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Should I take this girl in my car

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pimplypoppet · 22/09/2021 19:45

We car share with another family to get our daughters to the bustop to go to school. Girls both 13. Friends for a really long time. Their whole family (mum, dad, 2 brothers) have tested positive for covid EXCEPT their daughter who is negative. Legally she can go to school still but the chances of her not catching it from her family in the next few days surely are low? The school have confirmed she can attend and they are intending to send her. I don't want her in the car. I know the girls will hang out at school regardless so should I just take her in the car for the 5 minute journey and get a grip. I feel really uncomfortable with telling them I won't take her and just pi**ed off I'm in this position. Just to be clear I'm not a horrible person, they are great friends, I really feel for them all and I have already offered to deliver whatever food/drink/drugs they'll need in the next few days.
So, am I being unreasonable to not take this girl in my car for the next 10 days?

OP posts:
Finfintytint · 22/09/2021 19:49

I would take her. Mask on and windows open. Swab down the seats.

Mamamia7962 · 22/09/2021 19:51

If you've been double jabbed the chances of you catching it from her will be low.

She'll be in the back of the car, all wear masks and have the windows open.

MiddleClassProblem · 22/09/2021 19:52

@Finfintytint

I would take her. Mask on and windows open. Swab down the seats.
This and I didn’t catch Covid despite Dd (6) having it and DH. DD was breathing all over me too and I tested every other day with LF and did a PCR too.
Kiduknot · 22/09/2021 19:52

I wouldn’t

LittleOwl153 · 22/09/2021 19:53

Can she get to the bus otherwise... given that none of her family can take her?

I see where you are coming from though and you are right. My dd was in the same situation tested negative on lft day 1, 2 &3 but positive on pcr taken on day 1 came back on day 3 she was in school on day 2. She walks however so no involvement for anyone else.

HikingforScenery · 22/09/2021 19:53

I wouldn’t take her

Scarydinosaurs · 22/09/2021 19:55

Oh man. I’d not want to take her. Does her mum expect you to?

GreatPotato · 22/09/2021 19:57

If it's only a 5 min journey can they walk for a few days to see how it pans out?

3scape · 22/09/2021 19:58

She could have also passed it on to them anyway.

If you're vaccinated I would leave my window open. You're right about school if they spend time together and she hasn't had it, it won't be the car it gets passed on.

3scape · 22/09/2021 19:59

But 5 min car journey? That seems extreme.

Sally872 · 22/09/2021 20:00

Nope. She will very likely have it in the next 5 days so I wouldn't.

Car is more enclosed than classroom so would feel like an increased risk to me.

Notonthestairs · 22/09/2021 20:02

I think I'd go with who does open and masks on.

But presumably they will be sitting together on the bus and at school.

Notonthestairs · 22/09/2021 20:02

Windows not who!

Chickychoccyegg · 22/09/2021 20:08

I know loads of families where some members of the family didn't catch covid, from the other family members they live with, so she won't necessarily get it in the next few days or at all.
I'd take her, all wear masks, window down, wipe down seat/handles when she gets out.

MagnoliaBeige · 22/09/2021 20:13

Nope I wouldn’t take her

itsgettingwierd · 22/09/2021 20:16

I agree windows open and masks on.

Purely because although you know there's a risk she could catch it and pass it on it's not the only way and person you could catch it from.

I'm in the camp currently of taking precautions but realising it can be caught from anyone, anywhere at any time.

Tulips15 · 22/09/2021 20:17

I wouldnt

Suzi888 · 22/09/2021 20:19

I wouldn’t want to, but I would. Windows open, face masks on.

ladygracie · 22/09/2021 20:21

My son had covid. I hugged him lots before I knew he had it. Neither me or my daughter got it and I was in and out of his room checking on him regularly. So it’s not necessarily inevitable that she’ll get it. But I do understand your hesitation. Masks on & windows open maybe?

DangerMouse5 · 22/09/2021 20:23

Goodness it's a practical issues isn't it as how does the family fat have to self isolate at home with COVID get her to school if she can't Walk it otherwise?

However, I wouldn't take her in my car as I'm CEV group , work with CEV groups and have older parents I see - frankly meh they mix at school but in an enclosed car even with windows wound down, it's too risky. I'd pass on it and hope that another more Gung-ho friend would offer to help / walk with her. I would hope school would be understanding if no one is available to safely take her to school as her parents are self isolating with COVID.

DangerMouse5 · 22/09/2021 20:24

*that not fat!

TakeMe2Insanity · 22/09/2021 20:26

Masks on windows down.

lannistunut · 22/09/2021 20:27

I wouldn't take her but you will have to take it on the chin if the positions are reversed in future.

Curerofsouls · 22/09/2021 20:28

I would take her my husband who is double jabbed had COVID and my toothbrush sits next to his in a pot I kissed him every day and didn't catch it.

EileenGC · 22/09/2021 20:30

Girl should wear an FFP2 mask, windows open even if it's cold.