To not like other people's kids?

[needabreaknoww]

Can honestly say I don't like anyone else's kids except for my own. I don't know if something is wrong me or whether other people are like this?

In some ways I feel bad we spent Sunday with OH's nephews who are 7&9 and I just can't bare them. I'm polite and make an effort but I just don't warm to them.

I absolutely adore my own kids and love them to pieces. But that is about as far as it goes, even with mums at school they are always saying how cute DS is and how much of a heartbreaker he is going to be but I have no interest in their kids.

Am I weird? Is something wrong with me? I don't know.

No you aren't weird, people probably feel the same about yours - it's just one of those truths that people don't often say

Other people's kids are annoying.

As long as you don't expect those people to be interested in your own DS, crack on.

YANBU - it’s not that I don’t like other people’s kids, I am just a bit “meh” about them.
Some of my friends seems genuinely interested in our (and other’s) children and I often find myself wondering if they are just really good at faking interest.
I hope I don’t feel this way about my grandchildren, if I have any.

I don't think it's abnormal to feel indifference towards other people's children but if you actively dislike them that's a whole different thing altogether.

Anyway, this:

even with mums at school they are always saying how cute DS is and how much of a heartbreaker he is going to be

isn't a compliment.

I'm sure people find my kids annoying too as they bloody are but I don't mind as they are mine lol.

I feel like I can't warm to other people's kids, I can appreciate a cute baby of course. But that is about it.

Yeah kids can be quite annoying. I love mine, but any extended time spent with other people's is mostly tedious.

I don’t think it’s that weird. Going by the attitudes you regularly see on mumsnet, all children are deeply boring and unworthy of any form of positive comment, so it’s probably more common an attitude than we realise!

I tend to like the kids of my friends and I truly adore my niblings. But unless you’re actively hostile to other children I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you not liking them.

I’m a teacher and I genuinely like 99% of children, some whom I have known for years (taught their siblings and known them since they were babies) I genuinely love as you would family. Of course there are some kids who are annoying but most i really like. Children are much more likeable than a lot of adults in my opinion!

I've never enjoyed anyone else's kids until they're old enough to be civilised and have a decent conversation.I was very conscious not to expect others to enjoy mine either. I think it's quite normal.

I feel exactly the same as you OP.

I’m a teacher and I like (nearly) all children between the hours of 9 and 3:30!

Of my class of 28 though I’d say there are only about 3 I would happily invite home with me though!

I feel the same as you but also like my nieces and nephews because they are part of my family. It's the other children I'm not keen on!

Good job not all people are the same.

I like children. I like the way they think and can get on with them easily. My children knew they could bring their friends home, and as they have all grown up some of those friends have said really nice things about me, and that makes me feel great.

To each their own, but I actually do think it's weird.

I'm very close to my nieces and nephews and also my best friends' kids.

I also sometimes get random little kids approach me for a chat and I love that too.

I used to love other peoples kids until I had my own. I loved the kids I taught to bits (infant teacher then head of infants) but since I had my own DDs I sort of feel indifferent. I’m a SAHM now so not sure if I’d feel differently if I was still working. It’s strange. I love my DNs but other kids I can take or leave. I’d feel horrified if they knew that though, I hope I fake it well enough!

The vast majority of other people's babies and children are boring at best. Thankfully other people's teenagers are infinitely better than your own so you've got that to look forward to.

It seems to be a point of pride for most people on MN to make sure everyone knows they hate any child who isn't their own.

I find most kids to be absolutely fine. Aside from the odd one or two who are very fucking annoying.

Mostly I like them, but one or two I find annoying, usually if they're a bit attention seeking or not nice to my DC. I couldn't teach, I just know I'd be doing some of the DC an injustice.

@needabreaknoww

I'm sure people find my kids annoying too as they bloody are but I don't mind as they are mine lol.

I feel like I can't warm to other people's kids, I can appreciate a cute baby of course. But that is about it.

I honestly don't even really like babies. They have to be exceptionally cute and even then no, I don't want to hold them. Went to a family BBQ over the weekend and everyone was coming over someone's 18 month old. I just nodded and smiled. Didn't find her particularly cute tbh

I still thin my own (no longer baby) is adorable though. That's mother nature for you.

*COOING (not coming)

No definitely not just you, I can’t stand other people’s kids and just don’t like kids that aren’t mine. I was in the park earlier with my daughter and we were playing a game and some kid came over to join in, I was thinking go away 😑

I think it would br bad form if your dc picked up on it.

@VladmirsPoutine

I don't think it's abnormal to feel indifference towards other people's children but if you actively dislike them that's a whole different thing altogether.

Anyway, this:

even with mums at school they are always saying how cute DS is and how much of a heartbreaker he is going to be

isn't a compliment.

Yes it is a (fairly bog standard) compliment. Bizarre post.