I'm so miserable being healthy.

[Inmiserydieting]

On a weight loss journey, I've reduced portion size and limited certain foods but all in all no deprivation of anything in particular. I've been exercising 4 to 5 days a week. The only time I can exercise is after I put DD down to sleep. Which is usually 7.00pm.
I just feel so miserable, I've lost a stone nearly and yes, I generally feel healthier.. Changing my mindset to make better food choices and still having the occasional treat.
I've just sat down to eat dinner and honestly want to cry. I have so much to do after work and now incorporating exercise, I just feel utterly miserable. I'm sat on my sofa ready to sleep and pass out and still have a mountain of things to do.
How do I break this misery barrier.. I feel so down. I thought that exercise and diet combined with weight loss was supposed to lighten your mood.

I'm doing Joe Wicks 90 days plan and have to fit in 5 hiit workouts a week. I have a 10 month old and 2 year old and they go to bed at 6.30pm but no way could I exercise then so I actually do it in the room with them. Could this be an option? How old is your DD? I'm sure 30 mins of TV or tablet time won't hurt. You need your evenings to get sorted and relax. Joe Wicks always says it's 80% about food and 20% about exercise so sounds like you have the food covered. A stone is amazing well done x

Or on your lunch break if you're working? I use my phone for the hiit workouts and generally only need a small space.

I think you’re doing fantastically juggling everything and losing a stone already is great. I second a pp’s idea of doing a workout when your child is still up. Perhaps during her tv time? I would also definitely drop to 3 workouts a week.
I have also been on a weight loss programme for the past few months and the hardest thing about it has been the monotony of it and feeling like I’m denying myself one of life’s great pleasures - eating delicious (but calorific food). I’ve found that incorporating some of my favourite meals and the odd takeaway into my diet helps and gives me something to look forward to. Also, I’ve cut right back on alcohol but still have 1 night a week when I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine, usually Friday night, which also feels like a treat. Good luck and all the best.

Around 80% of your health is down to what you eat, so it sounds you're doing great.

Is it? I know that's for weight, but weight and health, while they are very intertwined, are not exact the same

Sorry if this has already been said as I haven't RTFT, but how old is your DD? Is she of an age where you could do some exercise with her, e.g., you go for a run and she comes with you on a bike/ scooter? Or if she's younger, in a running buggy? Is there a leisure centre where she could have a swimming lesson or do a sports club while you go and use the gym? Exercising last thing at night is really difficult.

Could you do some exercise with your daughter such as walking or Zumba at home - even if she just dances around the room? Or maybe go to a local running club that might have a junior section as well as a beginner adult one? You would be teaching her healthy habits.

Some parks also have a play area next to the outside gym stuff for the weekend.

I would batch cook dinners and possibly be less diligent in your cleaning if you are at a high standard. Plus beans on toast isn’t too bad for a lazy dinner just watch the butter.

Do you use your lunch break productively? Make sure you have it and go for a walk.

Can you still get PE with Joe on iplayer/ YouTube? That might be fun to do with your DD

Can you afford a cleaner? That would free up some time

@Thatsplentyjack

OP I'm I exactly the same position, yet I haven't really lost much at all. I mean like 3 pounds or something. I'm also hungry a lot. I've oy really been properly doing it for about 2 weeks and I'm scunnered. Food was my way of treating myself, now I feel like there's nothing. If I was losing weight a bit faster I think I would feel better, but it's so slow! No advice but you're not alone.

Find some other treats. Nice soap, plant, bath bomb, hair mask etc. I did and it's lifechanging when you don't view food as a reward for.... Anything. Or pacifier for any bad emotiom. My hair are smashing now..

Agree, I was reading the thread thinking “what about lunch times?” It does depend on your role and whether you can eat at your desk, have a shower at work (or are wfh), etc, but taking the full hour you should be able to fit in a quick change, a decent run, then speedy shower (shorter is better for the environment too) and back into work clothes, then have lunch al desko.

Can you switch to like 15 minutes of yoga for a while till you feel more rested.

@Annoyedanddissapointed

Around 80% of your health is down to what you eat, so it sounds you're doing great.

Is it? I know that's for weight, but weight and health, while they are very intertwined, are not exact the same

80% is just a number, and I agree that ultimately your health depends on lots of different factors, including genetics. But it is in that ballpark. Eating too much fat - heart and cardiovascular problems. Eating too much sugar in all its varied forms - diabetes. Eating far too much full stop - obesity and all its related issues, including joint problems.

But even eating a 'totally' healthy diet - if there is such a thing - will not keep us healthy into old age. As we get older, our muscles weaken and this in turn weakens our whole bodies. This is why exercise is so crucial, and gets more important as we age. So many folks break a hip in their 70s and 80s and struggle to walk again even after modern surgery has given them a new working hip. It's because they are unfit and don't have the muscle power to learn to walk again.

It's very sad, because it is preventable. It doesn't even take much - just walking a decent amount wearing wrist and ankle weights as @Dontforgetyourbrolly suggested, makes a tremendous difference. But I'd also try and fit in some short workouts most days, like those on YouTube by Lucy Wyndham Read and Rebecca Louise. 10-15 minutes most days while watching TV - I found it both energising and addictive, and I haven't looked back

@Buttetflybookkeeper

Stop trying to do too much. It's better to do what you enjoy a couple of times a week. Instead of pushing yourself to do five days a week, hating it and giving up completely.

Losing weight doesn't need to be all or nothing. I learnt that lesson the hard way unfortunately.

100% this as well as what @ChaToilLeam has to say. There has to be self compassion and realistic goals in there.

I work 5 days a week in the office so not an option at the moment. I haven't exercised today as I know I'll clock up the steps.