To take my DD out of school for 3 days for this reason?

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Name change as prepared to be flamed .
Basically my husband hasn't seen his brother who lives in the Malaysia for over 5 years. So our 4 year DD has never met her uncle yet and we have never met our 2 year old niece. We planned to visit but obviously pandemic put a stop to that.

Husbands DB told us he is going on a business trip to Dubai which lands in February half term and would obviously love to see us all if fancied a holiday. He said his family would come with him if we came. My DH who is very close to his DB couldn't say yes quick enough.

However it now turns out that DB in law has got his dates wrong he is actually in Dubai the week after the school holidays. DH is now suggesting we still go but stay on a few days longer so DD will miss 3 days of school. So we would still see them for two days. Dd is in reception so I don't think the school could fine us but I still feel bad about it. AIBU to take DD out of school for this reason. If she was older it would be a definite no.

The other issue is brother in law should be (pandemic permitting) moving to Australia next year. So it's not like we could go and see him in the summer holidays. I also have a young baby and do not fancy such a long flight.

I'd take her out, they only play at that age anyway. 3 days won't hurt

Of course!

Of course it’s fine

@JazzerMcCreary

Of course!

Of course you should go, not of course YABU!

She’s 4! Go, take the week.

It’s only reception. Go for it

Do it honestly its an opportunity to see family its not really going to cause much harm. Although school might not authorise it just let them know.

I’m a stickler for the rules but in this case you should absolutely go.

Seeing family you haven't been able to see in years is a good reason.

(We have a 4yo and baby niece and nephew we are yet to meet. We don't expect to for at least two more years. )

Yes definitely go! I’d honestly let her miss the week

I would definitely do it, if you explain the situation, you would hope that the school will be understanding.

I don't know if you have booked or not but I'd go for the week and spend it with them.

Take her out. My word she’ll learn more with you that at school!
Worth knowing they can’t fine if child under 5! Which you’re DD may be if in reception.

She's 4, 3 days is nothing.

I also have a young baby and do not fancy such a long flight

Only you can decide on that one, but I'd say it depends on how 'hands on' your DH is. If he'll do 'his share' and acts like a responsible adult, then I'd do it, but if he thinks children are 'women's work (I'd divorce him) I wouldn't even consider it!

Thank you everyone! I was expecting to be told I was a terrible parent for considering it. Pandemic/no lockdown permitting I think we will go. DH misses his brother a lot.

I’d take her out, but then my kids perform so take time out for that, not always with the school,’s blessing

Could you even book the same dates that your bil is there to maximise time together?

I’d go for the whole extra week at that age, as you’ve said she’s in reception so you won’t get fined and she’ll have an amazing holiday with her family!

Of course you are not a terrible parent,sometimes there is things more important than School.

Go.

If she's still 4 at the time, the school can't do anything about it but still go if they do.

Take her out for the full week or 2 weeks that he and his family will be there.
Its reception. It really is OK.

Go, see family. Life is too short to worry about three days of school over seeing a loved one.

As others have said, school isn't even compulsory until they're 5. I mean, if she was 5 I'd still say your family event is more important! But hopefully good to know you're not breaking any rules.

Go for it.

I’d take her out. Legally she has to be in school when she’s 5, you won’t get fined and I’m sure the school wouldnt mind if you explain when putting in holiday forms.