wedding related one

[AndTime]

We have booked our wedding and my groom wanted to involve his sisters in the wedding party so we decided that they would be bridesmaids, along with my sisters. 6 altogether.

Groom was having a best woman. this then went to 2 best women and now he has decided that actually he wants 3 best women. These women will be dressed in a floaty jumpsuit, not a tuxedo.

So I have said, if you are having three women in your wedding party, your sisters might aswell be on your side too.

He thinks this isn't right because his sisters should be bridesmaids as is traditional.

I think that if you are having that many women your sisters might aswell be included.

There are no men at all in the wedding part except the groom and my son who is giving me away.

So;

YABU - his sisters should be bridesmaids

YANBU - he's having three women, what's two more.

I think his sisters will be hurt that he is essentially having three bridesmaids but not including them.

He’s picked who he wants as his entourage- you pick yours. Stuff what he thinks his sisters should be. Tell them if he wants them to be included it’s got to be on his side, you want your friends involved on your side, like he did his friends,

Noooo!
YOU get to pick the bridal party - usually from your friends/family. This is definitely the brides remit.
If groom has a little sister, then yes nice to include her as a bridesmaid so she gets to wear a pretty dress, but doesn’t sound like that in this case.

9 'attendants' (whatever they are called and whichever side of the couple they stand during the ceremony) is completely over the top, even more so as you say it is quite a small wedding.
You can make people feel important / included by giving them small things to do on the say (witnesses who sign, people who do a reading, ushers, someone who will do a speech) without making it into a circus.

I totally agree that there were far, far too many.

The groom has agreed to go back to two best women and I have decided no sister bridesmaids, on either side. I will choose one maid of honour from my friends and my teen can be a bridesmaid if she changes her mind. She has declined so far as she hates the attention.

I feel absolutely so relieved. There may well be muttering and sulking from the siblings but at the end of the day it's a small wedding!

It's scary how quickly things can snowball when you start trying to be fair and not hurt any feelings.

I agree that a man having three best women can’t insist on tradition in other parts of the wedding. I’m not sure that the groom’s sisters being bridesmaids even is tradition anyway.
It sounds like he wants them involved, but not enough to involve them in his side of things, so they’re being foisted on you.
6 bridesmaids and 3 best women is a large wedding party.

That's a better solution, glad he's calmed down!

When I was planning my wedding female attendants on the groom's side and male attendants on the bride's side seemed to be increasingly common - I've seen pics from weddings with bridesmen in suits and groomsmaids in dresses. I think it's nice, if my brother ever remarried I would quite like to be a groomsmaid and support my DB.

I think he's just over excited, it's sweet really.

I was bridesmaid at my brothers wedding recently so I think that's where he had the idea of all sisters being in the bridesmaids party and not groomsmen. My brother didn't have best women though, if he did, and I was dumped on the bride instead I would have been a bit offended.

@AndTime

I think I will have no sisters at all, mine or his, if they ask, its a small wedding and we wouldn't like to be unfair.

I will choose one maid of honour from my friends and he can do what he likes on his side.

This is a good compromise.

Great news.
Also great that you have discussed things with each other and thought about plans before heading out and inviting people.