DP is very safety-conscious, and has decided that my Mum shall never be allowed to drive the children. If she wants to see them, she has to come to us.
My proposal is for mum to have the kids for the weekend, a couple of times a year. DP says no way, if she wants to see them she has to come here, or one of us has to drive them all the way there and all the way back.
It's a 2 hour drive, and my sister lives halfway, so the obvious compromise is for one of us to drive them to my sister's place, and then Mum can pick them up from there.
My Mum is in good health, has been driving for 50 years and never had an accident, but DP doesn't like her driving.
To me this feels really wrong. What's more, DP's attitude to safety is completely inconsistent - the kids are constantly doing stuff on horses as DP is very horsey. At one pony club event recently there were 3 accidents, including one hospitalisation, in the space of a couple of hours. DP knows how to mitigate the horsey risks, but 4 hours per year in a car with my Mum can't be more dangerous than riding horses two or three times a week all year round, surely?