Wheelie Bin Princesses

[reallifegetsintheway2]

In my naice middle class area, there are multiple able bodied wheelie bin princesses who think that putting out the bins is a 'blue' job i.e. male (obviously if in male / female relationship). Worst still is those princesses who either walk past them when they return home in the car or with the pram / kids from school and wait for their (male) partner to bring them in. I admit they annoy me more. For reference, I do both, as does DH, and I am female.
Yabnu - it is a gender neutral job
Yabu - get a life, reallife

I voted YABU because although I agree there is no such thing as a 'blue' job (never even heard the expression) when I was married I got my DH to do because quite honestly I did almost everything else, it was a job I disliked and something with a hard deadline so had to be done the day before bin day. Now I'm a single mum I get my teen DS to help me with the different bin bags and boxes as I find it quite hard due to a physical disability but not one you would be aware of by looking at me. I always feel a bit annoyed when posters confidently decide there is no SEN or disability when quite honestly how would they know!

I walk right past the bins and let DH do them....he also does all the laundry so make what you will of that 😂

@reallifegetsintheway2

True x2. But how can people actively walk a bin and leave it for their partner to do? I couldn't that's all.

I do this.

It's because I've got the 8-month-old strapped to me and the 4-year-old in a pram, and by the time I've got them in the house and settled I'm exhausted and need a wee or a tea.

If I was a single parent or DH finished work massively later then I'd do it myself. But for the faff of doing it only for it to be taken in a little sooner I don't bother.

Dh tends to do the heavier and dirtier jobs purely because I tend to have more children on me.

It’s sheer laziness. It’s courtesy to neighbours to take your bin in as soon as possible. I don’t know any women who would walk pass their own bin and not take it in

The only thing DH does is bins you bet I walk past them

YABU - my neighbours do mine 😆

Eh what are you on about. People are entitled to divide up jobs however they want, stop being so nosey. This post is actually crazy.

My DH puts the bins out and generally brings them in but I jet wash them after they've been emptied.

My partner just rearranges them when I wheel them back in, so I have given up. He’s a bin bore.

My DH tends to put the bins out, as he leaves the house first, I will bring them in when I get home.

I've never been blue or pink due to my upbringing. I'm a mix of both. Sometimes he puts the bins out sometimes me. However I do find because of his anatomy he's physically incapable of cleaning the bathroom. When I moved in I did need bathroom trauma counselling!

I walk past them because I've always got my arms full of crap. My husband brings them in as he only has himself out if the car, its a sensible division of labour!

@reallifegetsintheway2 YABU.

I am one of those princesses. I will happily move mine out of the way of my car and leave them for my husband...why? Because I do every single other chore except cutting the grass and hedges (he does those because he likes to). I mostly put the rubbish from the house out too... And before anyone asks I'm not a 1950s housewife I just CBA with the aggro of moaning at someone to do something constantly. And yes I thought about divorce many many times but he makes a lovely baby

The men in these relationships probably do fuck all else. Are they also princesses for being on with their wife doing the dishes?

Hate walking past our bin, but often have either a child in my arms or an intention that precludes me getting my hands dirty!

DH does ours, it's the one thing I refuse to do as I do everything else besides bring in the big money. For some reason over lockdown he's slowly dropped most of everything else he used to do around the house so putting bins out and bringing them back in are his job.
We never walk past them though as they're in the back street and you have to walk through the shed to get out into the back street. My bins are always out the longest but the back street is only ever used by residents when they're cleaning or working on their cars so no harm done.

In my house its my eldest ds job and yes I do walk past it as otherwise i would be doing one of the few chores thats his
And the empty wheelie bin on the drive isn't hurting anyone

My neighbour brings mine in, purely because he’s out before me and it’s a nice thing to do. Never actually thought about passing judgment on people brining in their bins…

I can easily walk past a bin. I walk past lines of washing and sinks of dishes all the time too. I don’t gaf if my bin loiters on the drive for a few days and I don’t see why the biggest and strongest person in the house should take on the job of pulling a heavy bin 30yards up a hill. DH and Dss would feel like twats making 90lb me do that while they lolled around. Especially as I don’t get home on “bin night” until well after 10 and I’d be well pissed off if a literal houseful of able bodied adults and teenagers expected me to start faffing with bins. I am the shortest person in the house too and get taller people to do tall jobs. We’ve just redecorated our bedroom and I did the skirting boards like a champ and dh did the cornices. I also get driven about because I’m not arsed about driving and drive MILES for work whereas dh walks. It’s not the 90s, I don’t have to prove I can do totally basic things by doing every fucking thing while men get to do nothing but are hailed as hero’s for sitting in a passenger seat or watching coronation street in a face mask while their wife takes a plunger to the loo.

@reallifegetsintheway2

True x2. But how can people actively walk a bin and leave it for their partner to do? I couldn't that's all.

My husband actively walks past lots of jobs he could do but laves for me. I'm going to start calling him a princess

I think both the princesses and their husbands (Princes among men?) are happy with this situation because it means the man gets to do this one token "job" (which if you're able bodied and on flat tarmac is such a 2 minute piece of piss that's it's not even a job even though it pretends to be one) and everyone gets to fool themselves that the household division of labour is equitable.

I walk past the bin and leave it for DH to do sometimes as

1.) If I'm getting baby out of the pram I don't have the time to grab bin, go wash hands and leave baby in pram.

2.) Cba. If I've done XYZ cleaning tasks/food prep or washing in the house already in the day (on Mat leave) I just think DH can do that task, why not.

3.) CBA even more. I may be tired from running after baby and I just think nope.

No aversion to putting and bringing bin in or out. Just sometimes cba. Does it make me a princess, I don't think so, may make me lazy though!

I'm a princess too. I drive into the garage & go inside to deal with the thousand things waiting to be done. I'm too busy to sticky beak who does the neighbours bins.

Putting out & bringing in wheelie bins is the only job I don't have to think about because it's DH's job. If I start doing it it will become my job, like everything else. So I'll just keep ignoring it & stay inside to polish my crown.

DH has very few chores that he notices/does without prompting from me, and bin is one of them. I imagine this is how it is for many households, and thus this idea that women are precious and don’t want to touch the bins is born.

We just are happy they’re doing it. You can’t see the other 80% of the menial tasks being done by women. Sorry.

(Yes I do bring an empty bin in and yes I do bins as needed if he forgets. But I’m sure to the outside world/ nosy neighbour, it appears as if I’m too good to do the bins )

My dh does ours as I work late the day before the go out. Then we both walk back past them until the bin cleaner has been. He takes them to the back gate for us 😱