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to feel ashamed of my behaviour this morning??

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happynappies · 03/12/2007 12:44

I fear I am - but look forward to hearing what other MN's think.

I was off shopping with my dd, and was circling around the child and parent spaces in the multi-storey car park, of which there are literally five. Instead of hanging back and waiting where I could see a couple were putting their child into the car, I carried on driving up and down the next 'row' to avoid 'blocking' the through-flow of traffic (I realise this was my mistake - I should have waited). After about ten minutes (literally) of driving around (don't know what they were doing!!!) they finally got their child into the car. I turned into the 'row' that this car was parked on, and indicated my intention to park in the space that was about to be vacated. I waited while the car reversed out, then swung forward. Then I noticed the reverse lights of a people carrier, and a woman sprang out of the passenger door and stood in the middle of the vacated seat indicated with her hands that it was 'their' spot. I hadn't seen the car until that time. I tried to go forwards, unsure of what to do, and the pepole carrier reversed further, almost hitting my car. The woman moved out of the way, and in my mind I was going to go 'inside' the car to overtake it, thoroughly hacked off but going on my way, then I madly decided that while I was overtaking it I could actually get into the space, so I did. The woman charged over to me and asked what I thought I was doing. I said I was parking, and that I had been waiting. Her dh got out of the car and they both continued to shout at me through my windown. They said they had been waiting and (shame on me!) I said, "That's life!". The woman then said I really was a bitch, looked into the back of my car at my 12 month old dd, and said "It's a shame for your kid, having you as a mother". I felt really upset but realised that it was my fault for allowing myself to get into the situation in the first place. Now I just feel ashamed of myself. I don't want my dd to see me as her role model behaving in this way. I'm sure becoming a parent has driven me mad!!

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moljam · 03/12/2007 13:43

this is why we now shop online!!

FioFio · 03/12/2007 13:44

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Misdee · 03/12/2007 13:47

tbh you are both in thw wrong.

avoid p+t totallym go to top floor, park near the lift and get in and out of the car easily.

even works over the xmas rush as people rarely use the top floor as its cold an d exposed. wimps!

NAB3littlemonkeys · 03/12/2007 13:49

You were a bit in the wrong but she was worse!

OrmIrian · 03/12/2007 13:55

We always go to the very top if we have to park in a multi-storey. There's usually plenty of spaces up there and the kids like going to the very top. I don't even know where/if the p&t spaces are TBH.

happynappies · 03/12/2007 13:59

Thanks all for your views. I totally know I was in the wrong, I don't know what came over me, and believe me it was totally out of character! I don't usually park in P&C - I usually park on street a fair walk away because it is free there, but this morning had just had a physio appt. and my back was hurting, plus it was raining, so I was thinking that P&C would make things a bit easier on me. I will avoid them in future because I had no idea things could get so heated so quickly. I wouldn't dream of calling a stranger a bitch, or passing comment on their dc's and their worthiness as a parent - I only said 'That's life' as I didn't know what else to say as they were both shouting at me. I know it doesn't justify the fact that I took the space that they had been waiting for, and I do feel bad about it. In fact, as I got into the lift to the shops I felt like turning back and going home, letting them have the space, but then decided I needed to challk it down to experience and forget about it. But - its not always that easy!! Its playing on my mind now!

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wooga · 03/12/2007 14:28

I'm not as determined as you-if no P& C spaces I just drive and park in normal space-can't be a**ed with driving around car park all day!
Forget about it- I know what it's like having a 'bad day incident' going round your head and punishing you!.

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