To think there’s not much worse than waiting for someone to pass away?

[TheSharpertheJuice]

My grandad got a cancer diagnosis last March and we’ve been so lucky that he’s held on this long and kept going while he could.

But now he can’t. He got taken into hospital yesterday, told he’ll probably not leave, and we’ve been told he has days left.

He is 88, his cancer has spread everywhere, he’s in so much pain and is struggling to eat and breathe. My mum and nanny have been to see him late last night on doctors recommendation so we all know it’s very nearly time.

This is the worst waiting game in the world- one we never want to come an end, yet knowing how truly unwell he is, knowing he’ll be at peace and wanting the pain to end for him, wishing that it wasn’t so prolonged now.

Not really sure why I’m posting- just in a bit of a limbo I suppose.

My dh died two months ago and I had to go through the same thing. Its absolute agony watching someone so loved go through so much pain and waiting for the end is truly awful.

I was also there when my nan passed away and I found that much more peaceful but dh fought to the end.

@sadsack987 @VienneseWhirligig we were told the same and fil was hanging on. DH and I popped out just to get something to eat leaving mom with him. We got a call that we needed to go back to the hospice right away and he died just moments before we got there. My dad and gran also passed in the early hours wheb the family weren’t there.

That feeling another poster described of wanting them to be able to let go, and then hoping they haven't, and then wanting them to let go again. And the utter devastation when they actually do.

You have described this exactly. I still cannot let myself think about my lovely dad as even typing this I am in tears and it is well over 3 years.

So sorry OP it is horrible to go through