pukkapatch · 04/12/2007 12:49
mine doesnt even say hello.
tbh, i think it would simplify your lives if your dc learnt that no everyone wants to amaglamate into the society of the country they live in. and that to their mil, celebrating a festival of another religion is blasphemy.
why cant she respect other cultures? that is not the question you asked in your title. yes, she should respect other cultures, andshe probly does. but that doesnt mean she wants her darling grandchildren commiting blasphemy. because it's very possible that is how she feels, andby keeping quiet and ignoring it,s he is actually respecting your decision to allow her grandchildren to celebrate the customs of the country they are living in.
convoluted thinking i know, but its the way that many people think. when my mil doesnt say hello to dc, she is actually not being rude, becuase in her culture, the young say hello to the elders. adn the elders accept it. i used to get really stressed about this, until i realsied that she was trying tobe accepting in her own way, even though i thought she was being rude.
goingfor3christmaspuddings · 04/12/2007 13:28
Your children only need to say it to her once the closest time they see her near christmas. She should show respect and say it back or at least acknowledge what they have said. Winding her up but saying it over and over is really annoying. If my children did it to me for a month I would ignore them too!
ColdPenguin · 04/12/2007 15:57
I would tell her that in this country we ALL have respect for each other regardless of age, race, gender, etc..., and that this includes not ignoring someone when they have spoken politely to you.
What faith you chose to believe in is one's personal choice to make when old enough. Basic manners is not something you chose to believe in. It is hardly ideal for such young children to be taught that it is okay to be so rude to someone just because they're saying something you personally don't like.
If I was in Bangladesh and somebody said 'Happy Diwali' to me, would it be okay for me to ignore and turn my back rudely?
bubblagirl · 04/12/2007 16:06
you say she makes your dc say greeting at set time to her family
it is not christmas yet
i know everyone says she must respect religion over here living here and all but we are allm individuals with our own beliefs and i feel that that should be allowed
but mannors wouldnt go a miss but if said continuously i'm sure id get selective hearing also
tell your dc to respect her religion and to tell her on christmas morning its only fair but i dont think yabu as i wouldnt want someone ignoring my dc a comprimise has to come in
mm22bys · 04/12/2007 16:50
Agree, it's not Christmas yet. Maybe saying Happy Christmas back to her DGC does feel like blasphemy to her. I certainly don't wish American friends Happy Thanksgiving, or Jews Happy Hanukah, or Muslims (?) Happy Diwali, because it feels fake on my part. I do wish people Happy Christmas though (but not on December 4!)
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