..to be hesitant about contacting my sister who's just revealed she's gay?

[SpiritualKnot]

She's married with 3 children and is leaving him for a woman.

Feel so sorry for him, he's a really nice man. Would still feel sorry for him even if he wasn't though. Find it hard to feel sorry for my sister though, my immediate reaction was the same as my mums..couldn't she see her girlfriend on the side? Though I suspect that's what's been happening up until now.

My sister hasn't told me the circumstances, just that she's leaving him. My mum told me why she's leaving him.

It's a shock that she's gay but would be better if she wasn't married with kids, I had no idea. My mum seems upset about it all and thinks it must somehow be her fault.

She hasn't told her kids and she doesn't know that I know.

What does one do in a situation like this? Am I supposed to feel sorry for her, happy for her or what? Have been a bit tearful about it but don't really know why.

SK

Glad you have talked.

Hi again NAB3littlemonkeys,

Yeah I wouldn't have felt the need to talk with her if she'd been leaving him for a man as I know she has very supportive friends where she lives and I'd already commisserated about the break up with her, it was only a few days ago.

When I spoke with her initially I felt she hadn't wanted to talk about it, so felt that probably her and her hubby still had things to sort out and I respected that.

However, once my mum told me, I realised that the reluctance to talk was probably because she didn't know what my reaction would be, so I needed to let her know it was ok.

SK

That's good that all is okay now.