To regret having a child.

[Changeychangey1234]

My DS is 16 months old. He's never slept through the night. I'm knackered- so knackered I constantly feel sick and can't string a sentence together. My DH is knackered too - his work is insanely busy and he's often awake in the night too. We're too tired to function as a couple. I miss him.

DS has 2 x 40 min naps a day and a 7pm bed time. He used to wake at 2am for a feed, then sleep til 6am. Not perfect, but not awful. Now, he sleeps from 7pm - 4.30am.

The room is dark and quiet, the temperature is constant. 4.30am is killing me. I've talked DH into doing the odd early get up, but I can't get back to sleep once I'm awake any more.

DS is very active all day and hates being indoors. The days are long and very busy. I miss my old life and friends, but I'm just too tired to do the sport I used to.

He doesn't go to nursery as there are no spaces at the moment that mean I can work (9am - 3pm only at this age - very rural location, no family nearby). I miss work so much.

@devildeepbluesea

I won't pretend to know how you feel OP, because DD was always a pretty good sleeper. But - when she started to wake early we did this and it was miraculous. I only did it about 3 times, I think and she was sorted. Worth a try at least.

Sorry I meant to quote the post about wake to sleep.

It's super hard, my youngest didn't sleep through until she was 6! Co sleeping and grabbing naps in the day when I could were life lines for me. I also worked 4days a week from when she was 10 months old.

My advice is sleep when you can and take all offers of help when offered.

7-4.30 sounds ok to me, sorry. 9.5 hours of sleep straight through. It's definitely "sleeping through" even if it's an early start for you.

My DC is 5.5 and has rarely slept more than that in a night ever and still wakes in the night quite regularly. Some kids don't need as much sleep.

You could go to bed at 9.30 and still get 7 hours sleep.

I think the bigger issue is you not working. Could you look at getting a nanny?

Try keeping him awake til after lunch then a nap, I used to give lunch at 12 straight down for a nap and then bed at 7 at that age. My youngest daughter didn't sleep well lots of waking and was a total nightmare for getting up around 1 till 4 and I totally understand the mind fog and absolute exhaustion. I wasn't me anymore as I had nothing left! One day she magically slept through and that became more and more once she got to around 2 1/2. It's so hard! But he will sleep through one day.

My two year old wakes up every hour or so in the night so I go to bed as early as I can. My older child started sleeping better (like maybe 1 wake up) at about 3 so it does get better, really since he was baby I have been going to bed really early when I need it.
I may have days or even weeks when I’m just not that tired and go to bed at 10-11pm but I feel no guilt at sleeping at 8pm when I’ve not had a full night for so many years.

My son is 18 months and has only been on one nap for a while now. He naps just after lunch and wakes up before 3pm (I don't let him go past 3). He used to be a terrible sleeper but sleeps through now.