things you realised in lockdown that you're surprised you never noticed before??

[NoviceNewMN]

Working from home made me realise how low level subtly grindingly misogynistic alot of the men I work with are and how I am undermined every day without ever noticing when I was there - because it comes under the guise of cheerful chat that is blink and you miss it stuff. When you are out of it, life becomes lighter and happier.

I also never noticed exactly how much ££££ I spend on travel.

How selfish and pathetic certain friends are.
Realising you don’t need certain ‘stuff’ and you’re just wasting money on it.

@OnwardsAndSideways1 yes, I have some involvement in both consuming and providing adult teaching activities, and this too has had some benefits as you say. Our academic programme (in an NHS service) has gone from being confined to speakers from the UK, with an occasional international speaker flown in at our expense, to having speakers from all over the world, which has been amazing.

It is OK to shop in Iceland and pound shops.
Having plenty of food and consumables in the house isn't always bad - only ran out of fresh food.

I realised i hate day trips!

How shit it is to have no choice and go into work, day after day through a pandemic, how unself aware people are.

Yeah, like others that without commuting I could make more time for exercise.

I was sort of aware of it before, but really aware that I'm not sure we'd ever leave the house if I didn't plan things. I think DH would happily have spent all od lockdown indoors on his laptop/telly if I hadn't sorted out walks etc.

Its early x

Working from home has made me realise how awful my manager speaks to me, these overheard conversations in the home are stressing me more than work. Its breaking my son and husbands heart and will one day break me. But not today.

I realise I should 1st think, how dare you speak to me like that, but the fact its taken them overhearing to recognise it is a massive wakeup call.

Any way - good morning people. Today may be better.

That all humans are essentially selfish and want what’s best for them. I assume it’s how the human race survived.
So those with families, nice houses, a decent garden and a long commute love wfh. Those living alone in a tiny studio in a tower block hate it.
Who’d have guessed?

That DH is the one who makes every day right.
That our darling DD's are stronger than we thought and are our greatest achievement in life. Unbelievably proud of all of them.
That jigsaws aren't boring.
That it's O.K. to do nothing.

How little people value you as a 'Key Worker' and just how much people hate nursing staff, from all sides. I knew it was bad, being in the thick of it, but everyone showed their true colours during the pandemic in their attitude towards the valuable healthcare we provide.

NEVER again will I work clinically. Ever.

How people lack alot of common sense and compassion when it came to dealing with the public. And how much i love my dc and dp. And now i will say no to plans i never would have had the courage to before as i was always a people pleaser

How much no one gives a shit about me and it’s always me checking in on people and asking how they are or making an effort to see them. Don’t have much friends- this is family I’m talking about.

@Sylvvie

You are appreciated, we are stretched to breaking point and many have no more to give .

Your pay rise is shameful.

Chin up lovely x

How good 4onDemand is. The amount of decent shows to watch for free still amazes me.

That my husband had not just one, but two mistresses on the go down in London (where he usually worked for part of the week). Only realised when they started sending love notes and gifts to my house, where my DC lives! . It was all quite a shock because ex seemed an unlikely candidate for extramarital activity - especially given he couldn't even muster enough get up and go for any marital activity! . To be honest, he was such a boring man that the affairs were the most interesting thing he'd done in 16 years. Quite telling that after the initial shock wore off my overwhelming feeling was one of utter relief - like a 'get out of jail free' card had just landed in my lap!

Anyhow, that was over a year ago now - I'm much, much happier without the ex, the divorce is under way and I've a wonderful DP who loves me like I've never known and is a big hit with DC. Funny how life works out.

People are horrid and selfish. Some of them are truly ignorant.

Won't even wear a mask to prevent the spread of infection, potentially fatal infection.

Won't take a single unnecessary step out of the way to give others space.

On another note, supermarkets are hellholes and I should have been doing online grocery shopping for years. I just thought supermarkets brought out the worst in people's behaviour - now I know that is just their normal behaviour.

bloody hell NotTheMrMenAgain. Glad you’ve moved on to better now!

Did anyone move entirely out of town? We're really thinking about it, especially now with a second child on the way. We were thinking about a small farm or something quite detached, but we still need a perfect internet connection to be able to work. I'm just scared we will regret it in a few years when things are (hopefully) fully back to normal, and kids start their schools.

That I'm essentially a lazy person as all the things I wanted to do but couldn't, because I didn't have time, I still don't do.

How much I enjoy a day out at the weekend, just a simple change of scene and a cafe lunch.

How much I hated commuting and office politics and politely making small talk with my colleagues.

15 minutes a day tidying and cleaning keeps the house much nicer than a big weekend blitz.

@Justmuddlingalong

We go through a lot less loo roll when we don't wrap it round and round our hands before wiping.

and have those that are guilty modified their behaviour??

I have presented countless tutorials on this but to no avail.......

(Sorry, wrong thread.)

How lovely it was to see the natural world reclaim spaces - seeing deer grazing in the park in mid afternoon, hedgehogs and rabbits ranging further. At what would have been rush hour, I saw deer walking across the ring road from one thicket to another.

That many people have pretty awful lives day to day.

How lucky we were to live rurally, have a lovely home and all of our family living so close by. We really pushed ourselves financially when we bought 22 years ago, and had many years of going without to live there. Never have we appreciated that choice as much as we did in lockdown.