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Friend annoyed with me because I don’t ‘like’ her baby photos on facebook

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Onedaylikethis21 · 23/09/2021 15:59

Friend rang me yesterday to tell me that she is really annoyed with me because I don’t ‘like’ her (endless) baby photos on Facebook. She literally posts 10 a day and frankly, as lovely as the baby is, I am working, raising my own kids and honestly don’t have bloody time to live on facebook.

Is this a thing now? Getting into trouble for how you interact with people on social media! It’s really irritated me to be honest. She’s going to loads of baby stuff and has an Nct group to talk nappies with/ family near by for support etc - my kids are older and I don’t feel a need to interact with every second of her life on social media.

Aibu to feel a bit WTF about it? I am in work and am just getting on with my day!

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WormYourHonour · 23/09/2021 16:05

Is it her first by any chance?

AudacityBaby · 23/09/2021 16:06

YANBU and anyone who says otherwise needs a reality check (as does your friend).

Notaroadrunner · 23/09/2021 16:08

What a sad life she must have to even notice that you're not constantly liking her photos. Tell her you're not on fb often as you actually have a life.

2typesofjungle · 23/09/2021 16:09

Your friend is unusual, if you want to stay friends then try to blame it on the hormones, otherwise I'd use this as an opportunity to phase out the friendship

Ponoka7 · 23/09/2021 16:09

Just tell her that when you see them, you'll like them. She's now going to get slagged off on here, which is unfair if she's just feeling a bit vulnerable and uses FB as a way to not feel isolated.

MyCatDribbles · 23/09/2021 16:12

My cousin, who I barely have any contact with, told me that I needed to ‘like’ more of her photos and posts.
No I don’t need to do that thank you.

alloalloallo · 23/09/2021 16:20

It seems to be a thing

My SiL (DH’s sister) got very upset with me and My DD2 for not liking photos of my niece’s horse riding lessons.

Apparently, because DD and I ride/have horses we should be more supportive and encouraging

SiL posts endless crap on FB - stupid memes, “I bet my friends won’t repost this” sort of stuff at least 10 times a day so I unfollowed her (didn’t unfriend for family/diplomatic reasons) so never saw them.

I thought it was mad, but try and remember to check her page and like stuff now for a quiet life

Antinerak · 23/09/2021 16:35

PFB syndrome and/or she's struggling with postpartum MH. Still not a good enough reason to get mad at you for not liking her 3236979 posts a day!

ufucoffee · 23/09/2021 16:36

Jesus wept. She's being ridiculous. You could click on the laughing face and see how she likes that

Mamamamasaurus · 23/09/2021 16:37

I'd bet my last pound that this is your friend's PFB

SmellyOldOwls · 23/09/2021 16:40

Some people go a bit funny when PFB comes along. Just like her posts when you see them and hope she has another soon!

TheOrigRights · 23/09/2021 16:42

She will look back and cringe, but for now if you don't want to lose her friendship I would say "Look, I think your baby is adorable, I really do, and I hope you know that. I don't want to feel under pressure to let you know that via social media".

You're letting her know you love her baby, but also drawing your own boundaries.

When you're home alone all day on mat leave with a baby I can see how you could get in the loop of checking your FB likes too often.

RedHelenB · 23/09/2021 16:46

If you're her friend then I'd like the photos. It's a small thing and doesn't take much time I've gone yabu, as I like my friends posts.

LaetitiaASD · 23/09/2021 16:50

IMHO there is only one way of using social media like facebook - two accounts.

Account one is your real one and you make it absolutely clear to everyone you know that you use it for very specific things only... maybe useful place to chat to old school friends, or post photos for your granny in Scotland to look at, but that it's not something you want to use much at all.

Simply state that you do not have the time or inclination to spend time following people (and liking photos) you see regularly in real life, and why on earth would you like a photo when you'd much rather be cuddling the real thing and seeing her mum.

Account two uses a fake name and is there for fun things (following celebs, memes etc). Real people in your life don't see you doing this.

Miserablewithweight · 23/09/2021 16:51

My SIL used to bitch and moan about family or friends not liking her Facebook picture or posts especially of her kids. She would unfriend people or give them the silent treatment

Also her and my other BIL would constantly check their posts for for how many likes it got and if it got less that a certain amount they’d delete it . They see it as some kind of validation I think 🤷🏻‍♀️

Original poster
Onedaylikethis21 · 23/09/2021 16:52

Yes it is PFB! It’s a bloody nightmare to be honest - she really laid on the guilt and it was only after I came of the phone and did a massive WTAF!

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blueskytoday06 · 23/09/2021 16:53

@RedHelenB

If you're her friend then I'd like the photos. It's a small thing and doesn't take much time I've gone yabu, as I like my friends posts.
You like up to 10 posts a day of your friends?
CreepingDeath · 23/09/2021 16:55

@RedHelenB

If you're her friend then I'd like the photos. It's a small thing and doesn't take much time I've gone yabu, as I like my friends posts.
Eh no, being someone's friend doesn't mean you have to jump to attention every time they demand it.

How about if she is your friend she would accept that you don't use/ need social media in the same way as her.

WingingItEveryDay7 · 23/09/2021 16:57

@Miserablewithweight

My SIL used to bitch and moan about family or friends not liking her Facebook picture or posts especially of her kids. She would unfriend people or give them the silent treatment

Also her and my other BIL would constantly check their posts for for how many likes it got and if it got less that a certain amount they’d delete it . They see it as some kind of validation I think 🤷🏻‍♀️

My sister is exactly the same!! SM is a bloody pain sometimes!! I can't be arsed to comment or like things as she'll delete it anyway so it's a waste of time 🤣🤣
WoozySnoozy · 23/09/2021 17:00

Is she ok mental health wise? She might be feeling incredibly isolated. I agree its a bit WTF though.

RandomDent · 23/09/2021 17:01

If the baby is quite new she’ll be hormonal and sleep deprived. If she’s normally ok then let it slide and don’t take the piss too much. I wouldn’t like the photos if you don’t want to though.

RandomDent · 23/09/2021 17:03

I’ll look forward to seeing her on PFB Confessions in a few years 😂

PurpleDaisies · 23/09/2021 17:04

Who are the 1% who voted YABU? I’m assuming they did that by accident.

Maizzee · 23/09/2021 17:05

An acquaintance of mine complained in a Facebook group we were both in that she didn't like that some people didn't "interact" with the photos of her children enough, and so she was going to delete those people as friends. She posted the same photo every day of the three of them sitting on the stairs. I never liked or commented. Lo and behold, I was deleted. I didn't really care. I'd already unfollowed her because I was sick of the daily photo and the accompanying gushy captions about the kids.

Daisyandroses · 23/09/2021 17:05

I post every now and then on social media, usually the people who like/ comment are friends I’m not that close to or people I used to work with. People I want to stay in contact with but don’t see regularly.

My actual close friends and family never really like/ comment. Because I talk to them on WhatsApp/ phone/ real life everyday!

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