I know that proper legal advice needs to be sought and I am waiting on that at the moment.
But I'm in the initial talks with H about separating. I won't go into the whole thing here but basically he treats me like his servant and maid and I've had enough on top of my job and caring for our DC with basically no help from him. He thinks because he works (I work part time) it absolves him of absolutely everything else.
Anyway, the bone of contention in our talks recently has been the house and who should stay in it.
I would like to stay, he earns quite a lot more than me and could more easily afford to get somewhere else and I paid for the entire deposit when we bought it although there is unfortunately nothing written up about that. I would also be RP for our child, there is no argument from him about that there is no way he would be able to care for a young child by himself, he's never even been alone with our baby for more than an hour or two and refuses to do anything like care for overnight. If I've ever wanted to go out for more than an hour I've had to ask my family even if he's at home.
Anyway, his main reason for thinking he should stay is that he has older children, my step children, who stay here a couple of times a week.
He thinks because he has more children he should have more right to stay in their home and I'm being awful to expect him to move out with them.
Imo the issues of divorce should focus primarily on our child, who lives here all of the time.
What do you think? He's acting like some single father to two older children who I'm trying to chuck out as if DSC don't live with their Mum the majority of the week 