AIBU about the in laws trying to help?

[ChickenNuggetRose]

We currently have a 10 month old little one who's my entire world. My partner is 30 and his parents have kept pretty much every single one of his toys ever since he was a baby. Baby mobiles, travel cot, baby walker etc pretty much everything!

They keep saying they are going to give all of these toys to my little one and last time they visited they bought a couple of little things down which I just put straight away upstairs. They've started re-painting a couple of things (not with baby safe paint) and they've just messaged to say they've just finished varnishing a baby walker (it also won't be baby safe varnish)

They are quite big hoarders, they have a massive house and it's completely filled up with everything you could possibly think of. They keep everything they are given so I have no way of knowing if they bought all of my partners toys from new when he was younger or if they even got passed any of it as they always like re using old things!

My little one puts everything in her mouth and even when she stops I still wouldn't want her playing with toys that are so old after reading about the chemicals they used to put in them! 70% of older toys aren't safe today and some are extremely dangerous. I feel bad because they are going out of their way to reuse but I don't want to give any of it to my baby.

My partner gets upset when I say I don't want any of it as it's unknown what it's made from, but he thinks I'm just saying it to be selfish and says it's stuff that's sedimental to him. Am I being unreasonable?

I’m assuming there is a reason lead paint isn’t used any more and there are safety requirements for toys.

As another poster said it is the same argument with seat belts. We didn’t have seat belts in the back of the car as a child and I am still here so why do we need them?

Many older cots are unsafe as it was found some babies got caught in the gaps. All because there were no deaths/serious injuries in your family doesn’t mean there weren’t in other families with the same style cot.

While the toys will be fine, be so very careful of letting hoarders extend their hoard to your home.

Just smile and say thank you? You don’t have to use these things. If they are hoarders they will never understand the issue.

yes that's a case in point.
if the plastic handle on the parasol is disintegrating, and has been nibbled by mices, tiny shards are likely to break off easily.
infants put everything in their mouth.

some peolple seem rather blase about toy safety and child health.
the reason why kinder eggs were banned in USA was because an infant choked to death on the foot of a pink panther, kinder surprise.
they were still available in UK, but had to be labelled as not suitable for children under 36 months old. this is the danger of small parts warning.
but in many families there are also younger children toddling around, who may grab and explore child appealing items, including ornaments, and toys for 36 months plus age. infants explore by their mouths.
i once saw a young mother give some tiny used batteries to an infant who was pointing and wanting them, behind a supermarket checkout.
i had to intervene. and try to explain the danger. she had no idea.