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To report inlaws for tax fraud

115 replies

User112 · 01/09/2021 01:01

My inlaws have likely committed tax fraud on about 60k (in another country). It feels so wrong when so many hard working people pay their taxes.

Aibu to report them?

OP posts:
SirusTheVirus · 01/09/2021 05:23

Well you’re full of your own self importance aren’t you?

Back off and keep your nose out!

gofg · 01/09/2021 05:28

If true then I can understand how you feel - but at the same time I would advise you to keep out of it. It's not up to you to report them, and they well may be caught out anyway.

fallfallfall · 01/09/2021 05:30

so you've read pages and pages of tax rules and regulations and are fully aware of all the tax mitigation strategies which are permitted?
your use of the word "likely" makes you sound very naïve to the realities of legal tax planning.

SukonthaM · 01/09/2021 05:37

Oh mind your own business op. Imagine going out of your way to rat out members of your family 🙄

Balonzette · 01/09/2021 05:42

Also, can you imagine the Daily Mail headline:

"Someone on MN thinks their inlaw MIGHT have commited tax fraud in an undisclosed country."

Grin
Lipsandlashes · 01/09/2021 05:45

Please tell us more OP - the Daily Mail will be dying to know!

midsomermurderess · 01/09/2021 05:50

Find your own backbone. Why are people so feckless as to need strangers to tell them what to do?

SpeakingFranglais · 01/09/2021 05:52

Why would you start a post at 1am then disappear?

HoppingPavlova · 01/09/2021 05:52

No, general rule is you keep your nose out of others tax affairs.

PhilCornwall1 · 01/09/2021 05:53

Could be a case of tax avoidance OP.

Nothing wrong with a bit of that.

onelittlefrog · 01/09/2021 05:58

@gofg

If true then I can understand how you feel - but at the same time I would advise you to keep out of it. It's not up to you to report them, and they well may be caught out anyway.
This.

I get why you're annoyed about this, but I really don't think I would get involved unless I a) Had some very solid evidence and b) Didn't care at all about any future relationship with them.

onelittlefrog · 01/09/2021 06:01

@SpeakingFranglais

Why would you start a post at 1am then disappear?
Probably went to bed I'm guessing?!

I find it so weird how mardy people get about OPs "disappearing" from threads. It's the internet, people are anonymous and can do what they want.

drpet49 · 01/09/2021 06:26

** User112

Daily mail can fuck off**

^Then don’t post on an internet forum Hmm

Parttimemostofthetime · 01/09/2021 06:41

If you would report your own parents if they did this then yes report your in laws

Honestly yabu

whateveryouwantmetosay · 01/09/2021 06:45

Sounds alike you're pretty kissed about something in the will or you're contemplating leaving your OH. Either way, don't do it. Mjnd your own.

MeanderingGently · 01/09/2021 07:05

If someone has genuinely committed tax fraud, I would personally report them. Tax fraud is stealing, just like any other fraud, whoever it is.

However, I would want to be sure first; I think you need to be certain of your evidence.

On top of that, I would also want to be sure it was actual fraud rather than 'tax avoidance'. It is possible to take advice and arrange your financial affairs so that you avoid paying too much tax... This is perfectly legal and many people do it, although I personally find it morally doubtful....but that's just me, others would think differently.
Either way, tax avoidance is not against the law and not fraud, so you need to know your facts, as others have said.

Loudestcat14 · 01/09/2021 07:31

You do know this is a public forum and as such anyone can lift material from it? So telling the DM to FO is absolutely pointless.

AlternativePerspective · 01/09/2021 07:44

I find it so weird how mardy people get about OPs "disappearing" from threads. It's the internet, people are anonymous and can do what they want. I think it depends how the oP disappears.

It’s not uncommon for an OP to start a controversial thread, post an inflamatory OP and then clearly sit back and watch the whole thing implode. In those cases the thread has clearly been created just to cause trouble/to goad.

Threads started at 1 AM are often questionable, which is why people question where the OP has gone since they posted the thread at 1 in the morning.

Neither of these are the same as threads where an OP has posted about a situation where they need help, and has engaged, but where posters seem to think they owe them an update.

UmbilicusProfundus · 01/09/2021 07:47

@Aquamarine1029

Tell us you hate your in-laws without telling us you hate your in-laws.
GrinGrinGrin
Miniroofbox · 01/09/2021 07:48

What difference do you think posting daily mail can fuck off will make?

Marni83 · 01/09/2021 07:50

@User112

Daily mail can fuck off
The most boring story ever to feature in DM
Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/09/2021 08:11

Tax Fraud winds me up far far far more than benefit fraud. BF is usually done out of desperation and survival. TF is usually done out of greed and a cockiness of I’m rich I can do what I Please mentality. However I still wouldn’t report. Not only that but How will you look your DH and in laws in the face when the shit hits the fan. Knowing you caused the storm by running snitching to the Taxman. The fall out will be far too big. It’s really not worth it. Also you said “likely to be” which is completely different to with out a doubt I am 110% certain.

NommyChompers · 01/09/2021 08:22

Please report - for all of us who pay our fair share of tax!

butterpuffed · 01/09/2021 08:27

How does your DH/DP feel about the fact that you may be reporting them ?

Eviethyme · 01/09/2021 08:28

Yabu, obviously just trying to cause trouble.
None of your business.