Why must my neighbour have her washing machine on so early?

[ohthatbloodycat]

Since 9am this morning, it sounds like a Chinook helicopter is landing on my bedroom ceiling. By her own admission, there is no underlay beneath it and the noise is really quite something.
I would sympathise if she was a mum who needed to get the kids' uniforms on to wash, and then hang them outside to dry.
But she lives alone with no garden, and no outside drying area at all. Her washing could be done at ANY time of day.
I've already mentioned this to her and it makes no difference. In all other respects she is a good neighbour, so I don't want to rock the boat.
I am a single mum of 3, who works hard through the week. My kids are at their dad's place for their fortnightly weekend visit, and I'd just have loved a Sunday lie-in. Not even the bloody cat woke me up this morning!
AIBU?

Littlemysister, the point is, 6am may seem perfectly reasonable to a mother of young kids if she's been up since 5, and young kids making young kids noises is something young kids have to do, surely? But both washing and kids playing loudly is better for everyone if done later

I’m going to buy one of those MyneAllMyne I had bought a mat it didn’t make much difference

Yes I would love to live in a house with a garden (especially after this past 18 months) but just can’t afford to

You’ll get all the people saying “I get up at 4am every morning, 9 is not early!!!!!” but honestly, I don’t put the washing on or use a hoover until 10 on the weekends out of courtesy for our downstairs neighbour.

She can be a pain in the arse about noise (once commented that we were “walking around a lot” at 7pm when I had just got in from work and was cleaning….) but generally I try not to do stuff I know will be loud before 10.

I still don’t think your neighbour is doing anything wrong really tbh, but YANBU to be disappointed.

But she lives alone with no garden, and no outside drying area at all. Her washing could be done at ANY time of day.

If you led with that, I'm not surprised she hasn't changed her behaviour. You don't know fully what goes on in other people's lives or why she feels the need to stick to the timetable that she has. So long as she's quiet between 11pm and 7am, she's sticking to the usual 'quiet hours'. I would just ask her if the washing machine is on level ground - it will prolong its life if it is, as well as reducing noise for you. And yes, ask about the noise reducing mat.

How dare a child free woman not arrange her life to fit your schedule. Surely she's got nothing better to do than crochet cushions for her cats and weep quietly about not having reproduced?

That is early for a Sunday

I'd be miffed off too OP especially if was looking forward to a lie in. Definitely get some ear plugs as suggested.

I don’t think 9 am is particularly early or that it’s really your place to decide when someone without children ‘could’ do their washing. However, could you maybe mention to her again about the noise and possibly getting an underlay.

Don't be ridiculous. The only reason I mentioned it is because Mumsnetters would reasonably point out 'but what if she needs to wash her child's soiled bedding/pyjamas/school uniform/soft toy that he won't sleep without' etc.

Completely fine in my book. It’s a normal household noise and she’s entitled to do washing. If my kid three up over their bedding at 3am - it is going on then.

That was @thecognoscenti
and the others who were offended by that particular point.

Just buy her an anti vibration mat to sit it on ...

Anti-vibration Washing Machine Mat 60x60x2cm. https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07JQKCB1H/ref=cmswwrcppapiglttfabcS9GNYFC2DYK9EWKHB0BD??encoding=UTF8&psc=1

*threw

@Wingingit15

Completely fine in my book. It’s a normal household noise and she’s entitled to do washing. If my kid three up over their bedding at 3am - it is going on then.

Erm, really? So who's the unreasonable one now?
I suspect there's a bit of projection from the 'I'll please myself' neighbours, happening on this thread.

Moves into a downstairs apartment...

Is surprised there is day to day noise from the above neighbour and complains about it.

9am is not early in my book,

I think 10am on a Sunday is polite. It's really rude to have a washing machine that hasn't been levelled properly on a floor with no underlay too

@thecognoscenti

How dare a child free woman not arrange her life to fit your schedule. Surely she's got nothing better to do than crochet cushions for her cats and weep quietly about not having reproduced?

😂😂

Yep you’d hate me as a neighbour I start work at 3am/4am and do my washing before I go to work. Sorry needs must. 9am is perfectly reasonable.

May I gently suggest op that if you don't like the day to day noise during waking hours, of normal waking life, that you buy yourself a detached rural property surrounded by an acre. But then I suppose the birds would bother, or randy foxes.

@OhWhyNot

I live in a flat

I don’t put mine on early or late

When living in a flat you have to be more considerate I hear my neighbours it’s on at reasonable times in the day my neighbours are considerate too that’s why we get on

We're the same. DH will often ask me if I know if the lassie next door was on night shift when he's deciding on mowing the lawn because her downstairs bedroom is near us and the strimmer is really loud and earplugs wouldn't even help. If we know she's likely trying to sleep AND he has the option (sometimes it does need done and he doesn't have the ability to put it off), then he will do it a bit later if possible. Close living is hard but it's harder when no one will bend a bit to be a bit more considerate.

Who are all you weirdos who think 9 am on a Sunday is not early!? I used to live in flats and in my block people mainly didn’t make noise til after 10 on a weekend, even those getting up got work were quiet, no loud music etc. Sunday lie ins are are really nice! When I had small dc I occasionally used to leave them with grandma so I could go out dancing on a Saturday night and I wouldn’t have gone to bed til 2 am! I like the sound of Germany, very civilised.
Having said that you can’t really complain to neighbour as it’s clearly not early for some! Having children has nowt to do with needing to dry washing tho.

@ohthatbloodycat do you think your neighbour would be willing to use an anti vibration mat and top of the washer pad if you bought them for her? Maybe turn that Chinook into a quiet whirring instead.

I think unfortunately when you live in close proximity you have to accept that there will be the potential for noise during normal hours any day of the week. 9 really isn’t early, if it was three in the morning constantly yes you would be fairly complaining but I don’t think you can expect others to do their laundry to accommodate lie ins as lovely as they might be. I’m not trying to be harsh as I have noisy neighbours above me but we couldn’t afford a detached home so it’s part and parcel!

If it's not a fitted washer, buy her some of the cushioned feet that go under it. They are about a fiver on Amazon. Cushion the sound and stop it moving about.
Then you can say 'i realise you have to do your washing and it's one of those things living in flats but wondered if these might help us both'