Long term partner, 3 year old daughter and currently heavily pregnant with our baby.
Partner works full tome. He messaged me asking “shall I take on extra shifts, to get us more money as we might need it and work girl has texted me asking if I can do X and Y days” I thought that’s not like him to suggest that, but that’s thoughtful. However I replied no, can’t do that sadly as I’m already working and no childcare for our daughter in place so you won’t be able to work. (This has already been preplanned)
So now, I’ve seen the messages between work girl and him, and she doesn’t ask at all. He asks her “what days do you need help?” Out of the blue. Bare in mind he moans every single time they ask him to do overtime because he says they’re incompetent and should know how many staff they need blah blah, I like spending time with our daughter anyway so it’s nice to be home. So that’s why I thought his message was strange as he usually isn’t up for overtime. Am I overthinking this?
In that same conversation, she helps him out with something else workwise and he says to her “I’ll buy you a glass of wine sometime” this is crossing a bit of a boundary, isn’t it? Or am I being uptight?