getting irked by this "Alcoholics mojito" reply. The lack of reading or comprehensive isn't from @Sometimeswinning. The post means alcoholic mojito is much worse to give a baby han non-alcoholic moijito.

corblimeygov · 02/10/2021 05:58

Won't be long before you child helps itself to what ever it finds on the floor to eat. Fluffy raisins, cat nibbles, pebbles or worms even. It's part of growing up.

I wouldn't be surprised if the child didn't see your sister drinking and just wanted some too. Did he/she not have a drink of her/his own to hand?

Biscuits1 · 02/10/2021 06:11

You do know that most non alcoholic beverages actually contain some alcohol. As long as its under 0.5% they can say its non-alcoholic. Non-alcoholic beverages are not aimed at children. I would be disgusted at someone giving this to a baby.

jamsandwich1 · 02/10/2021 06:18

I genuinely cannot imagine myself getting too worked up over this. It’s not like your DC has sugary stuff every day. It’s happened once or twice, it won’t become a habit!
Sometimes kids get offered treats by relatives. It’s not the end of the world!

Theartexhouse · 02/10/2021 06:20

I have a 10 month old, in such a small quantity this wouldn’t bother me.

We had a day out this week and he had a little bit of ice cream. Didn’t realise it was that bad. My eldest seems to have to turned out ok.

plk323 · 02/10/2021 07:03

I couldn't get too exercised about this on the odd occasion. Explain again that you'd rather she didn't but at least she's choosing to spend time with her nephew. I was quite strict with my first but my standards around food and drink plummeted with my second.

My similar moment was when my father in law was holding my one year old in one arm over a balcony on the first floor at the swimming pool. One wriggle and he could have fallen. I mentioned it was making me uncomfortable and he deliberately continued to do it. Aargh. And I made a big effort not to hover over and comment on things they did with my kids.

Zezet · 02/10/2021 07:06

I was with you on this one (mild annoyance, reasonable not to give baby anything like that) until I read your reaction, which seems wildly over the top - not let her supervise him again, worry about their teeth? You sound less reasonable than your sister, sorry.

aNewYorkerInLondon · 02/10/2021 07:28

Hi OP ~ while I do agree that giving sugary things to a young child is inappropriate, an individual transgression or two like this surely won't hurt your child; however, to me, the issue here really isn't the sugar drink, it's the demonstrated fact that you cannot trust your sister to respect the ground rules you have established. Just because I think something is "fine," never gives me the right to override a parent's wishes! You should not have to explain your reasons. No means no.

Autumngoldleaf · 02/10/2021 07:38

It's not so much the mojito it's the mentality of someone who wants to go agaisnt you and undermine you because they know best.
Let's hope she doesn't fall pregnant any time soon.

Sceptre86 · 02/10/2021 07:42

it's the fact that she didn't listen to you, went against you parenting that I don't like and find unacceptable. I would not leave your child with her unsupervised.

JSL52 · 02/10/2021 07:44

@Sometimeswinning

I couldn’t get too upset about this, there are much worse things to feed a little one. Chili prawns for one!!

Alcoholic mojito??

Non alcoholic

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