Thread regarding guys asking for you to pay for food shopping/travelling arrangements

[Pebbles549]

Hi everyone I haven't been on here for some time but god I feel so depressed almost to the point like I don't want to be here anymore with the stresses of modern life.

I shall convey the situation to you.

There was a guy friend I was seeing who lives about 1 hour 40 minutes away. He has a car. I don't.

Now I paid for a train ticket to visit him at his parents house. On that occasion I sort of stupidly believed he had a spare bedroom but he did not so I sort of slept next to him in his bed.

His family were accommodating but felt his mom sort of mommycoddles him and his brother. The train fare was £25.70.

He has now got a new house however I know he has saved up a massive amount of money over the years. I am aware he has to pay a mortgage however at the same time he asked if I want to start dating him as in a relationship.

Now as I said above he lives 1 hour 40 minutes away and I have to sort of lug my suitcase around on to the bus, then get of the bus and go to the train station lugging it down steps

This guy hasn't one even offered to drive over to pick me up so once again I get the train to visit him at his new house.

I stayed a week. We got a little bit of food shopping in from tesco..hardly anything that breaks that bank as he has a small fridge. He never really cooked me anything special just a shepherds pie in the oven with a bit of brocoli and carrots but it was nice and i said thanks

My birthday was last Wednesday on the 25th and I had 3 days off work.

Did he come to see me? No

Did he see me over the bank holiday? No

I even asked him what are you doing on the Monday? Eem I'm not sure

But clearly wasn't interested in seeing me

So we then discussed me going up again this weekend and I said to make the most of it I coukd maybe stay a few days

But now he's starting.

He said just so yoy know I'm being cautious so I'm avoiding crowded areas.. meaning it's a get out clause not to go for a drink.

He is also saying he can't afford to go for a drink or anything to eat.

And now wants me to buy the food shopping when we don't even live with each other and I'm running round catching trains to see him

I'm pretty pissed off about this.

Cut your losses and lose him, he's a spongerq, let him soak someone else. If you have to chase a man he's not worth having.

@Susannahmoody

So you take the train for 2 hours to see him, sleep with him, then go home? And pay for food for his house? He never comes to see you? But he has a car?

Yeah, it's a no from me.

Indeed.

@Pebbles549 print this off, stick it to a hard board, or a tray or something

And bash your forehead repeatedly with it.

Maybe then it’ll go in.

He’s tight, and mean.

That’s why he’s bought a house but you’re paying to see him…

Swerve…

i think you should sort of dump him

So depressing - I'm glad you've dumped him. I agree with the PP about it being like a Mike Leigh play!

Glad it's sort of sorted.

Oh god get rid! He sounds awful.

Glad you have stopped providing a sex and groceries delivery service for the lazy arse.

Onwards and upwards.

Eugh, what has he got to offer? He doesn’t seem to bring anything to this relationship? Good for you for not putting up with it, he sounds lazy, tight and selfish.

(By the way, not sure if it was just a typo, but it’s “mollycoddle” 🙃)

Good on you lass ... bloomin brilliant 🎉

It's disappointing though isn't it, it takes ages to try and find who you think is the right one for them to turn out to be a mean git. Just my luck all round.

Back to the drawing board. He seemed nice to begin with and we were friends for a long time but he went and blocked me after I gave him food for thought.

Dump and run, life’s too short for this kind of shenanigans!

Oh blimey, I really should RTFT!!!
Well done OP! Onwards and upwards!