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To Think It’s Sad for Someone to Show Off on FB

32 replies

CrispsnDips · 09/09/2021 11:40

I have enjoyed seeing the Back to School photos but why should someone need to position their children to the left side of the photo so that the right side can display, what looks like, a gleaming, shiny Mercedes with a personalised numberplate ? If you’ve got it, flaunt it, some say but it just feels sad that they have to do this..what do others think? I suppose it’s sad for me to be thinking about it, too 😄😄

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Recessed · 09/09/2021 11:44

My husbands aunt and uncle do worse than that. They got a newish Mercedes and had a picture up of them toasting 🥂 in front of the car but they had positioned the car in the driveway right in front of the sprawling mansion - except the house isn't theirs they were renting a tiny cottage down the road but drove their car into some random persons drive! Nowt as queer as folk on fb!

LegendaryReady · 09/09/2021 11:46

These posts always puzzle me. I have literally no one in my feed who does that. More likely the false embarrassment of "OMG look at the mess in the background"

Shirleyphallus · 09/09/2021 11:47

People can post literally whatever they want on their own feed

If you don’t like it, scroll on by. I’m sure people would judge you for whatever posts you put up too

TableFlowerss · 09/09/2021 11:47

People do it all the time of SM. Whether it’s showing of themselves and how ‘beautiful’ they are or showing off anything else.

Good old SM

NoviceGardenLady · 09/09/2021 12:00

@Recessed

they were renting a tiny cottage down the road but drove their car into some random persons drive! Nowt as queer as folk on fb!

That made me properly LOL

Imagine being that mansion owner, looking out your window and seeing two random people toasting over a car on your drive way

Cam2020 · 09/09/2021 12:12

My husbands aunt and uncle do worse than that. They got a newish Mercedes and had a picture up of them toasting 🥂 in front of the car but they had positioned the car in the driveway right in front of the sprawling mansion - except the house isn't theirs grin they were renting a tiny cottage down the road but drove their car into some random persons drive! Nowt as queer as folk on fb!

That's hilarious! Presumably people know them in real life though and know it's all BS?! Who are they trying to kid - themselves or people that don't even know them well enough to know its all fantasy? Why do they care so much? I find it fascinating!

WeeWeeWeeeeeeeee · 09/09/2021 12:21

Are you friends with Sheila Bloom?

Friday Night Dinner always springs to mind at any mention of a Mercedes.

Florencenotflo · 09/09/2021 12:30

Yes! Someone in DH's family did this yesterday! They have a lovely house with stunning views from their front garden, but they chose to take pictures in front of their garage doors with their 2 new cars in the background??? It makes me chuckle a little bit, they are lovely people but are very much into how things look to others and like people to know they are doing well.

SeriouslyISuppose · 09/09/2021 12:38

@LegendaryReady

These posts always puzzle me. I have literally no one in my feed who does that. More likely the false embarrassment of "OMG look at the mess in the background"

Me neither. I honestly wonder about the kind of person other people clearly know.

CoronaPeroni · 09/09/2021 12:46

@LegendaryReady

These posts always puzzle me. I have literally no one in my feed who does that. More likely the false embarrassment of "OMG look at the mess in the background"

Agree. My FB 'friends' are actually friends and I don't know anyone that shallow! If there was a strategically placed mansion/Rolls Royce in the photo then I think everyone would just pile in and take the piss!

careerchangeperhaps · 09/09/2021 14:44

Oh DSIL does this all the time. We've had the birthday cake, e.g "I'm sooo pleased with how DDs cake has turned out this year; it was worth all the stress and hard work!" (Cake was made by a professional cake maker but DSIL didn't correct anyone who congratulated her on her amazing effort - lots of "thanks hun" replies ).

We've also had the holiday photos showing a posh resort (she stayed at Haven ) etc

LegendaryReady · 09/09/2021 14:48

I did once have a customer whose company Christmas card was a photo of him and his much younger, very glam wife in front of the mansion and sports car collection. This was long before FB so it's not a new thing.

Gingerkittykat · 09/09/2021 15:30

I have one friend like this, we used to be close but the friendship has pretty much dwindled and we now only speak on FB.

Her best stealth boast was posting a picture of a crow on her driveway and saying it wouldn't move out of the way of her range rover, the whole point was to tell people about her new car.

Another good one was moaning about how hard her DD was finding it sharing a hotel room as she didn't have her own ensuite.

Then there was the time she posted about her son's appetite and how he had eaten both lobster and steak at the posh restaurant she tagged but was still hungry.

BloodyTinaNextdoorAgain · 09/09/2021 15:53

It depends on how the photo is done really. Some people just have nice things and can take nice photos. I have always been into photography so my sm photos might come across as wanky sometimes but I love getting a good composition. Would draw the line at passing off someone else's mansion as my own though
I prefer a show off photo to the grim backgrounds where you see people actually live like pigs. With rubbish and mess in the background. One friend does it all the time, photo of her latest expensive purchase with a pile of dirty clothes and filthy floor and work tops piled up with rubbish behind it. Yes, nice. How aspirational you are Hun

SeriouslyISuppose · 09/09/2021 15:56

Exactly, @CoronaPeroni. On mine you would get people saying ‘If you’d stood out on the road, you’d have got in the paddock/east wing/hot tub too!’

But no one I know would post that kind of thing anyway, so they never need to. I can’t imagine anyone doing anything other than laughing at them in the comments, or replying with photos of their wrecked Morris Minor or one of those scary hedgehog cake failures people send to GBBO An Extra Slice for a laugh.

EmergencyHydrangea · 09/09/2021 16:22

Jesus christ, so much pearl clutching recently about what other people put on social media

StoneofDestiny · 09/09/2021 16:33

Isn't posting on Facebook nearly always about showing off or flaunting something or other.

Stompythedinosaur · 09/09/2021 16:37

I think it's the stealth boasting that is most irritating.

Sometimes sharing news about your life is a bit boastful. I presented my research project at an international conference today, and I posted about it on Facebook. I probably was boasting a bit - I am massively proud of what I've achieved. But my Facebook feed is mainly relatives and a few close friends and I think they would want to know and would be proud of me.

SM would be quite dull if no one could ever post about their achievements.

iklboo · 09/09/2021 16:44

Every one of DS's has been bog standard against the living room door.

dorothygaleandtoto · 09/09/2021 18:44

I think the Christmas Eve photos of all the wrapped presents filling the living room are really vulgar. Usually accompanied by #spoiled

LaetitiaASD · 09/09/2021 19:11

@Shirleyphallus

People can post literally whatever they want on their own feed

If you don’t like it, scroll on by. I’m sure people would judge you for whatever posts you put up too

Pretty sure that people have the right to judge other people's posts, just as much as the other people have the right to make them. In fact one might almost say "if you don't want to be judged for your actions make sure you keep your actions private".

thepeopleversuswork · 09/09/2021 19:24

@EmergencyHydrangea

Jesus christ, so much pearl clutching recently about what other people put on social media

Sneering at other people’s FB is the new acceptable forum for snobbery and bitching.

So tedious.

DaphneDeloresMoorhead · 09/09/2021 19:29

Maybe they did what I did and forgot to take the essential "back to school" photo until child was about to get in the car, said "oh bother Daddy wanted a picture of you, quick get back out again"

TheKeatingFive · 09/09/2021 19:31

If you don’t give them any headspace, then they won’t have achieved their aim.

Scroll on by. Or block them if sufficiently annoying.

Hotelhelp · 09/09/2021 19:36

Urgh … people always use these posts to make smug comments about how SHITE your friends are. Some can be perfectly lovely and funny and kind but also a bit cringey and tone deaf when it comes to posting crap like this. They’re not mutually exclusive.

Also the ‘people can post what they want’ … well yes but people can also act how they like in real life but we are still entitled to judge them for it.

I agree with the OP that it’s very sad and very strange that people feel the need to sneak in these subtle brags and the outright brags like ‘new car day’ are even worse. I can roll my eyes at that while still liking them as a person and wanting them on my SM. Surely?

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