Taken me a long time to get the guts to post this as I don't know if I'm viewing this totally wrong or not! DH has a very well paid job, I work PT we have a young toddler whose been a terrible sleeper, I went PT as ive become very run down, we have no help and working FT atm became too much. I worry about my DD being an only as DH has been put off having another and point blank won't consider another. He likes the lifestyle we have and has said if we have another id prob have to give up work if we struggled like we have this LY to make it less stressful but would mean we wouldn't be able to go on the hols he loves so much or if we wanted that I'd have to go bk FT. I have a friend who has 3 children they live a few miles away from us in what's cons a less exp but nice area in my view, her DP works FT, she is a SAHM they have a much less exp house than we have but are very happy where they are and her DP seems very happy supporting clothing his family and she never seems to struggle or go without without not working even PT. My partner thinks they've chosen to live in a rougher area (it isn't rough in I'd guess many peoples views and wouldn't be to many! The schools are
All rates the same there as they are here! And they've had a smaller mortgage to be able to afford their family but they also still manage nice holiday at least once a year for them all. My partner misses his exp long haul hols and I'm just feeling like does he want it all! He likes where we are as ye says it's a better area for our dd and she will have a better lifestyle without us having to worry for money if we had another it would change it all but he earns so much more than the avg person round here I just feel he's being greedy! I see a lot of people having 2-3 kids, hubby works mostly FT and mum works either Ft or PT and they manage to live so happily but of course can't prob afford the big Lh hols but I feel like sort of lonely here also it's less populated and so worried for my DD as she's such an outgoing character she would have loved siblings, am I totally confused or is my partner greedy, so confused and im not getting any younger clogging on for 37 and at a point where im just questioning it all as don't want to cock it all up! Sorry if I've viewed this wrong I just don't know what to think about it! When we moved here I was naive to think as it's got a lot of fam homes there would be many families but there isn't either, only a few as most people here bought their houses yrs again with their families and their kids have grown up and gone it's got a very older population! You don't know unless you go I suppose but that's how it's turned out, it's a lovely place and has next to no crime but it also lacks some character and I miss being close to the town which he will
Not consider either a move to another estate close to town 🤦♀️😣