To think this is a brush off?

[Geordieinscotlanddd]

Out for drinks with friends and friends of friends... Detected some flirty vibes from one when we first met but less so now so may well be in my head! We are both single

I suggested staying for one more small one (with the group so not just him) and he kindly said no, we should probably call it a night as it would then be a big night etc and we all had early starts the next morning. Was kind though and mentioned how “my enthusiasm was noted for next time” etc (meant jokily) - he enjoys a drink

I feel really awkward! Is this a brush off or am I just reading too much into it. I’m anxious post Covid re social interactions and eager to be liked lol (who isn’t)

Hopeful bump

Bump after 8 mins. You are well too keen lol

Hard to say, but it doesn't sound like a complete write off!!

Maybe just keep it friendly next time you see him, or......why not text and ask if he wants to go out for a drink with just you?
If you like him, and picked up on some positive vibes from him, whats the worst that could happen?
Yes- could be the start of something beautiful!
No- his loss....move on!

Think I’m just anxious! Lol

Sadly I think it was - if he wanted to get to know you better he would have stayed for one more drink. I can't think of anyone man or woman who would turn down the chance of a drink with someone they really fancied - especially as you were all already out. But don't lose hope, next time you might build on the flirting and who knows what will happen :)

Brush off. Sorry

Certainly sounds like a brush off unfortunately. I agree most would stay on if they fancied the person.

Yep, sorry, it's a brush off, if he was attracted to you, he'd have jumped at the chance .

But look at it this way, you won't be stuck with someone who thinks 'one more drink' will make it 'a big night' & needs his 8 hours beauty sleep, irrespective of what's going on

Count yourself lucky!!

Yeah brush off, I’m sorry if he was keen he’d have jumped at it.

@anon12345anon

Hard to say, but it doesn't sound like a complete write off!!

Maybe just keep it friendly next time you see him, or......why not text and ask if he wants to go out for a drink with just you?
If you like him, and picked up on some positive vibes from him, whats the worst that could happen?
Yes- could be the start of something beautiful!
No- his loss....move on!

Don’t text him it’s a bit desperate, he’s said no once, don’t make him do it a second time.

Yeah I’m afraid it was.

I won’t text him! Plenty more fish in the sea

So do I sound like I like him ie how embarrassed should I be! I did just genuinely want to capitalise on the night and was enjoying it

Brush off, definitely.

The way women over-analyse things makes me laugh. We men are simple creatures - very little we say has layers of meaning or hidden implications.

He told you why he didn't think another drink was a good idea, in plain English. It's not a brush off, just a 'not now'. Don't text him, for God's sake, but when you next cross paths ... who knows?

If you had asked just him, then yes definitely a brush off, but as you asked the group, I am not sure it was a brush off as such. However, I would certainly take it as a sign that he is not interested, if he was he would have been u for another drink.

I wouldn't be embarrassed, its not like you directly asked him and he declined. Nothing to be embarrassed about.

@LarryTheLurker

The way women over-analyse things makes me laugh. We men are simple creatures - very little we say has layers of meaning or hidden implications.

He told you why he didn't think another drink was a good idea, in plain English. It's not a brush off, just a 'not now'. Don't text him, for God's sake, but when you next cross paths ... who knows?

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Don’t be embarrassed it’s not like you asked just him. Even if you did it wouldn’t be embarrassing. Howver the point remains, if you are interested in someone and already out with them you’d say yes to staying for a drink, not make a lame excuse and scarper..

So take it no embarrassment required but it’s highly doubtful he’s interested.

@LarryTheLurker

The way women over-analyse things makes me laugh. We men are simple creatures - very little we say has layers of meaning or hidden implications.

He told you why he didn't think another drink was a good idea, in plain English. It's not a brush off, just a 'not now'. Don't text him, for God's sake, but when you next cross paths ... who knows?

Are you for real ? What a sexist load of old claptrap. And blokes also ask “do you think she’s interested” .

*Don’t be embarrassed it’s not like you asked just him. Even if you did it wouldn’t be embarrassing. Howver the point remains, if you are interested in someone and already out with them you’d say yes to staying for a drink, not make a lame excuse and scarper..

So take it no embarrassment required but it’s highly doubtful he’s interested*

^ basically what I was going to say. It's actually a perfect, non embarrassing way for you to have found out how he feels so I'd say you played it well. As you say, plenty more fish in the sea

I agree it was a slight brush off but no need to be embarrassed, an invitation to stay for one more is not a proposition more a potential opportunity for him iykwim.

I don't think we generally imagine interest though (quite the opposite) so your radar was probably correct but he might be seeing someone.

Someone posted similar but it was a colleague called Mark, can't find the thread to link it sorry. But yeah, not necessarily a brush off but don't be embarrassed.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4334629-Feel-awkward this one?

Eek just saw that was you too OP! Sorry!

Anyway, just wait and see