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reallifegetsintheway2 · 2021-09-03T15:07:39+00:00

In my naice middle class area, there are multiple able bodied wheelie bin princesses who think that putting out the bins is a 'blue' job i.e. male (obviously if in male / female relationship). Worst still is those princesses who either walk past them when they return home in the car or with the pram / kids from school and wait for their (male) partner to bring them in. I admit they annoy me more. For reference, I do both, as does DH, and I am female. Yabnu - it is a gender neutral job Yabu - get a life, reallife

Yaya26 · 04/09/2021 01:27

seriously? You spend too much time worrying about your neighbours bins and the division of labour in your neighbour's houses!

HappyAsASandboy · 04/09/2021 01:34

I drive past my bins and don't go back for them. It generally takes me about 3 trips from car to house to unload the baby and whatever else I have in the car without adding in an extra trip to the end of the drive abs round the back of the car. If I have an older kids with me then I might ask them to go back and do it.

I walk past them less often. But I still might, if I'm headed straight to the washing line and don't want to get dirty hands, or I need the loo, or I am focused on getting inside and don't want to take the bins round the back.

Bins, in their entirety, are DH's job. He knows when to put them out, he makes sure all the little bins around the house are emptied into them before collection day, he knows when the collections are delayed fir bank holidays, he deals with it if they're not emptied, and he deals with the excess waste it he forgets to put them out. He also brings them back in.

MrsClatterbuck · 04/09/2021 02:35

Dh puts the bins out and brings them back in again. I attend to them inside the house. Empty the small bins and put into outside bin. Sort the recycling which includes removing the stuff dh puts in which doesn't belong also sort out the food waste bin. I have a system for this. He has the easy part.
He no longer asks me which bin goes out on which day thank goodness just looks out the window to see what the neighbours have out

Darbysmama · 04/09/2021 03:55

This is the dumbest thing ever to be concerned about.

You don’t know the details of their lives or their division of household duties. I’m 34, very fit, and nobody would look at me and think I couldn’t wheel in some garbage bins. But the truth is I have rheumatoid arthritis and some days my hands lock up so bad that my husband has to pry them open and hold them there until they unlock. Sure, I might look absolutely fine young and healthy, but that’s how invisible illnesses work. You don’t know, so don’t assume. On good days, I’ll take them out/in myself. And it sure as heck isn’t about being a princess because, guess what, in my household my husband has to ask me where my tools are. I’ve put together every piece of furniture in our household, I’ve done all the painting and remodeling. Him and his buddy tried to move a huge gas grill one day and between the two of them they decided it was too heavy. I squatted down, put my hand underneath it, flung it on my shoulder, and walked it up to the deck. Shocked looks from the two of them. We have a phrase in our house between me and my husband: “woman up.” RA gives me some bad days, but when I have good days I sure as heck make them count.

I ain’t no princess. I’m a mother effing queen. 👸 💁‍♀️

MissUhuragotolder · 04/09/2021 04:01

Darbysmama
I ain’t no princess. I’m a mother effing queen. 👸** 💁‍♀️

👸🏾👸🏾!!

SD1978 · 04/09/2021 04:07

I'd imagine if you do every single fecking other thing in the house, cook, clean, deal with kids also doing the bins would annoy you if that and pissing around with a lawnmower or a screwdriver on the weekend is all your partner does otherwise. If you so household chores equally- the. Whoever sees it first should bring it in.

Marchitectmummy · 04/09/2021 04:42

Obviously its not you'd business or concern how others live their life, there could be lots of reasons why women are leaving buns to men to sort. I don't I deal with our bins but speaking to friends after reading this and more than one leave it for their husbands to do as they frankly feel they already pick up enough of the household chores. I suspect that's a pretty common reason and more than fair enough.

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/09/2021 07:10

@MissTrip82
That was a really unkind post to @Auntienumber8. Op is absolutely judging every woman in her area and has justified this by saying she knows her neighbours have no hidden disabilities due to the nature of their work. She clearly has no idea if anyone living near her has disabilities, hidden or otherwise even if she’s a complete busy body.

Auntie is particularly cross as she’s in pain. The last thing she needs is more judgment. I know chronic pain and illness difficult to comprehend but your post shows zero empathy - another blockhead just like op.

MargaretThursday · 04/09/2021 07:26

I do the wheelie bins. Does that make dh a Wheelie Bin Prince?

He does the food bin, which dates back 14 years when I was pregnant and threw up at anything to do with food.
So I claim the title Food Bin Princess

HumbugWhale · 04/09/2021 07:35

Dh puts them out because he thinks of it before me. He usually gets them in because he wfh so he is here to do so whilst I am at work. The woman next door does it because she is at home whereas her husband is out at work. Having said that I live in the sort of road where people do their own bin and do their neighbour's too, we have a lot of elderly people on our road so we all help them out with things like that.

3Br1tnee · 04/09/2021 07:45

@reallifegetsintheway2

True x2. But how can people actively walk a bin and leave it for their partner to do? I couldn't that's all.

It might be the only thing the DP does, so its left on principle.

KeyWorker · 04/09/2021 08:13

We all have different devision of household labour and jobs that just don’t appear on our radars. I’m one of the princesses you refer to in your op, I walk by the bin and recycling boxes week in, week out and I just don’t see them. The same way DH doesn’t see the dishwasher is full/ washing machine cycle is finished/ floor needs sweeping ect ect.

SkinnyMirror · 04/09/2021 08:30

You were really thinking that the OP thought that people with disabilities of a nature that made moving the bins painful or even impossible should do it?

But the OP has NO idea whether any of her neighbours have disabilities. She's being incredibly judgemental and is making huge assumptions.

Miniroofbox · 04/09/2021 09:05

@SkinnyMirror

You were really thinking that the OP thought that people with disabilities of a nature that made moving the bins painful or even impossible should do it?

But the OP has NO idea whether any of her neighbours have disabilities. She's being incredibly judgemental and is making huge assumptions.

Agree with this.

The op has no idea. I suppose my neighbours might just think I’m a lazy bitch because I don’t do the bins. They have no idea.

Onlinedilema · 04/09/2021 09:09

I'm always amazed that people think putting a bin out is a job.
Wow, you must lead a charmed life. How is it an actual job. Unless you live in a stately home and have to wheel your bin down a mile long, uneven, travelled path, it's hardly hard work is it.

Onlinedilema · 04/09/2021 09:10

Gravelled not travelled.

Miniroofbox · 04/09/2021 09:10

@Onlinedilema

I'm always amazed that people think putting a bin out is a job. Wow, you must lead a charmed life. How is it an actual job. Unless you live in a stately home and have to wheel your bin down a mile long, uneven, travelled path, it's hardly hard work is it.

How dismissive of those with issues who do find it hard.

Isis1981uk · 04/09/2021 09:14

My sister is one of those! She labels all household/garden jobs as blue or pink and I just don't get it! I had an ex-husband who was completely useless and if I'd have relied on him to put bins out, we'd have a landfill site down the side of the house! Then I was a single mum (for obvious reasons!) and had to do it as I was the only one, and now I have a partner who does his fair share but is away for work 4 months at a time so I still have to do it! I find it a bit ridiculous that grown women won't put the bins out, it is very princessy.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 04/09/2021 09:17

It's a yucky job. Our bins are well over due a clean so they are a bit stinky and dirty, its unpleasant shifting them about. DH and I avoid it equally and sulk when we are the one ending up doing it that week.

1stTimeMama · 04/09/2021 09:21

Doing the bins are my husbands job, I hate it, but he's away for months now and I'm having to do it. It's not that I can't, I just don't want to!

mumtoallbhoys · 04/09/2021 09:23

Maybe they have enough to do with the pram and getting the kids in. Maybe they do it later and you don't see?

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 04/09/2021 09:31

@Isis1981uk

My sister is one of those! She labels all household/garden jobs as blue or pink and I just don't get it! I had an ex-husband who was completely useless and if I'd have relied on him to put bins out, we'd have a landfill site down the side of the house! Then I was a single mum (for obvious reasons!) and had to do it as I was the only one, and now I have a partner who does his fair share but is away for work 4 months at a time so I still have to do it! I find it a bit ridiculous that grown women won't put the bins out, it is very princessy.

You don’t get it because you’ve never had it. There are jobs I really don’t like doing so my husband does them. There are jobs he really doesn’t like doing so I do them. It’s sad you don’t understand that kind of partnership.

Doris86 · 04/09/2021 10:42

I can’t believe some of the replies on here. I mean seriously, if you see something needs doing then just do it. It takes all of 5 seconds to move a wheelie bin.

SkinnyMirror · 04/09/2021 10:44

@Onlinedilema

I'm always amazed that people think putting a bin out is a job. Wow, you must lead a charmed life. How is it an actual job. Unless you live in a stately home and have to wheel your bin down a mile long, uneven, travelled path, it's hardly hard work is it.

I'm amazed at how many people can't understand that some people might find it difficult.

Some people are so blinkered and unable to see a different perspective.

SkinnyMirror · 04/09/2021 10:46

@Doris86

I can’t believe some of the replies on here. I mean seriously, if you see something needs doing then just do it. It takes all of 5 seconds to move a wheelie bin.

It takes a bit longer than that for many people. We have to drag ours around the back of our house which involves navigating a steep, uneven lane.

That dragging motion ( particularly dragging uphill) causes me significant pain.

Not everyone lives the same as you.