Apologies as this topic has probably been done many times. I’m almost 50. Married 15 years, 2 DC. Nice home, both of us work. Both adore our DC and we do lots together as a family. But when it’s just me and DH alone..nada. We don’t socialise together, eat together, watch TV together. We go to bed at different times. We very rarely touch or kiss. Sex is rare. He doesn’t ever ask about my day though will listen politely if I tell him. He spends most weekends with his hobby. I can’t say this is all new or out of character but it’s slowly getting more entrenched. If I try to speak to him about it he says nothing’s wrong and I should get a hobby or interest of my own. Due to young DC and working long hours I hadn’t done this before but now the DC are getting older and I’m working less I’d have time to look into that. But is that it? We go our separate ways? Gradually become (or are already) just polite flatmates? I know he wouldn’t want to split up - we have a nice home and it would devastate the DC. But when they leave home? What then? Do I keep going like this, feeling lonely, maybe wait for a crisis down the line?