I have Covid. Should I send my child to nursery?

[Wnikat]

Interested in what others would do. I am on day 7 of covid. My 3 year old is legally allowed to go to nursery under the new rules. She has had 2 negative PCR tests, the last one yesterday. Would you send her to nursery?
YABU: yes
YANBU: no

Yes I would. DD and DH repeatedly tested negative when I had it. It was the summer hols but I would’ve sent her to school had it been term time. As it was they went out as normal.

@DrinkFeckArseBrick

What a delight that parent is
I hope she realises her child could have infected a CEV child in the school. What a tool to send a child who had symptoms who bloody lives with a positive person.

I'd send her. Why's everyone been bleating about 'the rules' for months but now, suddenly, 'the rules' aren't good enough anymore?

[quote DoubleShotEspresso]@BobsBurgersisthebest you have completely ignored my point. OP cannot possibly know her DD is not carrying the virus.

Guidelines are just that-anybody with a brain cell can figure out the responsible course of action here, sadly too many are too selfish to think of others.
I am appalled at this thread, and I speak as somebody still unwell at home, though legally we could go to work and/or school, it just is wrong to even do so.
Is is really that difficult to keep a 4 year old home? No it isn't. But it might mean it saves a family like ours some severe illness and the risk of long covid. Think about it fgs.[/quote]
Some families can't afford to pay for childcare they then don't use even though the government say they can.
Some families who wouldn't be able to work if they all isolated even though they don't need to can't afford that.
I'm classed as vulnerable too and obviously I worry about Covid especially as I know double jabbed adults who have been very ill with it but I also know we have to learn to live with the virus. It's not going anywhere.
Children can't keep missing out and the economy can't afford to keep closing down.

Because the new rules are nuts put people at increased and unnessary risk. Its one thing to remove icolation from one off expossure to removing isolation from continued close household contacts

@DoubleShotEspresso

*Slightly bonkers"?

Downright irresponsible! What is wrong with people suddenly to make their own informed decisions?

Our household has been down with Covid the past two weeks. DC not been in school for best part of two years, battled hard for a place all through lockdown, was due to start week before last but we would not have dreamt of sending in when either of us was positive. We are still all home now!?

Sometimes doing the right thing is neither "required" or convenient, but it is simply the best and kindest thing to do.

What do you work make of your decision to ignore the actual rules? Will they still pay you if you decide not to work because morally that is the right thing to do?

This is the reality. People can claim sending their kids to nursery is morally wrong but given that employees are going to be expected to work from home if not sick or suck up a loss of pay, then people are going to do all they can to stay working.

Did you actually all think isolation with Covid would be a legal requirement forever. I bet, by this time next year, isolation will have been scrapped altogether!

@glitterelf

Just because you can doesn't mean you should. I'm a childminder and I would be really unhappy if a parent decided to do this. There's an incubation period and just because a PCR is negative one day it may be positive the next. There may be children who are CEV or have family members that are also think about the staff too.

Are you prepared to accept no pay for the days legally you should be having the child but you are refusing? Or are you going to make the parents pay?

@hailadrian

Not forever no, but seeing as things are so bad at the moment with over 8000 in hospital and over 1000 in icu before the normal winter pressures it would be sensible to still have some restrictions at the moment imo. Id like to know that i can have treatment for anything i need this yr be that covid, other illness, car crash or a broken bone.

Well, I have covid and my teen is still attending school- the rules say she doesn't have to isolate and she's already isolated four separate times in the last 18 months, missed so much school it's ridiculous, there is no way she's staying at home again when she doesn't need to.

Apologies. Misread that she has had PCR. I would still keep at home to be honest.

@Mudandrain

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

No one can be 100%sure they aren't carrying it.

We’re in the same situation.
I asked nursery what their advice is and they’ve asked us to continue sending him.
I asked the GP (unrelated phone call) and they also advised sending him.

Curious as to what all the posters who would be "livid" etc would think if it was a year 1 class instead of a nursery, where the parent could be fined for the absence? Would you all still froth at the mouth then?

Are you for real ?

We've had an email from my son's headteacher to say that some parents are sending children in when they have clear symptoms, and that some are being sent in while waiting on PCR results. Someone who is negative with no symptoms going to school is the least of my worries tbh. Yes it's not ideal when there's someone at home who's positive, but that's the rules now. People can't afford to keep taking time off work and some kids can't afford to miss any more school.

@CaptainMarvelous

Curious as to what all the posters who would be "livid" etc would think if it was a year 1 class instead of a nursery, where the parent could be fined for the absence? Would you all still froth at the mouth then?

Yes I'd still be livid. Yes I'd still question the (zero ) logic and yes I'd disregard the government advice if need be to avoid others being made ill.

So, the government sets out the isolation rules and people are 'livid' that others are not making up their own rules and following those instead.

@kirinm No I wouldn't be charging those who are acting responsibly. If the parent is positive then they will be remaining at home and most of my families would receive sick pay or would be entitled to claim the isolation payment. Nowhere have I said I would refuse to care for any child. However I would much rather lose the fee of one child than several children. Likewise if there is a positive case in my household I will close deep clean and do so without any pay and I'm not entitled to the isolation payment either.
Judging by this thread though I'd be very unlikely to be told if any of the families did have a positive case in their household, thankfully most of my parents are good eggs and will test their children when needed / collect them if they're displaying any symptoms and isolate them until the results are in.

For those that are saying they wouldn't... when will you change your mind? Will you always isolate if a family member has covid or is there a scenario in the future that will make you change your mind?

For me personally, i wouldnt isolate family now if a. The child was old enough to isolate from rest of family so was less likely to be exposed ie was in an annex/seperate part of house and not mixing at all.
In the future if There was no legal requirement and b. The hospitals werent already struggling with demands before normal winter pressures are added and i felt confident that my family could still access medical care for any reason

Neither a currently applies and the hospital situation in imo risky

@DoubleShotEspresso

So would you offer to pay the fine on their behalf?

@CaptainMarvelous

There is no way that a fine in this situation will stand up in court.

I’d absolutely be sending mine to nursery if one of us was positive but she was symptomless and had a negative PCR. Any of the other parents would be free to be ‘livid’ about it, but I wouldn’t know or care about that!