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VeloHostage · 2021-09-12T16:21:06+00:00

We're on the lookout for a local gardener to keep our grass cut. Saw an ad on our local FB page from a young lad who's just trying to start his own business in that area. Was thinking to pop a message, and then noticed in the comments ... Could you give me a quote ? reply ? ^Inbox me hun^ at which point, I stopped being interested. Sorry, but I can't begin to describe how patronising I found the "hun" bit. To a stranger and (presumably) because they had a feminine name. It's true how much patience you lose as you get older. (I've swallowed my dislike of the use of "Inbox" as an imperative rather than noun, so that is not my beef here )

EmeraldShamrock · 12/09/2021 18:30

Are you sure the post is from a male.

I was looking for a washing machine repair, a local man highly recommended.

I went on his page he had a cartoon profile photo of a woman in sexy underwear leaning on a washing machine.

I did message him to say how inappropriate the picture was, he didn't reply.

EmeraldShamrock · 12/09/2021 18:31

To add a few of the gay male teenagers I know use hun.

MrsColon · 12/09/2021 18:31

If it were a grown man (25+) I'd say avoid. Since it's a teenager - he's too young to understand the nuances of online behaviour. He's only learning the rules of social conduct (that are still being invented as we speak).

Luckily for most of us, we didn't have to learn this kind of thing in full view of society. Social media is really hard on young folk trying to start their professional lives - they don't have the maturity or experience, but all of their learning (and stupid mistakes) are in the public eye.

LaetitiaASD · 12/09/2021 18:31

I would seriously consider sending him a brief message - "I know you're a kid looking to do a bit of gardening, not a top lawyer, but honestly I demand a bit of professionalism with people I employ and you failed miserably with your response. I strongly suggest you think about how you address potential customers and perhaps take advice from older people you know. Good luck with your business".

Then block him as soon as you know he's seen it.

ididitsocanyou · 12/09/2021 18:31

I just got called ‘Mate’ on eBay and feel a bit meh. They presume I’m a bloke of course.

BlackTee40 · 12/09/2021 18:33

@girlmom21

I don't mind so much about the 'hun' because I'm assuming he knows her but I hate when people ask for a quote for any kind of service or product and they're not just given a price in a comment reply - they're told they'll be DM'd instead.

I feel like a private message makes you feel more pressured to accept the price than a generic comment does.

I always assume if someone isn't willing to post their prices (or at least a rough quote) publicly it's because they'll charge over the odds.

I understand that some people do it so they can't be undercut but it still puts me off.

I won't use anyone that does that.

PearlclutchersInc · 12/09/2021 18:34

That expression annoys the shit out of me but then I'm not a bright young thing any more.

ParkheadParadise · 12/09/2021 18:34

Probably better to cut your own Grass.

girlmom21 · 12/09/2021 18:36

@LaetitiaASD

I would seriously consider sending him a brief message - "I know you're a kid looking to do a bit of gardening, not a top lawyer, but honestly I demand a bit of professionalism with people I employ and you failed miserably with your response. I strongly suggest you think about how you address potential customers and perhaps take advice from older people you know. Good luck with your business".

Then block him as soon as you know he's seen it.

This seems like a really passive aggressive thing to do. If you're going to be that petty as to private message someone, it's pretty cowardly to then block them.

If you're going to be an arse you should at least own it.

LaetitiaASD · 12/09/2021 18:45

@ididitsocanyou

I just got called ‘Mate’ on eBay and feel a bit meh. They presume I’m a bloke of course.

@girlmom21

(1) Why should OP expose herself to potential abuse?

(2) Do you think that it is a good or a bad thing to give the idiot kid a bit of advice?

(3) Do you think that any good can possibly come from them having an ongoing back and forth on facebook?

(4) He has been downright rude and unprofessional - a bit of passive aggression in response (if that's what it is) is proportional. IMO

Dinkydonk55 · 12/09/2021 18:46

Agree that before you said him I was assuming a female wrote that

Crystal90567 · 12/09/2021 18:48

You're objecting to builders speaking like builders?

Do you only employ tradespeople who converse in the proper Queen's engerlish?

Pedants are annoying.

GreyhoundG1rl · 12/09/2021 18:49

1) Why should OP expose herself to potential abuse?
Well, she could avoid the possibility entirely by not sending him a high handed ticking off in the first place.

Poppins2016 · 12/09/2021 18:50

I agree that 'hun' is irritating at best...

As for "inbox me", this is a massive bugbear of mine. Why should you, the customer, have to do additional admin work... If the person providing a service thinks a private message is necessary, they should initiate!

GreyhoundG1rl · 12/09/2021 18:51

@Poppins2016

I agree that 'hun' is irritating at best...

As for "inbox me", this is a massive bugbear of mine. Why should you, the customer, have to do additional admin work... If the person providing a service thinks a private message is necessary, they should initiate!

Yes, I totally agree with this.

LaetitiaASD · 12/09/2021 18:55

@Crystal90567

You're objecting to builders speaking like builders?

Do you only employ tradespeople who converse in the proper Queen's engerlish?

Pedants are annoying.

I expect tradespeople to be professional in their work and in their customer relations.

I don't expect their english to be perfect in writing or verbally, but a bit of common courtesy is a bare minimum.

AlCalavicci · 12/09/2021 18:58

While I agree that hun is certainly not professional , what would you rather he called you ?
So many would get offended if he just used your 1st name as it could be seen as over familiar, and if he uses your surname and get Miss / Mrs / Ms wrong he will also be in the wrong

poullou · 12/09/2021 18:59

He has been downright rude and unprofessional

@LaetitiaASD Maybe read the OP again. The OP hasn't had any contact with the guy; she read a response he gave to someone else. Why on earth would she send your Hyacinth Bucket message to somebody who hasn't said anything to her?

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 12/09/2021 19:00

Wouldn't bother me. As long as they turn up and the work is good I couldn't give a toss if they call me hun

ParkheadParadise · 12/09/2021 19:03

This thread is fucking bonkers.

Icecreamsoda99 · 12/09/2021 19:08

I'd be put off by the fact he isn't up front with his pricing. The "hun" thing is used by a lot of people, and especially women to women so I don't think it's sexist.

UnchainedMemory · 12/09/2021 19:13

@Poppins2016

I agree that 'hun' is irritating at best...

As for "inbox me", this is a massive bugbear of mine. Why should you, the customer, have to do additional admin work... If the person providing a service thinks a private message is necessary, they should initiate!

The Facebook group may have a rule that sellers/service providers are not to send DMs unless in reply to questions, to avoid spam.

GertietheGherkin · 12/09/2021 19:15

It seems to be everywhere now... It's all this, Hun, Babes, Babe, Doll, Luv Sweetness, Chick, Pet, Me duck.

Arrrrrrrrrgggggggghhhh

Drives me crazy. It's patronising, unprofessional, over familiar and lazy.

5128gap · 12/09/2021 19:18

@LaetitiaASD

I would seriously consider sending him a brief message - "I know you're a kid looking to do a bit of gardening, not a top lawyer, but honestly I demand a bit of professionalism with people I employ and you failed miserably with your response. I strongly suggest you think about how you address potential customers and perhaps take advice from older people you know. Good luck with your business".

Then block him as soon as you know he's seen it.

Wouldn't it be amusing if you did that and he called you out on your poor use of language and ageism?

Icecreamsoda99 · 12/09/2021 19:34

*I would seriously consider sending him a brief message - "I know you're a kid looking to do a bit of gardening, not a top lawyer, but honestly I demand a bit of professionalism with people I employ and you failed miserably with your response. I strongly suggest you think about how you address potential customers and perhaps take advice from older people you know. Good luck with your business".

Then block him as soon as you know he's seen it.*

Don't do that, for a start it's an unnecessarily nasty thing to do, second of all he might call you out publicly about it on Facebook.