The short version is that my next door neighbour has a university age kid who regularly has friends round in the garden and house until late at night. They don’t play music but the houses are very close and they are a large bunch who talk loud. The last time this happened was a Sunday night which kept us awake until 4am. The morning after that night I posted a letter asking if she could refrain from hosting parties on Sunday or a working day night as we had to get up early for work the next day (6am) and have small kids who can’t get to sleep because of their loud talking in the garden. At that time she came over to apologise.
Anyway today the neighbours kid has knocked on the door to announce that they will have another large gathering in the garden (practically under the kids windows). I said I wasn’t too happy that it was on a Monday night but obviously it’s not up to me but would they mind ever so much to go inside the house for half an hour between 8 and 8:30 so that I could get my kids to sleep as it’s hot and it will be hard to get them to sleep with loads of loud talking and if I shut the windows it will be very stuffy and hot. They basically told me no and they will do what they want in their garden and will not be dictated to. I reiterated that I was not trying to dictate to them merely asking for a neighbourly favour and again explained that it was hot, the kids just started school again today etc. They basically told me where to go
Should I suck it up, AIBU
Or should I be equally inconsiderate and make a large bonfire in my garden tonight?