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To struggle so much with exercise?

56 replies

salviapages · 29/08/2021 18:38

I absolutely hate exercising. There is nothing enjoyable about it. My partner is the same but I have friends who enjoy various activities. They've told me it's all about finding a sport/activity you enjoy but I've tried various things and I hate all activities that make me so hot and out of breath it's just uncomfortable.

I want to exercise to get more fit, I'm overweight in my mid twenties and I know the fitter I am now the more healthy I'll be when I'm older, easier running around after kids in future, I want to be fit for more reasons than just how I look. Do I just resign myself that I will never enjoy exercise and will just always have to force myself to do it?

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icedcoffees · 30/08/2021 08:37

I walk a lot but I can't stand running or anything too high impact.

I recently started horse riding which I absolutely love - I go for an hour a week at the moment I have a two hour beach ride booked in for December with my riding school - I'm going with a friend and I cannot wait!

Would something like that help if you like animals? I don't feel like I'm exercising but I've gotten a lot fitter since starting - I spend most of my lessons gossiping with my instructor Grin

glasshouse · 30/08/2021 09:26

I've hated exercise all my life. I'm now in my mid 50s and beginning to creak. I've started doing aqua classes, aqua zumba etc. I can honestly say I don't get that horrible out of breath feeling but definitely can feel I've been exercising. It does take time to 'get' the point of exercise but I think I've finally found it.

Bluntness100 · 30/08/2021 09:27

I don't think that's true! Exercise doesn't have to be that hot sweaty thing to be helpful

I also disagree, if you don’t even break a sweat or feel hot then it will have minimal impact. Don’t get me wrong, of course going for say a gentle walk is better than sitting on the sofa, but unless you’re signficantly unfit /obese it’s unlikely to do much for you physically, unless you’re walking for hours daily..

Annoyedanddissapointed · 30/08/2021 09:36

Totally hate exercise. It's boring for me, I don't enjoy sports.
Only thing is HIIT because there is excuse ,it's only 15 min.
It does help fitness overall

Annoyedanddissapointed · 30/08/2021 09:36

*no excuse

AliceAbsolum · 30/08/2021 10:02

Commit to something for 8 weeks, then reassess. I did couch - 100k and the first 5k was absolutely the most difficult part. As you get fitter you stop feeling like you're dying.

WiltingWalli · 30/08/2021 10:06

I downloaded a steps app on my phone which seems to push me to walk that little bit further even if it's the long way to the bathroom

Sorry but this did make me chuckle! Do you mean the bathroom in your house? If so, how big is your house that you have alternative routes?! 😂

AramintaLee · 30/08/2021 10:25

Have you got the space to workout at home? I was a solid gym goer pre-pandemic but then changed to home workouts using YouTube and I've never looked back. I haven't lost my form and I think I'm actually more toned - not to mention the money I'm saving on gym membership!

I highly recommend Caroline Girvan for weight training and Grow With Jo's walking workouts for cardio. Literally changed my outlook on exercise.

pecanmix · 30/08/2021 10:28

I do weight lifting at home and I really love it. I don't feel silly like I did at the gym and I am amazed at how strong I've got in a short amount of time.

Twitchynose · 30/08/2021 10:39

Is there anywhere local that you can do aquarobics? Tends to be older ladies, but no one gives a monkeys what you look like in a swimming costume. Due to the water splashing about no one sees how hot and sweaty you look, or how uncoordinated you are! The water tends to keep you cooler too. You can really vary the intensity of the exercise yourself. Deep water classes are fun too (you wear a floatation belt to keep you from drowning).

Elvisinthechipshop · 30/08/2021 10:57

Would online classes be worth a try? No embarrassment factor if you do them on demand rather than live and you can repeat them so you get the hang of the moves. I do Frame classes - they have fun stuff like Beyonce Barre, Cherobics and Old Skool Bangers which sound daft but have helped me get fit enough to run regularly without it feeling like torture. Costs me £8/ month. I'm sure there are good free options too.

Shurl · 30/08/2021 11:02

I think alot of people who aren't used to exercise push themselves too hard at the beginning and so put themselves off. Particularly with things like running and cycling.

You should be able to hold a conversation whilst running for most, if not all of your run. (Unless pushing hard for a short time while doing reps or something). If you can't, slow down, even if it feels like you could walk faster! You are still building technique and fitness that will benefit you as you do eventually get quicker. Just don't expect miracles, but steadily chip away at whatever exercise you choose for three months, then you will see how far you have come.

idril · 30/08/2021 11:04

You don't have to enjoy it. You. just have to do it and get into a habit of doing it without thinking.

I run most days. Do I think "Oh yay, going for a run now!"? No, of course I don't. But I just try not to think about it and just get on with it and and then enjoy the feeling when I get back. I also enjoy getting fitter and seeing my times reduce. I don't get less tired over time because I just run faster instead.

You probably don't enjoy work either but you still do it. Just make exercise not optional.

Mercurial123 · 30/08/2021 11:11

Agree you do need to sweat. I can do an hour intermediate yoga class and burn less than 200 calories. A 45 minute jump rope workout and I burn 500 calories with weighted ropes going up to a kilo in weight. I also do cardio and weights workouts using Jillian Michael's Fit Fusion app which is only £10 a month.

Etulosba · 30/08/2021 11:12

I always get a bit frustrated when people tell you to find a sport you enjoy.

I hate exercise for the sake of exercise.

Nevertheless, I found a sport I enjoy. Shooting. You can do it lying down.

icedcoffees · 30/08/2021 11:12

@idril

You don't have to enjoy it. You. just have to do it and get into a habit of doing it without thinking.

I run most days. Do I think "Oh yay, going for a run now!"? No, of course I don't. But I just try not to think about it and just get on with it and and then enjoy the feeling when I get back. I also enjoy getting fitter and seeing my times reduce. I don't get less tired over time because I just run faster instead.

You probably don't enjoy work either but you still do it. Just make exercise not optional.

I'm pleased it works for you but that seems like such a miserable way of doing things.

Most people work because it's not optional - they need to pay the bills. But there are so many ways to exercise that it seems a bit sad to be forcing yourself to do something you hate for years on end.

Paq · 30/08/2021 11:16

I walk a fair bit, I have a dog and I'm a primary teacher so on my feet and moving a lot but never at a fast pace so doesn't feel much like exercise.

If you have an active lifestyle but you are "a fair bit overweight" then you need to look at your diet first. Have you looked for advice on that?

Having said that, strength and conditioning exercise will protect your health now and in the future. It's great that you have the motivation to tackle this so young, it will make it easier for you to make changes.

salviapages · 30/08/2021 11:30

Thanks for the advice everyone. I am working on my diet and have lost weight, I think diet impacts weight so much more than exercise. I want to exercise more for fitness, ensuring I'm healthier in the future, being able to do more active things with children in future etc.

I think you're right that if I make myself stick to it for 2 or 3 months then I'll get more used to it and won't dread it so much. I've found some fun dance workouts on youtube (Krya Pro) that I'm going to do, hopefully the more I do more simple exercise the more willing I'll be to try more things in future

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Lavender24 · 30/08/2021 12:13

Have you tried dance aerobics? I subscribed to Deanne Berry Bodies during the first lockdown and it's the only exercise regime I've ever stuck to cause her workouts are so fun and she's such a good instructor. It's a mixture of dance, boxing, barre, pilates etc and you can pick and choose what you want to do. I actually have abs now!! Try her Pump It Up workout on YouTube.

Honestly though a lot of the time I cba but I just force myself cause I know once I've done it I'll feel great. I remind myself that if I want to look and feel a certain way I have to put the work in. It's all about forming habits - after a while it just becomes part of your routine.

Bluntness100 · 30/08/2021 12:32

I’d agree diet has the bigger impact on weight, by a long way, I think weight loss is eighty percent diet twenty percent exercise.

Howver that’s a simple stat and fails to take some things into account

Firstly if you exercise one day and know you’ll do it again the next you tend not to want to “undo” the good work.
Secondly, fitness improves very very quickly. It’s surprising how fast, within a couple of weeks you will start to see a difference.
Thirdly, once you get into it, you start doing more, as your fitness improves. Becayse you can. And you’re pleased aith your progress.
Fourth, it improves your mood and mental well being. You can be sitting bored and lethargic on the sofa and just feel crap, like you can’t be arsed, but once you force yourself off your arse you actually feel a lot better for it. Then that cycles back to point one, you don’t want to eat shit and undo the work you’ve done.
Fifth, when you need to do anything strenuous, it feels good not to be puffing and panting and not feeling uncomfortable.

And lastly, this is also an important one. As you loose weight if you exercise, your bodies tones up. It gains definition.

An unexercised size ten or twelve body (or whatever ) looks very different to one that’s regularly exercised. The first can still be flabby, loose, flat arse etc, the latter with a toned defined physique ..lean limb muscles, flat stomach, and firm glutes etc.

Two very different looks, but if you’re remotely vain, then looking toned and fit is a huge boost.

HugeAckmansWife · 30/08/2021 14:05

I did a 6 week course of 3x45min sessions via zoom as during lockdown. The classes were kettlebells, squats, various forms of sit ups, exercise band resistance etc. Not really cardio, bit sweaty by the end but not like when I run. I really enjoyed it for that reason and I lost a stone. It's not a firm of exercise I'd done in the past and I really enjoyed it and saw quick progress.

NoEffingWay · 30/08/2021 14:06

Have you tried climbing/bouldering. I'm overweight and not sporty but have been going climbing for the past few months and I'm enjoying it so much I have membership and go 3-4 times a week.

ShinyMe · 30/08/2021 16:20

Life is going to be bloody joyless if you spend hours on end forcing yourself to do something you hate just because you ought to. Somewhere there will be an exercise which you enjoy, and if you can find it, it makes it so much more likely that you'll persevere and do it more often and for longer and not hate your life while you're doing it.

UnaOfStormhold · 30/08/2021 16:33

You might find it helps to read Daniel Lieberman's book Exercised, which has a lot about why we hate exercise despite the fact that our bodies need to be active.

OneTC · 30/08/2021 16:37

Exercising for the sake of exercise is utterly joyless. If you don't feel passionate about a sport is very hard to keep doing it

Also if cooking out is what bothers you then try and find something less aerobic until you build a general level of fitness