I'm so miserable being healthy.

[Inmiserydieting]

On a weight loss journey, I've reduced portion size and limited certain foods but all in all no deprivation of anything in particular. I've been exercising 4 to 5 days a week. The only time I can exercise is after I put DD down to sleep. Which is usually 7.00pm.
I just feel so miserable, I've lost a stone nearly and yes, I generally feel healthier.. Changing my mindset to make better food choices and still having the occasional treat.
I've just sat down to eat dinner and honestly want to cry. I have so much to do after work and now incorporating exercise, I just feel utterly miserable. I'm sat on my sofa ready to sleep and pass out and still have a mountain of things to do.
How do I break this misery barrier.. I feel so down. I thought that exercise and diet combined with weight loss was supposed to lighten your mood.

Can you fit in exercise any time other than 7pm. I exercise 4 times a week but never at evening otherwise I’d never do it.

Honestly love, you’re overdoing it. Mental health and getting enough rest is also part of this! 2 or 3 workouts a week, plus just being generally active, get me by. Please give yourself a break - otherwise I can guarantee you’ll snap, eat a million tons of crisps and lie on the sofa for a week, and then berate yourself even more.

Nope.. I'm up from just before 6am without the exercise. I tried doing it before getting ready for work but I feel horrendous by 3 or 4pm at work.

For tonight, fuck off the exercise, spend 30 minutes, maybe 1 hour, powering through your to do list, start with the most important thing you need to do and stick to the time.
Then, most importantly, treat yourself to an early night.

What are the other things you have to do? Could someone else do them? Are they really essential? When is the time for you? - And I don’t mean exercise, if it isn’t your hobby but is just for the health benefits that doesn’t count as time for you.

Stop trying to do too much. It's better to do what you enjoy a couple of times a week. Instead of pushing yourself to do five days a week, hating it and giving up completely.

Losing weight doesn't need to be all or nothing. I learnt that lesson the hard way unfortunately.

I'm a single parent, no family help. Just me. I enjoy the actual exercise itself. But the aftermath is just miserable. Got to tidy up kitchen after making dinner, hang washing up, by the time I do that it'll be bedtime. No evening whatsoever. I'm going to drop down to 3 workouts a week once I lose the remainder of the stone. I have about 2.5 stone to lose.

WELL DONE on losing a stone, that's huge.

If you're being so careful with the food, do you need to exercise too? And quite so much? 4-5 times a week is A LOT for anyone. Never mind someone with a child and a job.

And do you enjoy the exercise and feel refreshed for it? IME when I enjoy it, I manage to easily find time and when it feels like a chore, it's not the right sort of exercise.

Could you perhaps walk more as part of your day and not worry so much about formal exercise? Diet will be the more significant factor in weight loss anyway.

Weight loss is 90% about what you eat and exercise matters very little.

How much time to you spend exercising? Tabata is the most efficient for general health and it's quick and twice a week is better than nothing - one weekend and one weekday would be fine?

Sorry, cross posted but hopefully the gist of what I've said is relevant.

How long is your exercise? Can you change to something shorter?

I felt incredibly miserable, stressed, anxious and EXHAUSTED when I had vit d deficiency. It genuinely started presenting as a depression and I was lucky they did bloods. Maybe get some multivitamins in.

Also, remember that it takes long time for things to become a habit. It feels better then

I'm very active at the weekends and clock up nearly 12000 steps just in my house with DD and going for a walk.. So I'm not militant at the weekends, I just do a 30 minute workout on Saturday or Sunday.

Yes I've reduced portions and just making better choices in the week.. But I don't deprive myself of anything at all. Just more controlled with it.

Can you do something like dancing or Joe Wicks with DC?

Also get DC involved in all the mundane tasks as young as possible... sorting laundry, stacking dishwasher

Exercise IS important but it sounds as though you might need to mix it up a bit. Are you doing any yoga or pilates? I would be tempted to sack off the workout and just go for a walk, or a swim, or do some restorative yoga, or take a night off.

Could you fit a brisk 30 minute walk into some other part of your day instead of doing a workout in the evening? The old "get off the bus one stop earlier and walk" chestnut in whatever form that could work for you? If your DD is very little can you do a brisk walk or jog with her in the pushchair? Or do you get a lunch break from work when you could walk (I know not everyone does - I don't get a break in which leaving the premises is possible either, breaks are a bit of a busman's holiday...)?

Can you do some of your chores with DD - toddlers sometimes rather enjoy "helping" even though their help isn't actually helpful you can get stuff done with the child, as an activity, even though it takes longer, rather than save all your housework until she's in bed.

@Inmiserydieting

Yes I've reduced portions and just making better choices in the week.. But I don't deprive myself of anything at all. Just more controlled with it.

That's really good, because that is something you can absolutely keep. Portion sizes are often the reason for the extra kilos.

Stay smart😁

I agree with pp that you're overdoing the exercise. It only contributes to 5% of your weight loss!
Losing a stone is a brilliant achievement. Be kinder to yourself.

@RandomMess

Weight loss is 90% about what you eat and exercise matters very little.

How much time to you spend exercising? Tabata is the most efficient for general health and it's quick and twice a week is better than nothing - one weekend and one weekday would be fine?

This, it really is all about food for weight.

Exercise is primarily to be fit and healthy.

I'm trying to shift weight too and I was doing so well but a great big bloody pavlova covered in fresh fruit was dropped into me by a friend and that was it.

Tomorrow I will be better.

It is dull though.

I really fancy hot buttered toast but will resist.

You are doing fantastically well but be kind too.

Get the jobs done and catch up on your sleep.

I wouldn't get rid of exercise at all, but just dos something like 15 min fat burner from joe wick someone recommended above. Exercise is very important overall. Helps with posture, tone up, mood and with all that, with overal self esteem.
It's great!
I do 20 min HIIT with included dumbells in it. It doesn't kill me but it also means I can walk up stairs without huffing and puffing now!

Just lay off it, you will get exhausted and give up. Concentrate on the food and keep going. Be kind to yourself and DONT GIVE UP ON A BAD DAY!!

You are doing great. You are just overdoing it so listen to your body and rest.

Yes, DD does help with things like loading the washing machine etc.. The majority of stuff I do after I put her down. I work full time too..
I think I am just trying to fit in too much in my day. I will drop down to 3 workouts I think because this doesn't feel like it'll be sustainable. I feel so awful physically having eaten late and literally nearly falling asleep.

I think concentrate on some stuff you DO enjoy! make some time for reading a great book, having a luxurious bath, phoning a friend or whatever floats your boat to mix it up a bit. It's maybe not the excercise regime alone that's getting you down perhaps?

You don’t need to exercise to lose weight to be perfectly honest. It’s pretty much all about what you eat, specifically the number of calories. Some exercise may speed the process but it’s not significant.
Just exercise at the weekend. Maybe do a quick HIT workout some lunch breaks if you want to. And eat small healthy portions. The weight will drop off and you won’t be stressed

You can restrict calories and time when you eat so that after a workout you stretch, drink and eat within half an hour of ending it. That can help recovery. Check your nutrition is good- that you’re getting iron etc. What exercise and how much of it are you doing? Are there jobs on your list that you can just write off as less important than lifestyle changes?