to not to want to say happy diwali to my mil as it is not my religion

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Yes YABU

I assume you wish her a "Happy Birthday" when it isn't your birthday, don't you?

YABU and a bit tit for tat don't you think?

BUt on your other thread you say she's unreasonable for not saying Happy Christmas to your DC, tit for tat often makes things worse IMHO?
If you think she SHOULD say Happy Christmas to you dc and dont see the big deal, dont make yourself as bad as her.

So we do agree on somethings NAB3 eh?

Sure.

Yes.

just interested

I get you

YES

unreasonable
and a whole lot of other words I hesitate to post .. so lets just stick at unreasonable shall we

why did you marry into a family from another religion if you are not prepared to compromise at all?

Twiglett is she unreasonable to not say happy christmas to my 2 small dc paople think not

YABU.

I wish people happy including Happy Christmas when I don't belive in religion at all. Its a celebration and its nice for people to be happy.

Well, she can behave badly if she wants but no need to drag you into it

Message withdrawn

oranges I ma prepared to compromise she isn't I posted another thread saying is she unreasonable not to say and to blatantly ignore a 3 and 5 year old saying happy christmas to her and got told told she was great for respecting her religion just wondered if it worked the other way round

of course she should say happy christmas to your children too, but it's becoming a stand off isn't it, and your poor children are being caught in the middle because their mum and grandmother can't both grow up.

they are not caught in the middle up till now I do say it but how do you explain being ignored by a 70 year old woman to 2 small children

You and your mother in law should respect each others relegions. You don't need to go to temple/ church with each other but saying 'happy xxxxx' is just common curtersy.

you tell her granny doesn't celebrate christmas and leave it at that. you don't have to make them with her happy diwali either if they feel that's unfair.

she should not ignore a 3 and 5 year old wishing her happy christmas she or you should be explaining to the children that grandma doesn't celebrate christmas and they should wish her a happy diwali / eid whatever instead of happy christmas

it is really not that complicated is it?

I just find the whole thing difficult she wants to come for christmas but then won't celebrate it

Your job is to raise polite and well mannered children. Their grandparents being ill-mannered pigs doens't change your job.

If my children are being ignored by someone they just go and find someone else to pester.

fgs. get a grip. tell your kids to stop. leave her be.

something is really going awry here

because Hindus are extremely tolerant and open of other religions

how have you got to such a stand-off?