Is this sly? Aibu ?

[nerecdd]

Me and a friend both wanted a particular hard to find candle (I know first world probs )
I wanted a different scent to hers.
We had tried a few times and couldn't find it.
She said her cousin had managed to find the one I wanted but not hers.
I thanked her and transferred the £15
She said she would let me know when her cousin dropped it off.

Tonight we were on the phone and she said
"Sorry my mum decided she liked the candle so kept it"

So what happened was she would rather keep it than give it to me.
Nothing to do with her mum
Do you think it's a bit sneaky ?

www.fragrancedirect.co.uk/yankee-candle-returning-favourites-autumn-leaves-large-jar-6-0119601.html?utm_source=google&utm_medium=merchant&utm_keyword=foo&istCompanyId=17773c4e-a26f-4631-9b91-73e6422dbe77&istFeedId=44850d87-9216-4950-9ba4-a342d155463e&istItemId=ptmawqtat&istBid=tztx&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI4dq2p8fy8gIVi5ftCh3zvg4fEAQYASABEgJfcPD_BwE

www.yankeecandle.co.uk/browse/scented-candles/autumn-leaves/_/N-7t8Z1z13sz0

2 for £30 if you buy from yankee

OP just say ‘oh well never mind, would you be able to pop that £15 over’, then forget about it. I don’t even think it’s especially sneaky, it’s just a candle. She probably did think she might keep it instead, it was her who mentioned it in the first place.

I’m imagining her hiding her candle away in a cupboard now every time you go round. 😂 I would do big theatrical sniffs of the air, lots of Joey Tribianni smell the fart acting.

You transferred the money to her so tell her to transfer it back to you today. She can keep the candle but she doesn't get to keep your money until it suits her to return it, bloody cf.

@SolitaryTree

www.yankeecandle.co.uk/browse/scented-candles/autumn-leaves/_/N-7t8Z1z13sz0

2 for £30 if you buy from yankee

You should get the one your friend wants too. Send her a picture of it burning 🔥😂

lots of Joey Tribianni smell the fart acting

Well, you both wanted it, why should you have it and not her.

Can't get worked up over this one. Just get your money back.

It is a bit snide yeah, I'd probably let it go but keep a mental note of it kind of thing in case she does any more underhand stuff.

Seasonal duvet was the first thing I thought when I read the OP as well.

@WallaceinAnderland

Well, you both wanted it, why should you have it and not her.

Can't get worked up over this one. Just get your money back.

Friend wanted a different scent

How did you transfer the money if she doesn’t do online banking?

So you transferred the money to her? Then she can transfer it back, surely?

I wouldn't let this slide.

When will you see her next?
It's a bit rude to do that and hang onto your money until it's convenient for her.

[quote nerecdd]@gamerchick she doesn't do online banking unfortunately and lives 50 mins away so I don't fancy driving over for it.[/quote]
If she doesn't do online banking, then she will be able to do telephone banking. Tell her to ring her bank and the payment that way.

Cheeky mare.

@ManAlive24

Are you the seasonal duvet poster?

I wondered the exact same thing 🤣🤣

Even if she doesn’t use online banking, she can use PayPal, surely?

Message her to say ‘ooooh exciting news, I’ve found the candle I wanted. Please can you send me the money back via PayPal tonight so I can buy it?’

Thankyou il have a look now
I do online banking but she doesn't do it (so she says )
The person doesn't need to do online banking for you to send a payment to them

Also thought this was seasonal duvet part 2

Make sure you get your money back. She can use PayPal if she doesn't do online banking. Or go into a branch and deposit cash. Don't let her keep your cash and your candle.

I doubt you'll see that money again OP.

I understand the frustration now, I have 4 autumn leaves candles stocked up in case they stop selling it

Arrange to meet up or say you're driving past her on the way to something so you can collect the money.

If she doesnt give it back then she's not a friend.

You're the autumn duvet woman !

It's the same story

Pleaseeeeee get the scent your friend wanted!

Which one is it?

what size are you looking for, there are loads online

Is there anything else the two of you want to get now that we are approaching autumn? Or for winter?