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Sister gave my 10 month old sips of non-alcoholic mojito

106 replies

Element4056 · 01/10/2021 20:07

I'm really not happy that my sister (21) has given my 10 month old DS sips of her non-alcoholic mojito. What's made me quite upset is that she said it's not the first time she's given him this! She makes it with syrup and a mojito can just for context on how sugary and sweet this is.
I've explained countless times that I only give him water or breastmilk for fluids throughout the day. I have never offered him fruit juice, cordial/squash or any other drinks loaded with sweetners. It's actually bothered me and makes me feel like my parenting is undermined when I have to justify my decision not to offer certain foods or drinks.
Some weeks ago she said I was going to give him issues with food as he grows up as I didn't want him having ice cream, especially just before his dinner.
Just feeling quite bothered by this.

OP posts:
5zeds · 01/10/2021 21:07

Why would you give a baby a drink of sweet chemically fizz if her parents say she only drinks milk and water?

Blackkoala · 01/10/2021 21:15

She’s an absolute idiot. I wouldn’t let her have unsupervised access to him again.

BoredZelda · 01/10/2021 21:17

Why would you give a baby a drink of sweet chemically fizz if her parents say she only drinks milk and water?

I can’t wait until you find out milk and water have 😱 chemicals in them too.

I didn’t give my daughter sugar laden foods when she was little either. I still couldn’t have got excited about a sip of a fizzy drink.

Nomorefuckstogive · 01/10/2021 21:26

@ScoobyDoobyDooooo

Of course you are not being unreasonable to be bothered. If this was me, I wouldn’t leave her with the baby when I wasn’t there again.

My MIL took my dd into the basement of her house when dd was 15 month old to give her a can of coke as she said it was ‘cruel’ that she hasn’t had any.

We pretty much never gave them fizzy drinks apart from at parties or when we were in restaurants.

She’s 17 now and has never had any food issues or problems in any way with regards to what she eats or her health.

Reminds me of my MIL, who always used to say of my DD, ‘But she can’t just have water to drink…’ Well, yes she can and that’s partly why she has no cavities. OP, i would never allow DS to be alone with the child ever again. She is utterly irresponsible.
pinacolada5 · 01/10/2021 21:30

I’m really confused by the reaction to this. It’s a few sips of a sweet drink. I wouldn’t worry about it at all.

Mantlemoose · 01/10/2021 21:32

It's hardly the crime of the century. Don't let anyone else watch your kid and no issues.

JoborPlay · 01/10/2021 21:32

@Mum2jenny

I couldn’t get too upset about this, there are much worse things to feed a little one. Chili prawns for one!!
Chili prawns are not worse than sugary, sweetener filled crap!
Thatsplentyjack · 01/10/2021 21:34

People are so dramatic on here! It's really not that big of a deal.

bellaweir · 01/10/2021 21:34

It's just a bit of sugar? Her teeth aren't gonna rot and drop out all of a sudden

Ozanj · 01/10/2021 21:35

The fact is if you don’t brush his teeth it doesn’t matter what he drinks or eats his mouth will be full of rotten teeth.

Thatsplentyjack · 01/10/2021 21:42

@Sometimeswinning

I couldn’t get too upset about this, there are much worse things to feed a little one. Chili prawns for one!!

Alcoholic mojito??

So youbdidnt read the thread OR the title? Ffs!
LobsterNapkin · 01/10/2021 21:47

This is such a non-issue. It will literally make zero difference to this kids life.

Strangevipers · 01/10/2021 21:48

Your baby, your rules and sensible rules at that! A 10 month old doesn't needs sips of sugary drinks

So annoying for you OP

Pallisers · 01/10/2021 21:48

@Blackkoala

She’s an absolute idiot. I wouldn’t let her have unsupervised access to him again.
seriously? A few sips of a sweet drink and you'd supervise your sister for ever more? I mean, I wouldn't have done it and would say "hey don't do that again" but no more unsupervised access/she's had her chance?

OP, you are right to be bothered and if she talks to you again about giving him food issues laugh at her and tell her to get back to you when she has her own baby. but in the scheme of things it isn't exactly a hanging offence.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 01/10/2021 22:00

My dad rubbed Fanta on my 12 week baby's gums as 'it was a hot day' and he was 8 weeks prem too so REALLY tiny 😱

He's nearly 21 and nearly 6ft 4 and lived to tell the tale😉

Eddielzzard · 01/10/2021 22:02

Just watch: if she has kids she'll be all organic / no sugar / blah blah and 'won't remember' this at all

LobsterNapkin · 01/10/2021 22:04

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

My dad rubbed Fanta on my 12 week baby's gums as 'it was a hot day' and he was 8 weeks prem too so REALLY tiny 😱

He's nearly 21 and nearly 6ft 4 and lived to tell the tale😉

But he must have rotten teeth, right?
housewifeathome · 01/10/2021 22:14

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

My dad rubbed Fanta on my 12 week baby's gums as 'it was a hot day' and he was 8 weeks prem too so REALLY tiny 😱

He's nearly 21 and nearly 6ft 4 and lived to tell the tale😉

That's hilarious 😂

My auntie used to rub wine or whisky on her granddaughters' gums when they were teething IIRC... they're both in their late 20s now and fit and well with all their teeth.

OP - each to their own but I think you are overreacting here.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 01/10/2021 22:16

But he must have rotten teeth, right?
He's got the best set of Hollywood gnashers you could imagine and never had a filling Grin

julieca · 01/10/2021 22:29

I wouldn't get upset at this. It was sips, not a cup of drink. I assume your DC was asking for some, so she let your DC have a sip.

Pallisers · 01/10/2021 22:30

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

My dad rubbed Fanta on my 12 week baby's gums as 'it was a hot day' and he was 8 weeks prem too so REALLY tiny 😱

He's nearly 21 and nearly 6ft 4 and lived to tell the tale😉

my sister gave my 9 week old ebf baby a taste of coca cola from her finger. I wouldn't have known except I walked into the kitchen. When I gaped at her she burst into tears and said "but I won't see him very often (we lived abroad) and I want him to love me" :)
saltinesandcoffeecups · 01/10/2021 22:38

@housewifeathome

We got wooden clothespins soaked in brandy or whiskey when we were teething.

OP I totally think you need to confront your sister and tell her she brought ruin and a life of cavities to your precious and that henceforth all things that go wrong shall be blamed on Mojitogate.

Or you could realize it’s the same child that eats dirt, licks public bathroom floors, and who you will one day be fishing out some random bit of chewing gum they’ve scraped off of a table and relax.

Your choice really

Unsure33 · 01/10/2021 22:50

Tell her you would prefer she did not do it , but chill out .

My mum was weaned on sweetened evap milk . She is now 88 and with her own teeth .

Mrbob · 01/10/2021 22:52

@julieca

I wouldn't get upset at this. It was sips, not a cup of drink. I assume your DC was asking for some, so she let your DC have a sip.
It’s a 10 month old. They aren’t saying “oh that looks lovely please may I have some” They don’t know what it is. I actually have a HUGE problem with people giving their kids fizzy drinks at toddler age. Or chocolate when they are tiny. You are giving them what you see as a treat not what they know as a treat. Do you give them some beer too? How about getting their nails done?
icedcoffees · 01/10/2021 23:02

The dramatics on this thread Grin

Your child will be fine - she didn't give him crack! Just make sure his teeth are brushed regularly (which should be happening regardless of what he's having to eat or drink).